Should I hit the gym and work on myself before trying old?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t catfish. Get in shape, hire a stylist and present the new you. This will only take a few months and you will feel good about yourself.

Yes to getting in shape. No to the stylist. Many pressure you to drop money on a huge wardrobe. Some of them create frumpy looks too.

Do get your colors done and get a sense of what looks get compliments. Add new pieces one by one.

[Anonymous]

I am glad I am not a woman. The amount of pressure women are under to look a certain way is crazy. As a man I keep myself healthy and in good shape. It seems to me that even single men who are out of shape and dress terribly don't have a lot of trouble attracting descent women. Now that women are financially independent, I wonder what is the value of man to a woman? The guys who are sloppy and out of shape still think they don't have to make much effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am glad I am not a woman. The amount of pressure women are under to look a certain way is crazy. As a man I keep myself healthy and in good shape. It seems to me that even single men who are out of shape and dress terribly don't have a lot of trouble attracting descent women. Now that women are financially independent, I wonder what is the value of man to a woman? The guys who are sloppy and out of shape still think they don't have to make much effort.

Those out of shape men you are talking about are probably doing really well financially. Women won't admit it, but they will compromise far more than men to be with a guy that's doing well financially. Men, for reasons I don't always understand, even when very wealthy will not only date but stupidly marry seriously broke women. Women do not marry broke men. The ones who do were loved bombed to death and lost it...

[Anonymous]

I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

[Anonymous]

You can find a man at any weight. For proof go to any Wal-Mart or Midwest airport.

However, your insecurity will attract love on era and narcissists. So work on your confidence and mental health more than your outsides before dating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am glad I am not a woman. The amount of pressure women are under to look a certain way is crazy. As a man I keep myself healthy and in good shape. It seems to me that even single men who are out of shape and dress terribly don't have a lot of trouble attracting descent women. Now that women are financially independent, I wonder what is the value of man to a woman? The guys who are sloppy and out of shape still think they don't have to make much effort.

Those out of shape men you are talking about are probably doing really well financially. Women won't admit it, but they will compromise far more than men to be with a guy that's doing well financially. Men, for reasons I don't always understand, even when very wealthy will not only date but stupidly marry seriously broke women. Women do not marry broke men. The ones who do were loved bombed to death and lost it...

It’s well-known that broke men are the best in bed. They have to be!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am glad I am not a woman. The amount of pressure women are under to look a certain way is crazy. As a man I keep myself healthy and in good shape. It seems to me that even single men who are out of shape and dress terribly don't have a lot of trouble attracting descent women. Now that women are financially independent, I wonder what is the value of man to a woman? The guys who are sloppy and out of shape still think they don't have to make much effort.

Those out of shape men you are talking about are probably doing really well financially. Women won't admit it, but they will compromise far more than men to be with a guy that's doing well financially. Men, for reasons I don't always understand, even when very wealthy will not only date but stupidly marry seriously broke women. Women do not marry broke men. The ones who do were loved bombed to death and lost it...

It’s well-known that broke men are the best in bed. They have to be!

By broke men do you all mean someone who works retail or salary below 100k or actual broke and unemployed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am glad I am not a woman. The amount of pressure women are under to look a certain way is crazy. As a man I keep myself healthy and in good shape. It seems to me that even single men who are out of shape and dress terribly don't have a lot of trouble attracting descent women. Now that women are financially independent, I wonder what is the value of man to a woman? The guys who are sloppy and out of shape still think they don't have to make much effort.

It's pretty obvious you are a woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am glad I am not a woman. The amount of pressure women are under to look a certain way is crazy. As a man I keep myself healthy and in good shape. It seems to me that even single men who are out of shape and dress terribly don't have a lot of trouble attracting descent women. Now that women are financially independent, I wonder what is the value of man to a woman? The guys who are sloppy and out of shape still think they don't have to make much effort.

It's pretty obvious you are a woman

As obv that you are a dbag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

Hey, the OP asked for opinions on how to gain male attention. And he will never know how great you are "on the inside" if you are a fat slob who dresses poorly.

And that fact is that fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside, because their appearance reflects their negative attitude and low self-esteem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel sad reading this. "men like this" "men want that". What about what YOU want? What about dating someone who likes YOU and not just your butt or skin or clothes?

There is nothing wrong with hitting the gym or buying new clothes. But do it because it makes YOU feel good, not because some man may like you better.

Right? And I find it repulsive that there are people (presumably men) on here counseling this woman what she needs to do to win their attention. YES, looks matter. YES, feeling good about yourself matters. But the person you are on the inside, the partner you want to be, etc. are more important. Looks fade and I'd be loathe to want to be with someone who cannot appreciate that and has some sort of "standard" for my looks.

Hey, the OP asked for opinions on how to gain male attention. And he will never know how great you are "on the inside" if you are a fat slob who dresses poorly.

And that fact is that fat slobs who dress poorly are also defective on the inside, because their appearance reflects their negative attitude and low self-esteem.

So much venom in this post. What happened to you to have this much hate in you?

[Anonymous]

I know someone with a PhD who at 62 makes $90K and owns his own home worth about $400K, but covered the mortgage completely via rent from a housemate. Is he solvent? Yes. Do I consider him a broke man? Also yes.

[Anonymous]

Honest answer you should refresh your wardrobe a little, take some photos and go online. Then update when you look better. Time isn’t on your side as a woman so just be real and then evolve.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Personality and confidence can make up for your perceived weight gain. You probably look cute at your current weight -- have a bit of a booty is in these days.