Should I hit the gym and work on myself before trying old?

[Anonymous]

Wondering since men are so visual. I put on some weight during remodeling my home and I know some fat to muscle conversion will make me look better as well as maybe some skin treatments for some troublesome areas. My wardrobe is very much homebody since I worked from home for years now. I know men like fun and sexy. I've seen the pictures of women on old with butt selfies in the gym or bikini shots. Should I work on myself for months before getting any companionship? I do feel lonely for love though. Or just catfish and use older pictures of 2 yrs ago when I was 105lbs?

[Anonymous]

Don’t catfish. Get in shape, hire a stylist and present the new you. This will only take a few months and you will feel good about yourself.

[Anonymous]

I think you should keep typing on this forum.
You have a future here.

[Anonymous]

Screw the men. You've gotta work on your self confidence, and the gym will help with that.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but for strength, health and confidence, not to look better for men.

[Anonymous]

I am going to offer some serious advice.

First, always remember that you are more than your physical appearance.

Second, when you get rejected by some men you like, keep in mind that men are varied in their preferences. You can't possibly please all men, but you can please some of them. You don't need or want all of them.

Third, honesty is the way to go. No problem showing skinny photos from a few years ago, as long as you also show heavier photos and explain your current situation (gained weight but working hard to get in shape and back to your old weight).

I'm a man.

[Anonymous]

Man here - do what it takes for you to feel really good about yourself. That will affect how you look and your personality. Old pictures and being insecure are put offs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going to offer some serious advice.

First, always remember that you are more than your physical appearance.

Second, when you get rejected by some men you like, keep in mind that men are varied in their preferences. You can't possibly please all men, but you can please some of them. You don't need or want all of them.

Third, honesty is the way to go. No problem showing skinny photos from a few years ago, as long as you also show heavier photos and explain your current situation (gained weight but working hard to get in shape and back to your old weight).

I'm a man.

Lol. Pretty obvious that a man has entered the chat when you see advice to provide an explanation regarding your weight along with an assurance that you are working hard to get into better shape.

Sigh.

[Anonymous]

The check is in the mail!

[Anonymous]

Men like fun and sexy, but 80% of that is personality not looks. If you’re focusing on your looks you’ll draw in more shallow guys than if you concentrate on your personality. Be happy with yourself and the right guys will find you.

[Anonymous]

If you were to put your current photos up wearing your everyday wardrobe, would you be interested in the men at a similar level of physical attractiveness? If not, go to the gym. If yes why not start now.

[Anonymous]

There are guys who like chubby, just look put together.

[Anonymous]

There sure are, do you like black men, OP?

[Anonymous]

Wait a few months and get into shape first.

As a woman, dating while fat and dating while thin are two entirely different experiences. You want to maximize your options.

DO NOT catfish.

[Anonymous]

You shouldn't put up photos not representative of current you. That would be akin to lying and something that becomes obvious when you meetup with someone in real life. I know for me, that would be an instant deal breaker.