Should I hit the gym and work on myself before trying old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were to put your current photos up wearing your everyday wardrobe, would you be interested in the men at a similar level of physical attractiveness? If not, go to the gym. If yes why not start now.

Men don’t always pursue similar level of physical attractiveness. They aim to overshoot their coverage all the time. Even the less-than-10 guys think they deserve a 10 woman.

If she starts now she will get the men that are okay with her “now” look. If she was more toned and looked more athletic, she’ll get the men who prefer that look.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am going to offer some serious advice.

First, always remember that you are more than your physical appearance.

Second, when you get rejected by some men you like, keep in mind that men are varied in their preferences. You can't possibly please all men, but you can please some of them. You don't need or want all of them.

Third, honesty is the way to go. No problem showing skinny photos from a few years ago, as long as you also show heavier photos and explain your current situation (gained weight but working hard to get in shape and back to your old weight).

I'm a man.

Lol. Pretty obvious that a man has entered the chat when you see advice to provide an explanation regarding your weight along with an assurance that you are working hard to get into better shape.

Sigh.

I'm the man who wrote that. I don't think that men are that much more appearance conscious than women. Also, my dating life improves a lot after I lost a lot of weight. Some women were interested when I was heavy but far more were interested when I was height weight proportional.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

Hey, the OP asked for opinions on how to gain male attention. And he will never know how great you are "on the inside" if you are a fat slob who dresses poorly.

And that fact is that fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside, because their appearance reflects their negative attitude and low self-esteem.

So much venom in this post. What happened to you to have this much hate in you?

Any accurate male observation about female behavior or psychology is invariably dismissed as “hate”.

This is a reminder that women do not actually want genuine male opinions, they just want their own opinions repeated back to them in a deeper voice.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely.

[Anonymous]

Do not catfish. Get in shape first.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

Hey, the OP asked for opinions on how to gain male attention. And he will never know how great you are "on the inside" if you are a fat slob who dresses poorly.

And that fact is that fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside, because their appearance reflects their negative attitude and low self-esteem.

This is harsh, but somewhat true. I keep myself in shape and wear clothes which flatter my figure because I want to look and feel attractive. Thinking about being intimate with a man motivates me to keep up my efforts. I want to look good naked. I would feel self conscious and not into it if I were sloppy looking.

[Anonymous]

Get a make gym partner they are the best! They will hold you accountable and not sugar coat anything about you getting in shape and tell you as you look good and help with with confidence. Serious gym bros make good work out partners.

[Anonymous]

Do it for yourself, not for someone else. Once you’ve done it your confidence will have you ready for dating.

[Anonymous]

I would get into good enough shape that I feel confident and sexy. You attract what you put out there, and since I wouldn't want to date an overweight man, I don't put myself out there when I'm an overweight woman. Put your best foot forward!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:105 is still kinda fat, do you have anything before you broke 100?

How is 105 fat? You must be a troll.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

Hey, the OP asked for opinions on how to gain male attention. And he will never know how great you are "on the inside" if you are a fat slob who dresses poorly.

And that fact is that fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside, because their appearance reflects their negative attitude and low self-esteem.

So much venom in this post. What happened to you to have this much hate in you?

Any accurate male observation about female behavior or psychology is invariably dismissed as “hate”.

This is a reminder that women do not actually want genuine male opinions, they just want their own opinions repeated back to them in a deeper voice.

I don't think "defective fat slob" qualifies as a genuine male opinion, troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

Hey, the OP asked for opinions on how to gain male attention. And he will never know how great you are "on the inside" if you are a fat slob who dresses poorly.

And that fact is that fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside, because their appearance reflects their negative attitude and low self-esteem.

This is harsh, but somewhat true. I keep myself in shape and wear clothes which flatter my figure because I want to look and feel attractive. Thinking about being intimate with a man motivates me to keep up my efforts. I want to look good naked. I would feel self conscious and not into it if I were sloppy looking.

You do know that clothing doesnt make you look good naked right

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a make gym partner they are the best! They will hold you accountable and not sugar coat anything about you getting in shape and tell you as you look good and help with with confidence. Serious gym bros make good work out partners.

Serious question: where does one get one of these?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

Hey, the OP asked for opinions on how to gain male attention. And he will never know how great you are "on the inside" if you are a fat slob who dresses poorly.

And that fact is that fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside, because their appearance reflects their negative attitude and low self-esteem.

So much venom in this post. What happened to you to have this much hate in you?

Any accurate male observation about female behavior or psychology is invariably dismissed as “hate”.

This is a reminder that women do not actually want genuine male opinions, they just want their own opinions repeated back to them in a deeper voice.

I don't think "defective fat slob" qualifies as a genuine male opinion, troll.

"Don't be a defective fat slob" is a genuine male opinion because it is forthright, not sugar coated, and tells you exactly what men want.

In contrast, the previous blather along the lines of "forget about what men want, he should love the person on the inside even if you are fat and poorly dressed" is a typically female passive-aggressive effort to sabotage another woman and discourage her from doing what it takes to be attractive to men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

Hey, the OP asked for opinions on how to gain male attention. And he will never know how great you are "on the inside" if you are a fat slob who dresses poorly.

And that fact is that fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside, because their appearance reflects their negative attitude and low self-esteem.

So much venom in this post. What happened to you to have this much hate in you?

Any accurate male observation about female behavior or psychology is invariably dismissed as “hate”.

This is a reminder that women do not actually want genuine male opinions, they just want their own opinions repeated back to them in a deeper voice.

I don't think "defective fat slob" qualifies as a genuine male opinion, troll.

"Don't be a defective fat slob" is a genuine male opinion because it is forthright, not sugar coated, and tells you exactly what men want.

In contrast, the previous blather along the lines of "forget about what men want, he should love the person on the inside even if you are fat and poorly dressed" is a typically female passive-aggressive effort to sabotage another woman and discourage her from doing what it takes to be attractive to men.

"fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside"
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