My 39 y.o. gym trainer is looking for a husband, with no success on dating apps

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she is hooking up with new guys weekly she is low hanging fruit, easily picked.

I don’t think it’s this. Most men don’t really think like this.
I do think it sounds like she’s bad in bed. Like she’s weird or sexually inhibited in some way. Maybe sleeping with so many men has made it harder to give herself freely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:…almost white?

😳🤣

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is hooking up w/the majority of these men - then she is not giving off the impression that she is looking for something serious.

A better strategy would be to date different people w/o sleeping with them.
That will show a man that she is in it for real > not just a fun time.

I bet her prospects will go up if she starts doing that‼️

OP here. I think she is hooking up with them on the second date. But I agree, it is much too soon.

FWIW, she is from Brazil, and she is almost white. She is dating almost exclusively black guys. I'm not sure how that affects the dynamic.

Okay, you agree she is hooking up with guys too soon. So why start this thread wondering what the problem is?

No answer from op?

[Anonymous]

There’s something wrong with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s something wrong with her.

And op.

[Anonymous]

🎶 no one asked OP for help or her opinion 🎶

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:🎶 no one asked OP for help or her opinion 🎶

What’s with the music notes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:🎶 no one asked OP for help or her opinion 🎶

What’s with the music notes?

Not PP but the music notes prompted me to sing the comment in my head like a song. I enjoyed it.

[Anonymous]

I'm struck by you saying she us " relatively" good looking

You are not a friend

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm struck by you saying she us " relatively" good looking

You are not a friend

Oh, please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is hooking up w/the majority of these men - then she is not giving off the impression that she is looking for something serious.

A better strategy would be to date different people w/o sleeping with them.
That will show a man that she is in it for real > not just a fun time.

I bet her prospects will go up if she starts doing that‼️

OP here. I think she is hooking up with them on the second date. But I agree, it is much too soon.

FWIW, she is from Brazil, and she is almost white. She is dating almost exclusively black guys. I'm not sure how that affects the dynamic.

Okay, you agree she is hooking up with guys too soon. So why start this thread wondering what the problem is?

No answer from op?

OP here. Of course I think that hooking up with guys on the second date makes the wrong impression on them. But I myself have not dated in 20 years, and people's attitudes may have changed.

I think that she is not enough of a catch on the dating market, because of a combination of her situation, looks and age. She looks pleasant, but not hot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:🎶 no one asked OP for help or her opinion 🎶

What’s with the music notes?

Not PP but the music notes prompted me to sing the comment in my head like a song. I enjoyed it.

Thank you I was hoping someone would like it 🙏

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm struck by you saying she us " relatively" good looking

You are not a friend

OP is just a good friend to a butterface

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is hooking up w/the majority of these men - then she is not giving off the impression that she is looking for something serious.

A better strategy would be to date different people w/o sleeping with them.
That will show a man that she is in it for real > not just a fun time.

I bet her prospects will go up if she starts doing that‼️

OP here. I think she is hooking up with them on the second date. But I agree, it is much too soon.

FWIW, she is from Brazil, and she is almost white. She is dating almost exclusively black guys. I'm not sure how that affects the dynamic.

Okay, you agree she is hooking up with guys too soon. So why start this thread wondering what the problem is?

No answer from op?

OP here. Of course I think that hooking up with guys on the second date makes the wrong impression on them. But I myself have not dated in 20 years, and people's attitudes may have changed.

I think that she is not enough of a catch on the dating market, because of a combination of her situation, looks and age. She looks pleasant, but not hot.

You need to be told that just because you have not in 20 years that sleeping with lots of guys on date 2 is a bad idea?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If she is hooking up w/the majority of these men - then she is not giving off the impression that she is looking for something serious.

A better strategy would be to date different people w/o sleeping with them.
That will show a man that she is in it for real > not just a fun time.

I bet her prospects will go up if she starts doing that‼️

OP here. I think she is hooking up with them on the second date. But I agree, it is much too soon.

FWIW, she is from Brazil, and she is almost white. She is dating almost exclusively black guys. I'm not sure how that affects the dynamic.

Okay, you agree she is hooking up with guys too soon. So why start this thread wondering what the problem is?

No answer from op?

OP here. Of course I think that hooking up with guys on the second date makes the wrong impression on them. But I myself have not dated in 20 years, and people's attitudes may have changed.

I think that she is not enough of a catch on the dating market, because of a combination of her situation, looks and age. She looks pleasant, but not hot.

Again, you say you know it makes a bad impression. You know the answer and still trying to conjure up an answer.
Are you just bored?