Former boss trying to figure out where I went after I quit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you lock someone on LinkedIn? What do they see when they look you up?

Op here. They can see whatever you’ve decided to publish on there and depending on your privacy settings.

In my case, that means employment history and education and maybe my connections and comments/people I follow.

I haven’t yet updated my LinkedIn to reflect that I’ve left my old position. I know I need to but just feel upset about all of it. I wondered if he might be taking screenshots and sharing them with HR or something, saying I have to update my page. I intend to but it’s only been 10 days since I left.

I also wondered if he’s angry or disagrees about how I characterized my role on LinkedIn. We are both attorneys and our practice areas intersected. He was technically in charge of practice areas but I was actually leading them with zero support or input on them and my experience description reflects the work I was doing but maybe makes him feel like I’m stepping on his toes.

You're an attorney and you're wondering if you are "in trouble" for not updating your LinkedIn page? Explain please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have a letter drafted by an attorney to HR at old company.

Oh yeah. Attorneys are making bank drafting letters telling creeps to stop checking social media profiles. Huge profits there. This thread is hilarious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both are nuts. I have two staff who quit and did not tell me where going. If bored on LinkedIn will check to see where they went.

But I am in hidden mode. I like them both. But one claimed a really big raise and if so I want to joint him!

Op here. It’s the fact that he views my profile every single day for weeks. Do you look up your ex employees every single day? Do you ask people at your job over and over again if they know where your ex employees went?

I’m not talking about one or two views on LinkedIn. This is every day. Even weekends! Like why do I take up so much space in this guy’s brain?

Why does he take up so much space in yours?

Are you even using LI right now to look for a new job? If you aren't, then stop checking it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You both are nuts. I have two staff who quit and did not tell me where going. If bored on LinkedIn will check to see where they went.

But I am in hidden mode. I like them both. But one claimed a really big raise and if so I want to joint him!

Op here. It’s the fact that he views my profile every single day for weeks. Do you look up your ex employees every single day? Do you ask people at your job over and over again if they know where your ex employees went?

I’m not talking about one or two views on LinkedIn. This is every day. Even weekends! Like why do I take up so much space in this guy’s brain?

Why does he take up so much space in yours?

Are you even using LI right now to look for a new job? If you aren't, then stop checking it.

Op here. Yes I’m using it for networking and job searching.

It’s not JUST the views on LinkedIn, it’s the reports from multiple friends at my old job that he keeps bringing this up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You can likely sue him if he contacts a future employer. There’s a reason most references only share employment dates of past employees.

How would she know he was reason she didn’t get the job? I can’t imagine a potential employer would divulge that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you lock someone on LinkedIn? What do they see when they look you up?

Op here. They can see whatever you’ve decided to publish on there and depending on your privacy settings.

In my case, that means employment history and education and maybe my connections and comments/people I follow.

I haven’t yet updated my LinkedIn to reflect that I’ve left my old position. I know I need to but just feel upset about all of it. I wondered if he might be taking screenshots and sharing them with HR or something, saying I have to update my page. I intend to but it’s only been 10 days since I left.

I also wondered if he’s angry or disagrees about how I characterized my role on LinkedIn. We are both attorneys and our practice areas intersected. He was technically in charge of practice areas but I was actually leading them with zero support or input on them and my experience description reflects the work I was doing but maybe makes him feel like I’m stepping on his toes.

You're an attorney and you're wondering if you are "in trouble" for not updating your LinkedIn page? Explain please.

Op here. Because it would amount to representing myself as working somewhere that I no longer work.

I think he’s probably angry that I said I’m the lead on certain subject matter areas that he thinks he’s in charge of (but which I handled completely on my own for years).

[Anonymous]

Trust your gut, I think he sounds wacky too. Lay low and just focus on your job search and don’t update any of your former colleagues what you are up to right now. Sorry you are going through this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He could be just opening your profile page instead of the landing page because he looked you up once and now it is saved in his browser. .

Yes, maybe a phone app is refreshing every time he gets into the phone.

Maybe he is also looking for a job.

Op here. My DH is a tech nerd and we did some experimenting and just refreshing the app or having the page already open to my profile does not result in a view.

[Anonymous]

I burnt more bridges than the Germans in WWII. Not intentionally but that is nature of the beast. I have been on LinkedIn since beginning.

I have 5,000 connections and I post on average 1-3 times a week. I get viewed around 300-500 times a week.

When someone quits or fired it is like a divorce or getting dumped. You feel anger and stalking. It fades.

I have a glowing job reference to a person I fired years later and even mentored her. My old boss who fired me (literally went to board that SOB) later on was helping me look for a job.

Lot of anger when it happens. It fades. I am connected to a person I just fired 8 weeks ago and job applicants I turned down.

