Can anyone please explain the mindset of parents who allow “failure to launch”?

[Anonymous]

If this is not your family situation, how is it any of your business, OP? And is your life so genuinely charmed that you can focus time and energy on things that have nothing to do with you? Is your self esteem so low that you feel better displaying derision and contempt for others?

[Anonymous]

21 is young, especially for males who often mature later.

[Anonymous]

I'm 48 and my parents partially support me. They have their reasons.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:better to live in my basement than die

So long as you're getting them the psychiatric treatment they need, yes

You can't force an adult to get the psychiatric treatment they may need.

This is very true. But you can say, unless you meet with a psychiatrist/therapist on a regular schedule and take the meds they prescribe, you can't live here.

Throwing your kids out to live on the streets is one of the most brutal and difficult things parents could ever do. Why are we even talking about this here? Whoever wrote this clearly has no understanding of the issues involved, this is like talking to a five year old

The whole idea is the kid doesn't want to go to the streets so he toes the line wrt getting treatment. A five-year-old (note the correct hyphens) would understand that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he has some mental health issues and they are allowing him a safe place while he works on them? Why do you care?

+ 1. Why do you care? I think this is the most likely reason, but it's really none of my business, or yours.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:better to live in my basement than die

So long as you're getting them the psychiatric treatment they need, yes

You can't force an adult to get the psychiatric treatment they may need.

This is very true. But you can say, unless you meet with a psychiatrist/therapist on a regular schedule and take the meds they prescribe, you can't live here.

Throwing your kids out to live on the streets is one of the most brutal and difficult things parents could ever do. Why are we even talking about this here? Whoever wrote this clearly has no understanding of the issues involved, this is like talking to a five year old

The whole idea is the kid doesn't want to go to the streets so he toes the line wrt getting treatment. A five-year-old (note the correct hyphens) would understand that.

That is not how mental illness works (or how a lot of young men work). It's not coldly rational, a matter of the right incentives. You sound incredibly naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and my parents partially support me. They have their reasons.

Explain your situation more please.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:better to live in my basement than die

So long as you're getting them the psychiatric treatment they need, yes

You can't force an adult to get the psychiatric treatment they may need.

This is very true. But you can say, unless you meet with a psychiatrist/therapist on a regular schedule and take the meds they prescribe, you can't live here.

Throwing your kids out to live on the streets is one of the most brutal and difficult things parents could ever do. Why are we even talking about this here? Whoever wrote this clearly has no understanding of the issues involved, this is like talking to a five year old

The whole idea is the kid doesn't want to go to the streets so he toes the line wrt getting treatment. A five-year-old (note the correct hyphens) would understand that.

That is not how mental illness works (or how a lot of young men work). It's not coldly rational, a matter of the right incentives. You sound incredibly naive.

Yes it is. OP. There are a lot of people with Peter Pan syndrome due to mental illness and they just don't do well on their own. When parents have the means and the child is able, it's often better for the family to support the child rather than the state in some form or another.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:better to live in my basement than die

So long as you're getting them the psychiatric treatment they need, yes

You can't force an adult to get the psychiatric treatment they may need.

This is very true. But you can say, unless you meet with a psychiatrist/therapist on a regular schedule and take the meds they prescribe, you can't live here.

Throwing your kids out to live on the streets is one of the most brutal and difficult things parents could ever do. Why are we even talking about this here? Whoever wrote this clearly has no understanding of the issues involved, this is like talking to a five year old

The whole idea is the kid doesn't want to go to the streets so he toes the line wrt getting treatment. A five-year-old (note the correct hyphens) would understand that.

If everyone is ok with the situation who cares? It's not your business. That's fine if you want to throw your kids out on the street but others would rather make sure they know where they are and safe and supporting them best they can.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and my parents partially support me. They have their reasons.

Explain your situation more please.

I think the point here is that PP's parents have their reasons and it's none of anyone's business.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 48 and my parents partially support me. They have their reasons.

Explain your situation more please.

I think the point here is that PP's parents have their reasons and it's none of anyone's business.

Then don’t post on DCUM…PP made it our business when they posted that they are 48 and aren’t independent.

For this 21 year old…why is the option to throw him on the street? You can still make your kid get a job and contribute to household expenses.

[Anonymous]

You're awful, OP.

My nephew does not work. He has a high IQ and a severe sleep disorder which means he can't attend school long enough to get a degree or hold down a job. He passed his high school exams under suicide watch in a hospital.

He's on disability and his father pays the rest of his expenses.

Shame on you. Failure to launch people have serious problems. You should just consider yourself lucky you're not one of them!

[Anonymous]

MYOB, OP, and be glad that you're not in this situation. Life is particularly challenging for people these days. They're lucky if they have family able and willing to help.

[Anonymous]

I’m sorry…the vast majority of the 21 year olds living at home and doing nothing don’t have all these severe psychological problems.

I agree it’s not OP’s problem…but only on DCUM would there be a litany of kids with these psyche issues.

[Anonymous]

Didn’t you post this same thing like last month?