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Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

If you know the date why are you asking your sister about the date?

Is it not reasonable if you hear a rumor from other family members to ask a sibling to confirm before booking plane tickets?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

A) if you know the date why are you asking.
B) How is asking for a wedding date involving them in “drama?” And obviously I don’t think the aunt/uncle would mind you asking for the date of an event they’re hosting…they may dislike your sister but they obviously don’t dislike your niece or you so what’s the problem?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

If you know the date why are you asking your sister about the date?

Is it not reasonable if you hear a rumor from other family members to ask a sibling to confirm before booking plane tickets?

What rumor? You didn’t say anything about hearing a rumor.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

If you know the date why are you asking your sister about the date?

Is it not reasonable if you hear a rumor from other family members to ask a sibling to confirm before booking plane tickets?

What rumor? You didn’t say anything about hearing a rumor.

The rumor is the entire wedding. My sibling didn't tell me or anyone about it. Supposedly the date is set but will not confirm when asked directly about it, so it's still a rumor.

[Anonymous]

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How exactly is your sister supposed to respond if her daughter hasn't decided on a date?

Umm how hard is it to say “We haven’t put down a deposit on a venue, so the date is not set in stone.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

A) if you know the date why are you asking.
B) How is asking for a wedding date involving them in “drama?” And obviously I don’t think the aunt/uncle would mind you asking for the date of an event they’re hosting…they may dislike your sister but they obviously don’t dislike your niece or you so what’s the problem?

My Aunt and Ubcle aren't stupid. If both me and my parents ask them about it they are going to wonder why my sibling hasn't confirmed this to us. Then I have to explain that my sibling is not willing to confirm for whatever reason. But, also, if there is a reason behind the evasiveness I don't want my Aunt / Uncle to think something might be up with my niece's relationship.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
How exactly is your sister supposed to respond if her daughter hasn't decided on a date?

Umm how hard is it to say “We haven’t put down a deposit on a venue, so the date is not set in stone.”

It's my Aunt's house there is no deposit.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

If you know the date why are you asking your sister about the date?

Is it not reasonable if you hear a rumor from other family members to ask a sibling to confirm before booking plane tickets?

What rumor? You didn’t say anything about hearing a rumor.

The rumor is the entire wedding. My sibling didn't tell me or anyone about it. Supposedly the date is set but will not confirm when asked directly about it, so it's still a rumor.

This is whackadoodle.

[Anonymous]

If you know the date, and you plan on going to the wedding, then just buy your airfare.
I’d buy Southwest because it’s the most flexible, and if the wedding doesn’t go through then you can keep the funds for another time, if you book with miles you get the miles back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

A) if you know the date why are you asking.
B) How is asking for a wedding date involving them in “drama?” And obviously I don’t think the aunt/uncle would mind you asking for the date of an event they’re hosting…they may dislike your sister but they obviously don’t dislike your niece or you so what’s the problem?

My Aunt and Ubcle aren't stupid. If both me and my parents ask them about it they are going to wonder why my sibling hasn't confirmed this to us. Then I have to explain that my sibling is not willing to confirm for whatever reason. But, also, if there is a reason behind the evasiveness I don't want my Aunt / Uncle to think something might be up with my niece's relationship.

Hmmmok. Your original post made it seem like your sister was the one who is weird but it’s clearly all of you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

A) if you know the date why are you asking.
B) How is asking for a wedding date involving them in “drama?” And obviously I don’t think the aunt/uncle would mind you asking for the date of an event they’re hosting…they may dislike your sister but they obviously don’t dislike your niece or you so what’s the problem?

My Aunt and Ubcle aren't stupid. If both me and my parents ask them about it they are going to wonder why my sibling hasn't confirmed this to us. Then I have to explain that my sibling is not willing to confirm for whatever reason. But, also, if there is a reason behind the evasiveness I don't want my Aunt / Uncle to think something might be up with my niece's relationship.

Hmmmok. Your original post made it seem like your sister was the one who is weird but it’s clearly all of you.

Yes, it's super weird to not know anything about a close family members wedding only a few months away until we get a letter in the mail and not a phone call, email or text.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

A) if you know the date why are you asking.
B) How is asking for a wedding date involving them in “drama?” And obviously I don’t think the aunt/uncle would mind you asking for the date of an event they’re hosting…they may dislike your sister but they obviously don’t dislike your niece or you so what’s the problem?

My Aunt and Ubcle aren't stupid. If both me and my parents ask them about it they are going to wonder why my sibling hasn't confirmed this to us. Then I have to explain that my sibling is not willing to confirm for whatever reason. But, also, if there is a reason behind the evasiveness I don't want my Aunt / Uncle to think something might be up with my niece's relationship.

Hmmmok. Your original post made it seem like your sister was the one who is weird but it’s clearly all of you.

Yes, it's super weird to not know anything about a close family members wedding only a few months away until we get a letter in the mail and not a phone call, email or text.

That’s not what makes you weird, Op. it’s the whole dynamic—all your family relationships. This is not how most people operate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you know the date, and you plan on going to the wedding, then just buy your airfare.
I’d buy Southwest because it’s the most flexible, and if the wedding doesn’t go through then you can keep the funds for another time, if you book with miles you get the miles back.

Southwest doesn't fly direct to where I'm going. Only 2 carriers fly direct and it's over 5 hours on a plane. Non direct is 8 hours so I avoid that with young kids if at all possible.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say to your sister or niece or the aunt/uncle who are hosting the wedding again: what is the wedding date? Simple easy. If they don’t tell you and you therefore can’t get tickets and tickets wind up being too expensive if you wait til closer to get them then just…don’t go.

There is a date, I have it. I don't particularly want to involve my Aunt / Uncle in the drama because they already have low opinions of my sibling. In fact I have explicit instructions that when they die (they are childless) I am not to allow my sibling to attempt to pilfer their estate and to allow other family members to pick items of value that they want first.

A) if you know the date why are you asking.
B) How is asking for a wedding date involving them in “drama?” And obviously I don’t think the aunt/uncle would mind you asking for the date of an event they’re hosting…they may dislike your sister but they obviously don’t dislike your niece or you so what’s the problem?

My Aunt and Ubcle aren't stupid. If both me and my parents ask them about it they are going to wonder why my sibling hasn't confirmed this to us. Then I have to explain that my sibling is not willing to confirm for whatever reason. But, also, if there is a reason behind the evasiveness I don't want my Aunt / Uncle to think something might be up with my niece's relationship.

Hmmmok. Your original post made it seem like your sister was the one who is weird but it’s clearly all of you.

Yes, it's super weird to not know anything about a close family members wedding only a few months away until we get a letter in the mail and not a phone call, email or text.

That’s not what makes you weird, Op. it’s the whole dynamic—all your family relationships. This is not how most people operate.

Lol OK, please tell me about your totally normal family. But, you really don't have to. Good for you, gold star that you don't have to deal with this ish!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you know the date, and you plan on going to the wedding, then just buy your airfare.
I’d buy Southwest because it’s the most flexible, and if the wedding doesn’t go through then you can keep the funds for another time, if you book with miles you get the miles back.

Southwest doesn't fly direct to where I'm going. Only 2 carriers fly direct and it's over 5 hours on a plane. Non direct is 8 hours so I avoid that with young kids if at all possible.

Omg you have 2 options:1) just buy the tickets now when prices are good and go regardless of wedding just for a visit if wedding doesn’t happen 2) don’t go! Christ sake.