This made my night. 😂 |
OP’s sister has found the thread. |
OP here. Dinner is planned for 4. I know my family ( including my own two teenage boys) - we will be up late Wednesday night and everyone will sleep in late - like think noon. I initially said my plan was to have bagels and cream cheese and then light appetizers if people are still hungry before 4 pm. I actually thought about a breakfast casserole but I never got that far with my sister because she started getting bossy and obnoxious and we ended the call. To the PP who said something to the effect that we are both at fault- of course there is some truth to that - but my sister truly is obnoxious and I try time and time again to ignore her, which of course I’ll do this time too. And yes her “ kids” are adults - mid- twenties. I’ll have other food in the house but I will rethink serving more for breakfast based on suggestions here. I’m not trying to starve anyone but really need the kitchen space. I have a big house but a tiny kitchen. And it’s classic that rather than be gracious my sister is now refusing to bring anything. She’s being spiteful in my opinion. |
Lol. You are one nasty piece of work. Happy Thanksgiving! |
You are nuts. It takes minutes to cook eggs and make toast. I hate bagels. |
As a mediator, I will offer the simple observation that very rarely are longterm problems caused solely by one person. OP, you seem committed to your narrative that your sister is the one at fault and always has been. You seem rigid and expect everyone to be grateful for your hard work. This is unrealistic. Very few people in life want to be constantly grateful to others, especially when you have to be grateful even when what the person is offering doesn't work for you. People are grateful when one offers the help they need, not the help the offerer cares to provide. I am not saying your sister is not at fault. It just seems to me that you truly can't take responsibility for the part you may have played in the trajectory of your relationship over the years, that has landed you in this situation today. I feel certain both of you are resentful of teh other and how each of you feels you are treated by the other. |
and BIL sounds like a dick requesting that. Just bring it to the hostess, dick. The hostess making sure everyone had "what they wanted to eat or drink" is a courtesy to make sure a few vegan requests are covered, or Aunt Edna's special gravy, if possible. It's not a free for all shopping list of every alcohol you may want to drink over Thanksgiving. If there's something you want to drink, you bring it. |
You’re nuts. I hate eggs. Feel better? |
Most people want something more than bagels. What is the big deal to make some pancakes, eggs, etc. |
I hate eggs but I make them for others. Expecting people not to eat until 4 PM is absurd. You need to feed breakfast and lunch. |
God, DCUM is so ridiculous about “growing boys,” acting as if they need to shovel in mounds of heavy, high calorie food into their mouths every two hours or they’ll wither and die on the vine. They can eat (multiple) bagels and then eat the huge Thanksgiving spread. They’ll be just fine. Sister sounds like an enabling helicopter mom. NP |
Far less witty of a response. |
Just read the update that the “growing boys” are IN THEIR TWENTIES. Cripes. Did sister follow them to college to wipe their rear ends too? |
Who said hours and hours? Plan was to serve bagels around noon when folks are expected up. Light apps before dinner at 4. You literally think people can’t go two hours without food. Are you obese? |
this is absolutely insane. OP is making thanksgiving dinner for 15. every needs to stay out of the kitchen unless they are helping with the meal. what’s wrong with cereal or bagels? if you HAVE to have more, then go to McDonalds. |