Obnoxious Sister and Thanksgiving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I made six omelettes for visiting family this morning and had everything prepped, cooked and cleaned up in less than 30 minutes. There’s nothing to it. OP is in the wrong. You don’t send family members to Starbucks on Thanksgiving morning and you don’t expect growing boys to just eat a bagel.

Do you want a cookie? Its completely reasonable for OP to ask her sister to not use the kitchen for cooking breakfast on Thanksgiving. Now we don't know if OP escalated the situation with her tone or the way she presented it. But reasonable sisters should have been able to work something out where her adult nephews had a sufficient breakfast and OP had her kitchen to get an early start on dinner.

Yes, I agree: it’s completely reasonable for a high strung shrew of a sister to expect her visiting sister not to make brief use of the kitchen hours and hours before Thanksgiving dinner to make sure her family has something to eat. You’re right.

This made my night. 😂

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I made six omelettes for visiting family this morning and had everything prepped, cooked and cleaned up in less than 30 minutes. There’s nothing to it. OP is in the wrong. You don’t send family members to Starbucks on Thanksgiving morning and you don’t expect growing boys to just eat a bagel.

Do you want a cookie? Its completely reasonable for OP to ask her sister to not use the kitchen for cooking breakfast on Thanksgiving. Now we don't know if OP escalated the situation with her tone or the way she presented it. But reasonable sisters should have been able to work something out where her adult nephews had a sufficient breakfast and OP had her kitchen to get an early start on dinner.

Yes, I agree: it’s completely reasonable for a high strung shrew of a sister to expect her visiting sister not to make brief use of the kitchen hours and hours before Thanksgiving dinner to make sure her family has something to eat. You’re right.

OP’s sister has found the thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What time is the Thanksgiving meal on Thursday? My family does this lovely tradition where the main meal is around 4pm and all are expected to survive on air until then.

OP here. Dinner is planned for 4. I know my family ( including my own two teenage boys) - we will be up late Wednesday night and everyone will sleep in late - like think noon. I initially said my plan was to have bagels and cream cheese and then light appetizers if people are still hungry before 4 pm. I actually thought about a breakfast casserole but I never got that far with my sister because she started getting bossy and obnoxious and we ended the call. To the PP who said something to the effect that we are both at fault- of course there is some truth to that - but my sister truly is obnoxious and I try time and time again to ignore her, which of course I’ll do this time too. And yes her “ kids” are adults - mid- twenties. I’ll have other food in the house but I will rethink serving more for breakfast based on suggestions here. I’m not trying to starve anyone but really need the kitchen space. I have a big house but a tiny kitchen. And it’s classic that rather than be gracious my sister is now refusing to bring anything. She’s being spiteful in my opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I made six omelettes for visiting family this morning and had everything prepped, cooked and cleaned up in less than 30 minutes. There’s nothing to it. OP is in the wrong. You don’t send family members to Starbucks on Thanksgiving morning and you don’t expect growing boys to just eat a bagel.

Do you want a cookie? Its completely reasonable for OP to ask her sister to not use the kitchen for cooking breakfast on Thanksgiving. Now we don't know if OP escalated the situation with her tone or the way she presented it. But reasonable sisters should have been able to work something out where her adult nephews had a sufficient breakfast and OP had her kitchen to get an early start on dinner.

Yes, I agree: it’s completely reasonable for a high strung shrew of a sister to expect her visiting sister not to make brief use of the kitchen hours and hours before Thanksgiving dinner to make sure her family has something to eat. You’re right.

OP’s sister has found the thread.

Lol. You are one nasty piece of work. Happy Thanksgiving!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What time is the Thanksgiving meal on Thursday? My family does this lovely tradition where the main meal is around 4pm and all are expected to survive on air until then.

OP here. Dinner is planned for 4. I know my family ( including my own two teenage boys) - we will be up late Wednesday night and everyone will sleep in late - like think noon. I initially said my plan was to have bagels and cream cheese and then light appetizers if people are still hungry before 4 pm. I actually thought about a breakfast casserole but I never got that far with my sister because she started getting bossy and obnoxious and we ended the call. To the PP who said something to the effect that we are both at fault- of course there is some truth to that - but my sister truly is obnoxious and I try time and time again to ignore her, which of course I’ll do this time too. And yes her “ kids” are adults - mid- twenties. I’ll have other food in the house but I will rethink serving more for breakfast based on suggestions here. I’m not trying to starve anyone but really need the kitchen space. I have a big house but a tiny kitchen. And it’s classic that rather than be gracious my sister is now refusing to bring anything. She’s being spiteful in my opinion.