I have more bad blood than a Taylor Swift album in my LinkedIn profile.

People who double crossed and triple crossed me.

One guy we were sworn enemies literally disposed each other and literally out for blood. But that was when we were 28. We left that job and 25 years later we got laid off same time and job hunting for same exact role and we became besties.

Think of it like a girl being mad you did not ask her to Prom but at 25 year reunion no big thing.

If I were you I connect with him on LinkedIn and share the love. You may need each other one day.

I find the people who hate you the most are most appreciative when you reach out to help or be nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you lock someone on LinkedIn? What do they see when they look you up?

Op here. They can see whatever you’ve decided to publish on there and depending on your privacy settings.

In my case, that means employment history and education and maybe my connections and comments/people I follow.

I haven’t yet updated my LinkedIn to reflect that I’ve left my old position. I know I need to but just feel upset about all of it. I wondered if he might be taking screenshots and sharing them with HR or something, saying I have to update my page. I intend to but it’s only been 10 days since I left.

I also wondered if he’s angry or disagrees about how I characterized my role on LinkedIn. We are both attorneys and our practice areas intersected. He was technically in charge of practice areas but I was actually leading them with zero support or input on them and my experience description reflects the work I was doing but maybe makes him feel like I’m stepping on his toes.

You're an attorney and you're wondering if you are "in trouble" for not updating your LinkedIn page? Explain please.

Op here. Because it would amount to representing myself as working somewhere that I no longer work.

I think he’s probably angry that I said I’m the lead on certain subject matter areas that he thinks he’s in charge of (but which I handled completely on my own for years).

NP and you could update your page to just include the dates you worked at your prior employer and just list the new employer if that is a concern. I don't think it matters but that's an option.

[Anonymous]

The non-confrontational way to deal with this is to block him on LinkedIn.

If you feel that you need to escalate, you should ask former coworkers who would be willing to verify that he has been stalking you since your departure and asking many invasive questions about where you went after your departure. Then contact HR at your former employer and inform them that this current employee of theirs is and has been stalking you since you terminated your employment with them. Inform them you believe this to be continuing a pattern of harassment that began before you left the employment and you wish them to address this with him.

If they do not, you can opt to escalate further. file with the police that you have a stalker, that was a former manager and that he began harassing you when you worked under him, and has continued to stalk you since you left employment. Then explain that you contact the HR department and they would not help you with this matter. You can even consider EEO action against the company if they don't address the issue.

[Anonymous]

Block his ass
Do not update your LinkedIn until you are 8 month into your new role

[Anonymous]

OP you could make a trap for him. Put a new job working for a friend and see if he contacts that person

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How do you lock someone on LinkedIn? What do they see when they look you up?

Op here. They can see whatever you’ve decided to publish on there and depending on your privacy settings.

In my case, that means employment history and education and maybe my connections and comments/people I follow.

I haven’t yet updated my LinkedIn to reflect that I’ve left my old position. I know I need to but just feel upset about all of it. I wondered if he might be taking screenshots and sharing them with HR or something, saying I have to update my page. I intend to but it’s only been 10 days since I left.

I also wondered if he’s angry or disagrees about how I characterized my role on LinkedIn. We are both attorneys and our practice areas intersected. He was technically in charge of practice areas but I was actually leading them with zero support or input on them and my experience description reflects the work I was doing but maybe makes him feel like I’m stepping on his toes.

You're an attorney and you're wondering if you are "in trouble" for not updating your LinkedIn page? Explain please.

Op here. Because it would amount to representing myself as working somewhere that I no longer work.

I think he’s probably angry that I said I’m the lead on certain subject matter areas that he thinks he’s in charge of (but which I handled completely on my own for years).

Ah hah! Typical DCUM. The truth gets outed on page 3. So you are lying or exaggerating your roles in the past job. Not good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The non-confrontational way to deal with this is to block him on LinkedIn.

If you feel that you need to escalate, you should ask former coworkers who would be willing to verify that he has been stalking you since your departure and asking many invasive questions about where you went after your departure. Then contact HR at your former employer and inform them that this current employee of theirs is and has been stalking you since you terminated your employment with them. Inform them you believe this to be continuing a pattern of harassment that began before you left the employment and you wish them to address this with him.

If they do not, you can opt to escalate further. file with the police that you have a stalker, that was a former manager and that he began harassing you when you worked under him, and has continued to stalk you since you left employment. Then explain that you contact the HR department and they would not help you with this matter. You can even consider EEO action against the company if they don't address the issue.

While what the guy is doing is annoying and overly nosey I would hardly call it stalking. And...calling the police...EEO lawsuit??? That's all crazy talk.