Former boss trying to figure out where I went after I quit

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Anonymous wrote:Have a letter drafted by an attorney to HR at old company.

Oh yeah. Attorneys are making bank drafting letters telling creeps to stop checking social media profiles. Huge profits there. This thread is hilarious.

It removes her from having any direct contact. Makes him aware and he is also asking other employees about her. So the old company does have an interest in how this plays out. It may just be enough to get him to back off.

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Note to OP: it’s “faze” not “phase”. A lot of people get this wrong.

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Anonymous wrote:The non-confrontational way to deal with this is to block him on LinkedIn.

If you feel that you need to escalate, you should ask former coworkers who would be willing to verify that he has been stalking you since your departure and asking many invasive questions about where you went after your departure. Then contact HR at your former employer and inform them that this current employee of theirs is and has been stalking you since you terminated your employment with them. Inform them you believe this to be continuing a pattern of harassment that began before you left the employment and you wish them to address this with him.

If they do not, you can opt to escalate further. file with the police that you have a stalker, that was a former manager and that he began harassing you when you worked under him, and has continued to stalk you since you left employment. Then explain that you contact the HR department and they would not help you with this matter. You can even consider EEO action against the company if they don't address the issue.

While what the guy is doing is annoying and overly nosey I would hardly call it stalking. And...calling the police...EEO lawsuit??? That's all crazy talk.

Jobs posts are funny. So many people talk out of their azz about employment matters 😂😂

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Anonymous wrote:How do you lock someone on LinkedIn? What do they see when they look you up?

Op here. They can see whatever you’ve decided to publish on there and depending on your privacy settings.

In my case, that means employment history and education and maybe my connections and comments/people I follow.

I haven’t yet updated my LinkedIn to reflect that I’ve left my old position. I know I need to but just feel upset about all of it. I wondered if he might be taking screenshots and sharing them with HR or something, saying I have to update my page. I intend to but it’s only been 10 days since I left.

I also wondered if he’s angry or disagrees about how I characterized my role on LinkedIn. We are both attorneys and our practice areas intersected. He was technically in charge of practice areas but I was actually leading them with zero support or input on them and my experience description reflects the work I was doing but maybe makes him feel like I’m stepping on his toes.

You're an attorney and you're wondering if you are "in trouble" for not updating your LinkedIn page? Explain please.

Op here. Because it would amount to representing myself as working somewhere that I no longer work.

I think he’s probably angry that I said I’m the lead on certain subject matter areas that he thinks he’s in charge of (but which I handled completely on my own for years).

Ah hah! Typical DCUM. The truth gets outed on page 3. So you are lying or exaggerating your roles in the past job. Not good.

Op here. I didn’t lie about anything. I was handling those subject matters as the lead attorney and without input from anyone, least of all him.

Also, look at page one of this thread and I provided context on this exact point. It didn’t only come up on page 3.

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Anonymous wrote:Note to OP: it’s “faze” not “phase”. A lot of people get this wrong.

Op here. Thank you!!! I didn’t realize!

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Take screenshots of “who viewed your profile” on numerous days and save them.

Then block him.

I did something similar after escaping a sociopathic boss.

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Anonymous wrote:You do not have to update your linked in page ever, and they cannot make you. Personally, I'd delete it.

If OP is applying for certain types of jobs, the lack of a Linkedin profile is a red flag.

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If I were in OP’s shoes, I would hibernate or delete my LI account and start a new profile on a different professional networking site. If your old boss visits the new profile daily, well, rinse and repeat.

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Deactivate your LinkedIn for 6-12 months. He will stop.

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Anonymous wrote:You do not have to update your linked in page ever, and they cannot make you. Personally, I'd delete it.

If OP is applying for certain types of jobs, the lack of a Linkedin profile is a red flag.

I will be sure to avoid those types of jobs.
No social media website should be essential to modern life.
Plus LinkedIn is becoming stupid with all the whiny influencers.

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Anonymous wrote:You do not have to update your linked in page ever, and they cannot make you. Personally, I'd delete it.

If OP is applying for certain types of jobs, the lack of a Linkedin profile is a red flag.

I've heard that on DCUM but never in real life. And if OP is looking to stay in government (unclear) it's definitely not necessary.

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Viewing is not stalking.

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Anonymous wrote:Viewing is not stalking.

Op here. I’m not claiming he’s stalking me but I do think his behavior is weird and inappropriate. He’s not just viewing my profile every single day, he’s also interrogating my coworker friends about what happened to me.

This wasn’t my direct supervisor-he was my boss’ boss and we didn’t even work together all that much so it’s just weird that he cares so much.

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Anonymous wrote:Have a letter drafted by an attorney to HR at old company.

Oh yeah. Attorneys are making bank drafting letters telling creeps to stop checking social media profiles. Huge profits there. This thread is hilarious.

It removes her from having any direct contact. Makes him aware and he is also asking other employees about her. So the old company does have an interest in how this plays out. It may just be enough to get him to back off.

So now this hypothetical attorney has gone from drafting a letter to the guy telling him to stop checking her linked in profile and *gasp* talking about her to cc'ing the guy's employer to "put them on notice."

You folks ought to write for television.

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He sounds awful. Since you just got a new job I’d consider taking your LinkedIn down altogether for now so nobody can see your updates and accidentally disclose it to him. And if you disclose it to someone trusted, tell them they absolutely cannot share that with anyone - and tell them why.

You can reinstate your page in a year or two when this has hopefully blown over.

So lame that there are people like this!!