Former boss trying to figure out where I went after I quit

[Anonymous]

I think I'd delete all my social media, honestly. Or start a new account with a pseudonym and be selective in connections.

[Anonymous]

sorry this is happening to you some men can be jerks

[Anonymous]

If your old office has an anti-harassment office, report him. If they don’t, the HR is the proper office to report him too. Constantly asking your old colleagues and checking your page that often is nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You do not have to update your linked in page ever, and they cannot make you. Personally, I'd delete it.

If OP is applying for certain types of jobs, the lack of a Linkedin profile is a red flag.

Not if she’s applying for other government attorney positions though. What roles are you applying for OP that you feel like you need Linked In?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Viewing is not stalking.

Op here. I’m not claiming he’s stalking me but I do think his behavior is weird and inappropriate. He’s not just viewing my profile every single day, he’s also interrogating my coworker friends about what happened to me.

This wasn’t my direct supervisor-he was my boss’ boss and we didn’t even work together all that much so it’s just weird that he cares so much.

Except that you apparently had a “big blow up” with him six months ago, right? I don’t think you’ve said what that was about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I quit my job a few weeks ago. Ever since i resigned, my former skip level boss (my boss’ boss) has been viewing my LinkedIn profile every day like clockwork. Every. Single. Day.

I have friends at my old work and they are telling me he keeps pestering them about where I went. Multiple times a week.

I did not have a food relationship with this man. He has been obsessed with me for a long time. He would often text my cell phone after hours and invite me to spend time with him outside work. I tried to have a good relationship with him for years, but when I stopped playing along and engaging in our “friendship”, he tried to get me fired. This was 6 months before I quit.

I am really concerned that he is trying to sabotage my future employment options. Is there any way I can manage this? The truth is I don’t have a new job and kept things vague when I resigned (said I was still “finalizing details” and “didn’t want to jinx it”).

How do you know he has been viewing your Linkedin?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Sounds like he's fixated on you. Agree with PP that you should just block him. Don't try to "manage it" -- you really can't manage people like that.

Op here. He is definitely fixated and a very angry person so I’m feeling nervous about this.

You can get a restraining order if he actually contacts your new employer. That will show up on a public record for him, but not for you.

Op here. This is a great idea but could I really succeed in getting one solely on the basis of him contacting my new employer? We haven’t had ANY contact with each otjer (well, besides the obsessive LinkedIn views) since the big dust up at work about 6 months ago.

I wouldn’t do this. Just move on. You’re giving this creep more power than they deserve. Take a deep breath and move on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You do not have to update your linked in page ever, and they cannot make you. Personally, I'd delete it.

If OP is applying for certain types of jobs, the lack of a Linkedin profile is a red flag.

Not if she’s applying for other government attorney positions though. What roles are you applying for OP that you feel like you need Linked In?

OP I would not answer this question. Why is the important to you PP are you OP’s bosses boss?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Sounds like he's fixated on you. Agree with PP that you should just block him. Don't try to "manage it" -- you really can't manage people like that.

Op here. He is definitely fixated and a very angry person so I’m feeling nervous about this.

You can get a restraining order if he actually contacts your new employer. That will show up on a public record for him, but not for you.

Op here. This is a great idea but could I really succeed in getting one solely on the basis of him contacting my new employer? We haven’t had ANY contact with each otjer (well, besides the obsessive LinkedIn views) since the big dust up at work about 6 months ago.

What happened 6 months ago??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ugh. Sounds like he's fixated on you. Agree with PP that you should just block him. Don't try to "manage it" -- you really can't manage people like that.

Op here. He is definitely fixated and a very angry person so I’m feeling nervous about this.

You can get a restraining order if he actually contacts your new employer. That will show up on a public record for him, but not for you.

Um, good luck proving this or even learning about it happening. On what planet is someone going to tell you we're not hiring you because a boss here was is pals with one of your old bosses. It's totally unrealistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your old office has an anti-harassment office, report him. If they don’t, the HR is the proper office to report him too. Constantly asking your old colleagues and checking your page that often is nuts.

How is checking someone’s LinkedIn page or any other social media a form of harassment?

Please provide an actual company policy that states this is a harassment issue.

[Anonymous]

Block him and then make it so your LinkedIn is just the first letter of your last name? I see a lot of people do that. Jane Doe = Jane D.