Go for a 4th when you are 40 years old?

[Anonymous]

Had my third at 40 and still (67 years now) wish I'd had just one more...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never understood the “our family doesn’t feel complete” thing. What exactly does that feel like? Do you get some sort of sign? Did I get a sign that told me “two is plenty!” and I just don’t remember?

The only person I knew IRL who said this has 5 kids. Is this something people say to rationalize having more kids?

Emptiness. Your kid is lonely. You want to be with a baby again. You have extra space in the house. The house is too quiet and sterile and needs to be filled with laughter, family and the fun of an additional kid.

She already has 3 kids.

[Anonymous]

Normally I would say no BUT this is different. I say no to 3, but if you have 3 then you need a 4th. Never stop with an uneven number. Your middle is screwed unless there are 2 middles, then everyone is unique again. Have the 4th!

I'm a middle that would never do that to anyone. If I accidentally had 3, I would purposefully have 4.

[Anonymous]

NO. OP, NO!

Your chances of having an SN kid keeps increasing as you age. Do you remember what happened to the last Duggar kid because Mama Duggar won't stop breeding like a rabbit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. Kids are expensive and the world is overpopulated. Your current kids don’t want to divide your attention any further. Whatever you are searching for, I doubt a 4th kid is it.

+1

[Anonymous]

Your oldest kid is 9?
That is a great age.
The teenage years are yet to come and they can be wild and unpredictable. Three is a good number. Be grateful and enjoy your beautiful family as is

[Anonymous]

We thought about it in my late 30s but decided no when we looked out 15-20 years in terms of what we wanted our lives to look like. We never discussed it as a money issue, it was all about where we wanted to be in life. It was the right decision even though I adored babies. Now I have grand babies so I’m happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Had my third at 40 and still (67 years now) wish I'd had just one more...

Oh wow. Had my third at 34 and very glad we didn’t go for a fourth. We are swamped with kids’ activities!

[Anonymous]

No way. Don’t do it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Had my third at 40 and still (67 years now) wish I'd had just one more...

Oh wow. Had my third at 34 and very glad we didn’t go for a fourth. We are swamped with kids’ activities!

Same! And the third often has to tag along. Anyone who’s sat in a steaming hot high school natatorium for several hours knows the pain

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you go for a 4th kid if you were already 40? Some days I just don't feel like our family is complete. Add to it the general hard dynamic of 3 kids, I feel like we should try for a 4th. BUT I am 40 and I am worried about being an older parent. Current kids are 3, 7 and 9 years old. Have a mix of girls and boys so its not like we are trying for one gender or another. If it weren't for covid we would have gone for a 4th when our youngest was 2 but I was so nervous about being in lock down again with young kids. Thoughts? If you did go for your 4th how old were you?

A 70 yr old just gave birth!

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-67577038

[Anonymous]

You probably shouldn’t have had the third. A fourth shouldn’t even be contemplated

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you go for a 4th kid if you were already 40? Some days I just don't feel like our family is complete. Add to it the general hard dynamic of 3 kids, I feel like we should try for a 4th. BUT I am 40 and I am worried about being an older parent. Current kids are 3, 7 and 9 years old. Have a mix of girls and boys so its not like we are trying for one gender or another. If it weren't for covid we would have gone for a 4th when our youngest was 2 but I was so nervous about being in lock down again with young kids. Thoughts? If you did go for your 4th how old were you?

A 70 yr old just gave birth!

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-67577038

Just because you can doesn’t mean you should.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You probably shouldn’t have had the third. A fourth shouldn’t even be contemplated

Why?

[Anonymous]

Good lord, no.
Stop trying to fill a void in your life with children.