FIL wants to be buried in the homeland
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Spouse came back from visiting his late 70s parents during a business trip there with the wills. Normal wills, MIL wants cremation and FIL wants to be buried in an emerging market where he lived until age 24.
Spouse didn’t ask anything and hasn’t been to a funeral ever. I have and assume this is complicated and expensive to ship a body anywhere, let alone a non English speaking country. We’re not even sure he has a cemetery plot purchased. Or if the life insurance policy will cover the costs and arrange the permits, regs, paperwork, and logistics. And my spouse refuses to follow up on it with his own parents. Anyone have any experience with this? Maybe he didn’t really think it through and liked the romantic vision of it. Nevermind that he’s lived her for 50+ years. |
Anonymous
| Just ignore, nobody’s going to check |
Anonymous
| I'd cremate and spread the ashes in his homeland. Keep it simple as it's DH's problem. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
| What a weird idea. Do what you want. He is already dead. Who cares. |
Anonymous
+1 Just be nice and say you'll try to make that happen while he's still alive. |
Anonymous
| The place for the decedent-to-be to start would be for him to contact a funeral director, ideally one that serves the relevant ethnic community. They do this all the time. Depending on the country of destination one can need permits from various agencies, including in at least one case I’m aware of the U.S. Office of Foreign Assets Control. |
Anonymous
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This is nothing new.
Probably he will live another 15 years, and let your DH and his relatives handle it. There might be enough money in his will to handle it. |
Anonymous
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Sadly when my second cousins died on a vacation in Costa Rica (drunk truck driver hit their bus), it took over $15,000 to get their bodies back to America, plus embalmment and funeral homes on both ends, very costly permits and special cargo flights.
It sucked down over that from the life insurance policy and they had three teens who needed it. But I don’t know any people who elect to have that burial. |
Anonymous
+1 |
Anonymous
This is what my DH did with his mom. Too difficult to move her body. Her ashes were buried with her late husband. |
Anonymous
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It’s costly but actually fairly easy to ship a body internationally from the family’s perspective. There are entire companies that do just this, and all funeral homes should know how to contact them and set it up.
In fact, there are human remains on board many of the flights you take every day. If your DH wants to honor this request, he can. -someone who works in death care |
Anonymous
| Composting is also an option in death care! |
Anonymous
Not a good one. It leaves you with a truckload of leftover material. |
Anonymous
| Make a tooth necklace |