How to shut down critical comments?

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My aunts like to comment that I gained a few pounds, "Oh you got so big!" So I say, "Ohh you look so old!"

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"Here's your coat. Don't call me, I'll call you."

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Anonymous wrote:I say, "That's funny, I don't remember asking for your opinion."

I say this to my mom and her answer is "Well I was just trying to help. Nobody else is going to be honest or say it to your face. That's my job." So, no, that doesn't work on everyone it just leads to doubling down.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I like "Thats not a very nice thing to say"

I said this, and the reply was, "I'm not very nice."

How old is this person? How close of a relative are they? How often do you see them?

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I have said : "That's rude".

Look them straight in the eye and watch them squirm.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I say, "That's funny, I don't remember asking for your opinion."

I say this to my mom and her answer is "Well I was just trying to help. Nobody else is going to be honest or say it to your face. That's my job." So, no, that doesn't work on everyone it just leads to doubling down.

"And my job is to protect myself and my family from rude, unkind people. So you can either apologize and stop this immature behavior, or you can leave. If you leave, you won't be coming back until you apologize. What's your choice, apologize and stay, or leave now?"

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"Sorry to hear you feel that way. Anyway, ..."

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I have an acquaintance like this. She prides herself on being a big church goer and Christian. I typically say, "what a very unchristian thing to say." it really shuts her up.

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Anonymous wrote:Carry around a Yellow Card. Flash it when this happens. On it, it says "Is it True? Is it Necessary? Is it Kind?"

They aren't first graders.

Op try "I'll thank you now not to be so rude. Got it? Good. Now, how about the weather/those Chiefs/ Aunt Greta's boil?...." Anything to change the subject.

Works in soccer. Even grown men.

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Anonymous wrote:I have said : "That's rude".

Look them straight in the eye and watch them squirm.

I’ve found this works really well with boomer women. They can’t handle the directness of being told to stop this behavior. They 100% know that what they are saying is obnoxious, rude or even hurtful but they wrap it up in some cutesy or nonchalant comment expecting the receiver to smile and just accept the wet noodle they just threw at you. Well being direct ends the little game and lobs that wet noodle back in their lap.

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Anonymous wrote:Stare blankly at the person for 3 seconds, then completely ignore the comment.

This, then walk away and talk to someone else.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have said : "That's rude".

Look them straight in the eye and watch them squirm.

I’ve found this works really well with boomer women. They can’t handle the directness of being told to stop this behavior. They 100% know that what they are saying is obnoxious, rude or even hurtful but they wrap it up in some cutesy or nonchalant comment expecting the receiver to smile and just accept the wet noodle they just threw at you. Well being direct ends the little game and lobs that wet noodle back in their lap.

Works well with anyone, even noodles.

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My mom used to do this to me. Complaining and nitpicking is basically the only way she knows how to converse. I shut it down by repeating what I heard so much growing up.
My house. My rules.

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Anonymous wrote:"What a nice thing to say"

I like this the best. That will shut it down

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have said : "That's rude".

Look them straight in the eye and watch them squirm.

I’ve found this works really well with boomer women. They can’t handle the directness of being told to stop this behavior. They 100% know that what they are saying is obnoxious, rude or even hurtful but they wrap it up in some cutesy or nonchalant comment expecting the receiver to smile and just accept the wet noodle they just threw at you. Well being direct ends the little game and lobs that wet noodle back in their lap.

Ageism. That's rude.