My husband has turned into an incel/troll

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I need some examples of this "hateful speech". I got called "hateful" by the PTA president for not wanting to mask my kids in May 2022. I also got called "hateful" on Facebook for all to see for sending my kids to Catholic school after that. That word gets thrown around to the point of meaninglessness.

Ima guess there was something about your tone and demeanor and attitude when you did those things.

And refusing to mask your kids *was* hateful because it indicated selfish contempt for those around you. People often interpret reckless, antisocial behavior like that as hateful, especially when forcefully and performatively displayed.

Not wanting your kids to mask is in no way hateful you dolt.

You're not the sharpest knife in the drawer, are you? The burned-out bulb in the chandelier? Read what I said again. The bottom line is no one gave a shit what you "wanted." Your desires weren't valid or relevant. But this had more to do, I suspect, with the WAY you went about expressing your invalid, anti-social, desires. That others perceived to be reckless and selfish.

So, yeah, it was hateful. Deal with it. You're a shitty person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need some examples of this "hateful speech". I got called "hateful" by the PTA president for not wanting to mask my kids in May 2022. I also got called "hateful" on Facebook for all to see for sending my kids to Catholic school after that. That word gets thrown around to the point of meaninglessness.

Ima guess there was something about your tone and demeanor and attitude when you did those things.

And refusing to mask your kids *was* hateful because it indicated selfish contempt for those around you. People often interpret reckless, antisocial behavior like that as hateful, especially when forcefully and performatively displayed.

Not wanting your kids to mask is in no way hateful you dolt.

You're not the sharpest knife in the drawer, are you? The burned-out bulb in the chandelier? Read what I said again. The bottom line is no one gave a shit what you "wanted." Your desires weren't valid or relevant. But this had more to do, I suspect, with the WAY you went about expressing your invalid, anti-social, desires. That others perceived to be reckless and selfish.

So, yeah, it was hateful. Deal with it. You're a shitty person.

DP. Lol you’re turning me into an incel. Just cut it out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I need some examples of this "hateful speech". I got called "hateful" by the PTA president for not wanting to mask my kids in May 2022. I also got called "hateful" on Facebook for all to see for sending my kids to Catholic school after that. That word gets thrown around to the point of meaninglessness.

Ima guess there was something about your tone and demeanor and attitude when you did those things.

And refusing to mask your kids *was* hateful because it indicated selfish contempt for those around you. People often interpret reckless, antisocial behavior like that as hateful, especially when forcefully and performatively displayed.

Not wanting your kids to mask is in no way hateful you dolt.

You're not the sharpest knife in the drawer, are you? The burned-out bulb in the chandelier? Read what I said again. The bottom line is no one gave a shit what you "wanted." Your desires weren't valid or relevant. But this had more to do, I suspect, with the WAY you went about expressing your invalid, anti-social, desires. That others perceived to be reckless and selfish.

So, yeah, it was hateful. Deal with it. You're a shitty person.

I’m not OP. And I repeat - nothing hateful about it. And wtf are you to say whose desires are invalid?

Oooh wait - a Democrat. That’s who. Do exactly as I say or get called every name in the book.

You can take your bs and shove it where the sun don’t shine. Along with your hate has no home here sign. Which I’m quite sure you display proudly.

[Anonymous]

Can we get the sequence of events? Was the husband an incel first, leading him to become a troll, or did the trolling cause him to become an incel?

[Anonymous]

Radicalization via social media algorithms. Life plays out like a Black Mirror episode.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think you know what INCEL means.

At any rate, bye boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I need some examples of this "hateful speech". I got called "hateful" by the PTA president for not wanting to mask my kids in May 2022. I also got called "hateful" on Facebook for all to see for sending my kids to Catholic school after that. That word gets thrown around to the point of meaninglessness.

+1

It would really help to have examples OP.

Disagreement is not hate. I’m very pro choice (for example) and I don’t automatically think anti choice people are “hateful” even though I strongly disagree with them. Some of them may be, but not all.

[Anonymous]

Usha, is that you?

[Anonymous]

Men are checking out. It’s more peaceful and fulfilling.

[Anonymous]

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Men are checking out. It’s more peaceful and fulfilling.

If I didn't want kids, I would not deal with most women.

[Anonymous]

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Men are checking out. It’s more peaceful and fulfilling.

If I didn't want kids, I would not deal with most women.

What is your movement called?
MGTOW or something like that, cause you didn't like INCEL?

[Anonymous]

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Men are checking out. It’s more peaceful and fulfilling.

If I didn't want kids, I would not deal with most women.

Most men shouldn't have kids, anyways.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to say without knowing what the comments are. Is he saying that bio-males shouldn't compete in women's sports or is he saying that women shouldn't vote?

If this is a drastic change, then take him to a doctor for a check up.

If he's just slowly changing his views, then talk to him about why. See if there's some way to meet on common ground before just divorcing. There are lots of couples with one R and one D. It's not like either side is 100% right or wrong. In real life, adults don't leave their spouse the second their views diverge.

NP. Every time there is one of these threads there are always these posters that really believe the issue is differing political views. If this is you I promise that you simply do not understand what people are living through. I've kept my marriage together, but just barely. I would love to have a political discussion with my husband, but that's not possible anymore because any such discussion will cause him to pretty much froth at the mouth with rage inside of five minutes. It's painful and isolating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's hard to say without knowing what the comments are. Is he saying that bio-males shouldn't compete in women's sports or is he saying that women shouldn't vote?

If this is a drastic change, then take him to a doctor for a check up.

If he's just slowly changing his views, then talk to him about why. See if there's some way to meet on common ground before just divorcing. There are lots of couples with one R and one D. It's not like either side is 100% right or wrong. In real life, adults don't leave their spouse the second their views diverge.

NP. Every time there is one of these threads there are always these posters that really believe the issue is differing political views. If this is you I promise that you simply do not understand what people are living through. I've kept my marriage together, but just barely. I would love to have a political discussion with my husband, but that's not possible anymore because any such discussion will cause him to pretty much froth at the mouth with rage inside of five minutes. It's painful and isolating.

Because he doesn’t know how to defend his positions, or discuss them rationally. He’s basing his views on emotion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's hard to say without knowing what the comments are. Is he saying that bio-males shouldn't compete in women's sports or is he saying that women shouldn't vote?

If this is a drastic change, then take him to a doctor for a check up.

If he's just slowly changing his views, then talk to him about why. See if there's some way to meet on common ground before just divorcing. There are lots of couples with one R and one D. It's not like either side is 100% right or wrong. In real life, adults don't leave their spouse the second their views diverge.

NP. Every time there is one of these threads there are always these posters that really believe the issue is differing political views. If this is you I promise that you simply do not understand what people are living through. I've kept my marriage together, but just barely. I would love to have a political discussion with my husband, but that's not possible anymore because any such discussion will cause him to pretty much froth at the mouth with rage inside of five minutes. It's painful and isolating.

I understand. There is a big difference between having political views and getting agitated about things. It’s also not a conservative thing, there are tons of militant internet progressives (inc. in this site) and some people who have no political affiliation but get into conspiracy theories, etc.

There’s something about social media feeding people rage bait from one perspective that gets people riled up. It’s a form of soft addiction.

If these people stop social media for 90 days, mood will dramatically improve. Doesn’t mean he’ll change from conservative to liberal but he won’t be in that drumbeat of negativity.

Can you make it about screen time OP and see if that helps?