You are nuts. It takes minutes to cook eggs and make toast. I hate bagels.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What time is the Thanksgiving meal on Thursday? My family does this lovely tradition where the main meal is around 4pm and all are expected to survive on air until then.

OP here. Dinner is planned for 4. I know my family ( including my own two teenage boys) - we will be up late Wednesday night and everyone will sleep in late - like think noon. I initially said my plan was to have bagels and cream cheese and then light appetizers if people are still hungry before 4 pm. I actually thought about a breakfast casserole but I never got that far with my sister because she started getting bossy and obnoxious and we ended the call. To the PP who said something to the effect that we are both at fault- of course there is some truth to that - but my sister truly is obnoxious and I try time and time again to ignore her, which of course I’ll do this time too. And yes her “ kids” are adults - mid- twenties. I’ll have other food in the house but I will rethink serving more for breakfast based on suggestions here. I’m not trying to starve anyone but really need the kitchen space. I have a big house but a tiny kitchen. And it’s classic that rather than be gracious my sister is now refusing to bring anything. She’s being spiteful in my opinion.

As a mediator, I will offer the simple observation that very rarely are longterm problems caused solely by one person. OP, you seem committed to your narrative that your sister is the one at fault and always has been. You seem rigid and expect everyone to be grateful for your hard work. This is unrealistic. Very few people in life want to be constantly grateful to others, especially when you have to be grateful even when what the person is offering doesn't work for you. People are grateful when one offers the help they need, not the help the offerer cares to provide.

I am not saying your sister is not at fault. It just seems to me that you truly can't take responsibility for the part you may have played in the trajectory of your relationship over the years, that has landed you in this situation today. I feel certain both of you are resentful of teh other and how each of you feels you are treated by the other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ewe. Who drinks bailey’s ?!

and BIL sounds like a dick requesting that. Just bring it to the hostess, dick. The hostess making sure everyone had "what they wanted to eat or drink" is a courtesy to make sure a few vegan requests are covered, or Aunt Edna's special gravy, if possible. It's not a free for all shopping list of every alcohol you may want to drink over Thanksgiving. If there's something you want to drink, you bring it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What time is the Thanksgiving meal on Thursday? My family does this lovely tradition where the main meal is around 4pm and all are expected to survive on air until then.

OP here. Dinner is planned for 4. I know my family ( including my own two teenage boys) - we will be up late Wednesday night and everyone will sleep in late - like think noon. I initially said my plan was to have bagels and cream cheese and then light appetizers if people are still hungry before 4 pm. I actually thought about a breakfast casserole but I never got that far with my sister because she started getting bossy and obnoxious and we ended the call. To the PP who said something to the effect that we are both at fault- of course there is some truth to that - but my sister truly is obnoxious and I try time and time again to ignore her, which of course I’ll do this time too. And yes her “ kids” are adults - mid- twenties. I’ll have other food in the house but I will rethink serving more for breakfast based on suggestions here. I’m not trying to starve anyone but really need the kitchen space. I have a big house but a tiny kitchen. And it’s classic that rather than be gracious my sister is now refusing to bring anything. She’s being spiteful in my opinion.

You are nuts. It takes minutes to cook eggs and make toast. I hate bagels.

You’re nuts. I hate eggs. Feel better?

[Anonymous]

Most people want something more than bagels. What is the big deal to make some pancakes, eggs, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What time is the Thanksgiving meal on Thursday? My family does this lovely tradition where the main meal is around 4pm and all are expected to survive on air until then.

OP here. Dinner is planned for 4. I know my family ( including my own two teenage boys) - we will be up late Wednesday night and everyone will sleep in late - like think noon. I initially said my plan was to have bagels and cream cheese and then light appetizers if people are still hungry before 4 pm. I actually thought about a breakfast casserole but I never got that far with my sister because she started getting bossy and obnoxious and we ended the call. To the PP who said something to the effect that we are both at fault- of course there is some truth to that - but my sister truly is obnoxious and I try time and time again to ignore her, which of course I’ll do this time too. And yes her “ kids” are adults - mid- twenties. I’ll have other food in the house but I will rethink serving more for breakfast based on suggestions here. I’m not trying to starve anyone but really need the kitchen space. I have a big house but a tiny kitchen. And it’s classic that rather than be gracious my sister is now refusing to bring anything. She’s being spiteful in my opinion.

