Do you think most men who travel a lot cheat?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I doubt more than 20% does.

If you believe statistics, more than 20% of people cheat. The number has got to be higher among people who travel all the time. This isn’t to say that everyone who travels a lot cheats, but like a PP said, people who want to cheat probably go for high travel jobs and they just have more opportunity to mess around.

[Anonymous]

I worked in a DOJ litigating division for many years and we were on travel all the damn time. The men who cheated were cheating at home (one of them with another person -- actually now that I think about it, a couple of people -- in our office), not while out on the road.

[Anonymous]

When I used to travel we'd spend the day working, have a team dinner, then spend the evening planning the next day. There was no time to mess around. Maybe it's just the field I'm in.

[Anonymous]

Yes I’d say the proportion is high. The 80% poster is probably right. I’m female and have been travelling weekly for 15 years. There is so much opportunity- lots of dinners, nice hotels, late nights. Even women that track their husbands on their iPhones would find their husbands are where they are supposed to be at night - in their hotel rooms. But it doesn’t mean they don’t have someone with them.

[Anonymous]

The logistics make it easy -- hotel room, other people in your industry staying there too, open bar happy hours during the conference. That doesn't mean it will happen, just that it makes it possible for those who want to.

Certainly easier than working from home all day.

I travel a few times a year but I just like getting away from family and being on my own for a few days, and meeting new people in the industry. It's possible to do all this and not cheat.

[Anonymous]

Ive traveled for work for 20 years. There was only ever one coworkers I’ve wondered about whether he was cheating on his wife. The great majority of frequent travelers don’t enjoy it and can’t wait to get back to the family. There are some that do enjoy the break but they tend to order room service and veg in front of the TV in peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ive traveled for work for 20 years. There was only ever one coworkers I’ve wondered about whether he was cheating on his wife. The great majority of frequent travelers don’t enjoy it and can’t wait to get back to the family. There are some that do enjoy the break but they tend to order room service and veg in front of the TV in peace.

You must work with boring people. We definitely work hard and party hard.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ive traveled for work for 20 years. There was only ever one coworkers I’ve wondered about whether he was cheating on his wife. The great majority of frequent travelers don’t enjoy it and can’t wait to get back to the family. There are some that do enjoy the break but they tend to order room service and veg in front of the TV in peace.

You must work with boring people. We definitely work hard and party hard.

Probably true. Certainly wouldn’t trade it for alcohol and hookups with colleagues.

[Anonymous]

I traveled a ton over 35+ years and I rarely saw people cheating. I’m sure it happened but cheaters don’t wear signs. There were plenty of opportunities for both men and women.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Honestly if you are happy at home you aren’t taking jobs where you have to be away a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I traveled a ton over 35+ years and I rarely saw people cheating. I’m sure it happened but cheaters don’t wear signs. There were plenty of opportunities for both men and women.

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[Anonymous]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here and unfortunately yes. There’s a guy in our neighborhood, we’re all friends and our kids play occasionally. He’s in sales and travels a lot. He’s always complained about his wife on guys nights that they fight a lot, don’t have much in common and he’s not attracted to her anymore after 10 years. But I was shocked when he recently let it slip after a few too many drinks that he’s had flings on more than one occasion while out of town. Could never imagine doing this to my own wife, I’d rather just divorce.

That’s really the point: why get married if you want to sleep with random people?

And then point two: get a divorce if you are unhappy in marriage. Let your spouse find happiness or at least have the ability to choose their own life.

[Anonymous]

My Dad was one. He was a director and then COO of an oil company and traveled a lot domestically and internationally. It was sad. I knew as a child his interest was not my Mom, brother or I. He also was a drinker so I think that might have played a part but he was basically just an egotistical a hole. The worst is when I had a sleepover while my Mom was carrying my brother and my Dad was home when the Mom came and I openly watched my Dad flirt with this Mom. Ugh! Please do not be the sleazebag my Dad was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ive traveled for work for 20 years. There was only ever one coworkers I’ve wondered about whether he was cheating on his wife. The great majority of frequent travelers don’t enjoy it and can’t wait to get back to the family. There are some that do enjoy the break but they tend to order room service and veg in front of the TV in peace.

You must work with boring people. We definitely work hard and party hard.

Boring or kind of pathetic? If you are over 30 or have a family, the "work hard party hard" way of life just screams desperately trying to re-live your glory days. At some point maybe you will see the value in taking care of your health and deepening relationships with loved ones instead of numbing your boredom and gaining the approval of people who don't actually care about you.