Casual Racism

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP if this really irritates you and your kid, teach your kid to string together a bunch of Asian sounding mumbo jumbo that includes a phrase that almost sounds like FU.

Almost.

Let me clean that up… I think the person who said it was being nice. Not like he was saying FU in Chinese or anything. I mean use this tactic for when the kids at school are being idiots. That’s what I used to do when I was a kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:SMH get a life op stop looking for trouble literally everywhere you go!!!!

YOU ARE THE PROBLEM!!!!

You are crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So a white person attempted to pay respect to your heritage and culture by using your ancestral language so as to make you feel recognized and valued, and you see that as casual racism.


AYFKM? SMDH.

You are the problem here. You seek out and twist things to be offended by, rather than see them as the respect and flattery that they were.

You are a deeply flawed person. Sad.

OP is not Chinese. That person made an assumption, which is an annoying and stupid thing to do. You did not read the OP carefully before attacking. Another annoying and stupid thing to do.

NP - I agree that the Chinese thank you to the child was a stupid and annoying thing to do. But it’s also not racist.

[Anonymous]

OP maybe you shouldn't live around white people if their minor mistakes bother you so much. I'm also not sure what to make of your "mind reading" incident with the smell in the elevator. Do you have major anxiety or boredom maybe?

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Anonymous wrote:Person of color here. Yes, it is relentless and exhausting. It's just part of life. Also agree with op than many on this board have the luxury of telling you you are the problem.

By "person of color" you probably mean not African American and not white, so yes, many people will assume you or your immediate ancestors came from another country. It's ok to acknowledge that some people groups have been here longer than others.

I'm Black, but thanks Karen.

African or ADOS? I don't what "Black" is.

New poster here

Black is a racial construct. The whole premise of this thread is the appearance of a person causing casual racist comments And micro-aggression. We are not talking about ethnicity. And if we were, there’s more than “African” or “ADOS” That would be under the umbrella of Black.

The umbrella of "Black" particularly with a capital B doesn't need to exist. If you are African, just say African. Black used to imply ADOS only but now meaning has been confused so it is best term is not used.

Do you as a white person really believe you have the right to opine on what I call myself? You all are too much.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would let this go. I'm ethnically ambiguous looking and often have people approach me speaking languages other than English. I even have people asking if I speak English which is my first language. If we are going to let small things like this bother us maybe we should all were name tags with our preferred pronouns and languages so we don't encounter this.

People often speak to me in Greek, Italian, Portuguese or other languages I can’t identify. Sometimes I’m flattered, sometimes I’m annoyed, usually I just respond in English and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just let me vent.
I live in NW DC. Most of our neighbors are white and we are one of a few Asian families. Most of the time we are happy here. But sometimes we encounter casual racists. They are not malicious, but ignorant at best.
A few days ago, my child helped a guy who lives nearby to pick up the things he dropped. He said "Xiexie" to my child and went away. I know it means "thank you" in Chinese, but we are NOT Chinese. My child only speaks English and doesn't know a single Chinese word. I wasn't very happy, but tried to forget about it.
Today I took an elevator in a nearby shop. It smelled awful as if someone spilled something nasty on the floor. A few minutes later, a white woman and her partner got in. And as they noticed the smell, I saw them exchange this look. I could feel that they thought it was me smelling nasty. Perhaps it wasn't a completely racist thing. But I can't help thinking that they might have looked elsewhere if I were white.
I don't know what I should have done. Perhaps I should have said something in both occasions. Or not. Perhaps we should move to Hawaii or somewhere else with major Asian population. Anyway, thank you for letting me vent.

Could these essentially be racist micro-aggressions?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Person of color here. Yes, it is relentless and exhausting. It's just part of life. Also agree with op than many on this board have the luxury of telling you you are the problem.

If this passes for a problem we have conquered actual racism.

[Anonymous]

Don’t expect a lot of understanding from the folks on here OP. It all made sense when I saw the thread about the ages of posters here. Pretty much everyone on here is old af and I’m guessing mostly white.

[Anonymous]

Microaggressions, white privilege, cultural appropriation, & regular old hoaxes like Jussie Smollett tried: all desperate attempts to keep the gullible & hypersensitive thinking it is still 1850.

[Anonymous]

Keep trying and you will find someone or something to get mad about every day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just let me vent.
I live in NW DC. Most of our neighbors are white and we are one of a few Asian families. Most of the time we are happy here. But sometimes we encounter casual racists. They are not malicious, but ignorant at best.
A few days ago, my child helped a guy who lives nearby to pick up the things he dropped. He said "Xiexie" to my child and went away. I know it means "thank you" in Chinese, but we are NOT Chinese. My child only speaks English and doesn't know a single Chinese word. I wasn't very happy, but tried to forget about it.
Today I took an elevator in a nearby shop. It smelled awful as if someone spilled something nasty on the floor. A few minutes later, a white woman and her partner got in. And as they noticed the smell, I saw them exchange this look. I could feel that they thought it was me smelling nasty. Perhaps it wasn't a completely racist thing. But I can't help thinking that they might have looked elsewhere if I were white.
I don't know what I should have done. Perhaps I should have said something in both occasions. Or not. Perhaps we should move to Hawaii or somewhere else with major Asian population. Anyway, thank you for letting me vent.

Could these essentially be racist micro-aggressions?

That's exactly what they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Keep trying and you will find someone or something to get mad about every day.

+1
Honestly, this is a lot of it these days. We are all so hurt and angry and quick to assume the worst. Exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t expect a lot of understanding from the folks on here OP. It all made sense when I saw the thread about the ages of posters here. Pretty much everyone on here is old af and I’m guessing mostly white.

What is there to understand? Are you so racist as to think white people don't get the same kind of "micro aggression" around Black or Asian communities? People are concerned with actual racism, not "casual" or "micro"

[Anonymous]

The man basically said "All Asians look alike" and look at the all the fine white folks in here excusing it and blaming the recipient for being offended.