You are nuts. It takes minutes to cook eggs and make toast. I hate bagels.

You’re nuts. I hate eggs. Feel better?

I hate eggs but I make them for others.

Expecting people not to eat until 4 PM is absurd. You need to feed breakfast and lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. If she had arranged bagels for breakfast why did you make the comment about not making a big breakfast? It sounds like she had it handled without needing the kitchen.

+1

Sounds like OP pissed her off.

Sounds like sis was going to bring bagels for everyone but also wanted to cook a big breakfast for her family.

Sounds like it is unrealistic to expect growing boys to eat just bagels, and the alternative it starbucks.

God, DCUM is so ridiculous about “growing boys,” acting as if they need to shovel in mounds of heavy, high calorie food into their mouths every two hours or they’ll wither and die on the vine.

They can eat (multiple) bagels and then eat the huge Thanksgiving spread. They’ll be just fine. Sister sounds like an enabling helicopter mom. NP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I made six omelettes for visiting family this morning and had everything prepped, cooked and cleaned up in less than 30 minutes. There’s nothing to it. OP is in the wrong. You don’t send family members to Starbucks on Thanksgiving morning and you don’t expect growing boys to just eat a bagel.

Do you want a cookie? Its completely reasonable for OP to ask her sister to not use the kitchen for cooking breakfast on Thanksgiving. Now we don't know if OP escalated the situation with her tone or the way she presented it. But reasonable sisters should have been able to work something out where her adult nephews had a sufficient breakfast and OP had her kitchen to get an early start on dinner.

Yes, I agree: it’s completely reasonable for a high strung shrew of a sister to expect her visiting sister not to make brief use of the kitchen hours and hours before Thanksgiving dinner to make sure her family has something to eat. You’re right.

OP’s sister has found the thread.

Far less witty of a response.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don't get it. If she had arranged bagels for breakfast why did you make the comment about not making a big breakfast? It sounds like she had it handled without needing the kitchen.

+1

Sounds like OP pissed her off.

Sounds like sis was going to bring bagels for everyone but also wanted to cook a big breakfast for her family.

Sounds like it is unrealistic to expect growing boys to eat just bagels, and the alternative it starbucks.

God, DCUM is so ridiculous about “growing boys,” acting as if they need to shovel in mounds of heavy, high calorie food into their mouths every two hours or they’ll wither and die on the vine.

They can eat (multiple) bagels and then eat the huge Thanksgiving spread. They’ll be just fine. Sister sounds like an enabling helicopter mom. NP

Just read the update that the “growing boys” are IN THEIR TWENTIES. Cripes. Did sister follow them to college to wipe their rear ends too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I made six omelettes for visiting family this morning and had everything prepped, cooked and cleaned up in less than 30 minutes. There’s nothing to it. OP is in the wrong. You don’t send family members to Starbucks on Thanksgiving morning and you don’t expect growing boys to just eat a bagel.

Do you want a cookie? Its completely reasonable for OP to ask her sister to not use the kitchen for cooking breakfast on Thanksgiving. Now we don't know if OP escalated the situation with her tone or the way she presented it. But reasonable sisters should have been able to work something out where her adult nephews had a sufficient breakfast and OP had her kitchen to get an early start on dinner.

Yes, I agree: it’s completely reasonable for a high strung shrew of a sister to expect her visiting sister not to make brief use of the kitchen hours and hours before Thanksgiving dinner to make sure her family has something to eat. You’re right.

Who said hours and hours? Plan was to serve bagels around noon when folks are expected up. Light apps before dinner at 4. You literally think people can’t go two hours without food. Are you obese?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I made six omelettes for visiting family this morning and had everything prepped, cooked and cleaned up in less than 30 minutes. There’s nothing to it. OP is in the wrong. You don’t send family members to Starbucks on Thanksgiving morning and you don’t expect growing boys to just eat a bagel.

this is absolutely insane. OP is making thanksgiving dinner for 15. every needs to stay out of the kitchen unless they are helping with the meal. what’s wrong with cereal or bagels? if you HAVE to have more, then go to McDonalds.