Starting a new WFH job at 18 weeks and need to disclose medical appointments right away

[Anonymous]

You lied by omission 5 times.
Find a place for the scan off hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am beginning a new job at 18 weeks and I have my 20 week scan two weeks later. My Obgyn office doesn’t have evening appointments. I took the first 7:45 am appointment but work begins at 8 am and I will be in a training period for 6 weeks. I was told asked several times before being hiring if I had any vacations planned or needed to take time off because basically during training that’s not allowed. I will be working for a health insurance company and the job doesn’t pay well but it’s 100 percent remote.

Here are the options:

Present a generic doctors note my ob gives me

Disclose I am pregnant

Log in late during my 20 week appointment due to tech problems or something like that

Push back the 20 week scan to 21 weeks so I will work 3 weeks before taking a few hours off

The office is only 5 mins away and most appointments should be fast. I am considered high risk though due to prior pregnancies.

I was offered this job in early June so almost 3 months before it begins.

I do feel my manager will say no or ignore emails about a generic doctors appointment so I think disclosing pregnancy might be the best route. I’m nervous though because I will still be in the probation period. They could let me go and say it’s because of performance. If the manager asks how far along am I should I say?

You should have been upfront to begin with. Employers take a dime Biden if employees who lie and I would fire you for cause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Suing them for a slam-dunk discrimination case because they fire you is the best possible outcome. But it won't happen. They aren't that stupid. You're going to need maternity leave soon anyway.

Have all your communication in writing so it's evidence, and speak the truth without unnecessary detail.

OP lied to them and this is causing it firing. She also sounds flaky as a biscuit!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am beginning a new job at 18 weeks and I have my 20 week scan two weeks later. My Obgyn office doesn’t have evening appointments. I took the first 7:45 am appointment but work begins at 8 am and I will be in a training period for 6 weeks. I was told asked several times before being hiring if I had any vacations planned or needed to take time off because basically during training that’s not allowed. I will be working for a health insurance company and the job doesn’t pay well but it’s 100 percent remote.

Here are the options:

Present a generic doctors note my ob gives me

Disclose I am pregnant

Log in late during my 20 week appointment due to tech problems or something like that

Push back the 20 week scan to 21 weeks so I will work 3 weeks before taking a few hours off

The office is only 5 mins away and most appointments should be fast. I am considered high risk though due to prior pregnancies.

I was offered this job in early June so almost 3 months before it begins.

I do feel my manager will say no or ignore emails about a generic doctors appointment so I think disclosing pregnancy might be the best route. I’m nervous though because I will still be in the probation period. They could let me go and say it’s because of performance. If the manager asks how far along am I should I say?

You should have been upfront to begin with. Employers take a dime Biden if employees who lie and I would fire you for cause.

Dim view ^^ not dime Biden!

[Anonymous]

Can you go to a boutique scan place, on a weekend?

[Anonymous]

“I have a doctors appointment that I can’t move. I’ll be on by 9:30.”

This isn’t a vacation, and you’re not taking significant time off.

Frankly, if they have a probationary period, you’ll likely still be in it when you tell them you’re having a baby.

Why can’t you do a hybrid or in-person job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“I have a doctors appointment that I can’t move. I’ll be on by 9:30.”

This isn’t a vacation, and you’re not taking significant time off.

Frankly, if they have a probationary period, you’ll likely still be in it when you tell them you’re having a baby.

Why can’t you do a hybrid or in-person job?

Getting hired for someone like this would be hard as I will start showing soon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You lied by omission 5 times.
Find a place for the scan-off hours.

I think with pregnancy it's frankly okay to lie because otherwise you risk being discriminated against. At that time I didn't consider it a lie. They asked about vacations. They didn't ask if I had a time-sensitive doctor's appointment that would take 1-2 hours. I'm not paying out of pocket for scans and I do need to go to this particular place because that's where I meet with my high-risk doctor. Scans can be thousands. I also need to get my cervix length checked.

[Anonymous]

I'm really uncomfortable with the fact that you lied five times.

I'm also really uncomfortable with the suggestion that you listen to your training while getting a scan. Do NOT do this.

I vote for telling your manager. They probably wouldn't be thrilled, but I don't think they would fire you. (Pregnancy protections are decent.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“I have a doctors appointment that I can’t move. I’ll be on by 9:30.”

This isn’t a vacation, and you’re not taking significant time off.

Frankly, if they have a probationary period, you’ll likely still be in it when you tell them you’re having a baby.

Why can’t you do a hybrid or in-person job?

OP here. Doing something like this can get me terminated. I know it seems unlikely because a lot of people here have high-paying jobs, but that's not the case with hourly positions. I have been told over and over again you can't miss 1 day of training. They didn't say because we will fire you but it's implied. Do I have more protection being pregnant disclosing this or can I say I have a medical condition and a time-sensitive scan I need to take?

[Anonymous]

You clearly messed up when you did not disclose the previous 5 times you were asked. People have offered solutions to which you negate every one as to why it won’t work so at this point you need to accept that you lied and you will most likely be fired (not for being pregnant but for lying about availability).

[Anonymous]

Schedule the scan for as late in the 17th week as possible, ie before the job starts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm really uncomfortable with the fact that you lied five times.

I'm also really uncomfortable with the suggestion that you listen to your training while getting a scan. Do NOT do this.

I vote for telling your manager. They probably wouldn't be thrilled, but I don't think they would fire you. (Pregnancy protections are decent.)

Op. I can't train while I am getting the scan. Probably impossible during week 3 but who knows? Sometimes during the first week, it's busy work. I don't consider it a "lie". You can disclose a disability and that's what pregnancy is after you're hired for this very reason. The start date for my job was also pushed back by more than a month. I haven't begun the job yet and I do not feel comfortable emailing my manager before I begin to disclose any of this.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your OB. Say that their usual scan hours don’t fit your new work schedule because of this mandatory training and ask for a referral to another place that offers evening/weekend hours. Or ask if they can accommodate an evening/weekend appointment this one time. If you have to pay out of pocket at a different place, it’s better and less expensive than getting fired.

[Anonymous]

You should not have lied 5 prior times.