Would you be annoyed or am I being overly sensitive? *vent*

[Anonymous]

Who drinks cheer wine??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who drinks cheer wine??

We do! That was my favorite detail of the story. When I'm sick, or recovering, I want a sweet treat!! Cheerwine or cherry Coke!

And on topic, sorry about your incompetent DH, OP. You are NOT oversensitive or over-thinking it. That was insane.

[Anonymous]

The walk to the shopping center, okay. He needs his steps, let him decompress, etc.

But the haircut? That’s a dumbass movie at best.

[Anonymous]

Sorry OP this sounds like my husband, its ridiculous and no excuses for either of this men. You are validated, try and talk with him but I'm sure you will be met with anger and defensiveness.

[Anonymous]

OP I'm pissed off FOR YOU. Wow, I hope you have a talking to with him. WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The walk to the shopping center, okay. He needs his steps, let him decompress, etc.

But the haircut? That’s a dumbass movie at best.

walk to the shopping center when he has never thought that necessary before and he’s supposed to be getting OP’s meds?

[Anonymous]

I’m still chuckling at the husband who got his wife baby Tylenol after she had a baby. That’s cute.

Ops spouse..not so much. Clueless? Selfish? I dunno. I would definitely convey my disappointment
And confusion.

[Anonymous]

OP here- thanks for the validation. It makes me feel a lot better to see I’m not being overly sensitive.
I also have a cold (that became a last minute call to the doctor to see if surgery should be rescheduled, it wasn’t) so I’m just fighting a lot of things right now.
BTW- the cheerwine was my request, post surgery and not eating or drinking had me really craving something sweet/bubbly. Cheerwine is the best!

[Anonymous]

Today needs to go better. You need to rest and recover. Tell him he’s managing the kids and meals and that when you’re recovered you two will discuss how it made you feel that he prioritized getting his steps, getting a haircut, chatting with the neighbors, ignoring the kids, and doing as he pleased while you needed rest, meds and food.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In the beginning of the post I thought you were being a little controlling. I would have just told my husband “I’m resting in my room, get us dinner one way or the other,” and I would have ignored him and the kids while I rest and leave him to do it however he sees fit.

However, I also know that my husband would have been responsible and done that without me telling him to. You have developed the dynamic in your marriage where your expectations are too low and your husband doesn’t even bother meeting them. This could be for any number of reasons, but that’s where you are. I would get marriage counseling because this kind of inconsiderate behavior is actually very serious and impacts your quality of life a lot.

nice way to find a way to blame the wife.

[Anonymous]

Sadly he has likely gotten away with being thoughtless and inconsiderate throughout your marriage. You need to tell him how you feel in blunt but calm turns. My husband is no Mr. Wonderful but he would have parked me in my room and taken charge.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry, OP. I would be livid. My DH would never behave this way because he is a caring and kind person. Is your DH typically this thoughtless and self-centered, or is this behavior out of character for him?

[Anonymous]

It seems like he did this on purpose to make a point to show you that he’s not caring/doesn’t want to be in the caregiver role so you don’t expect that out of him. What a selfish jerk he is.

[Anonymous]

Does he love you?

[Anonymous]

He’s a narcissist. Can’t deal with focus being on you.