As a woman what have you learned about men?

[Anonymous]

Men, like women, are all over the place and impossible to generalize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you complain about something, they will try to find a solution. They don't want to just listen to a problem (even though sometimes that's all you want them to do).

I know a lot of frustrating women who are like this. -a woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

[Anonymous]

They have contempt for pretty much all women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are very similar to women despite denying it all the time.

The ones who think they know themselves well probably know themselves less than the ones who seem a bit closed off and reserved.

They have very strong emotions and cannot show them (don’t know how, after being brought up not to); they don’t really feel safe going in that direction with anyone, especially not a woman they are trying to seduce.

They are really fun and adventurous (well, some are). They live for the moment and check their worries at the door (well, some do) so when you’re out for dinner you can count on fun banter and not a therapy session. They are aware of the fact that their problems are not your problems. They are good team players that way.

They will help their friends and family whenever asked and will want to make you proud. But you gotta ask, they are not mind readers.

They are grateful for your time, for cooked food, for good sex, for your love. They might admit it about the food, but you can tell about the rest. :p

They take more risks (well, some do). They will also understand the men that live similarly and these types of men will stand by each other (for better or, often, for the worse :/) because the world wasn’t made for them.

Many do kind of travel in packs and like to identify leaders of their packs.

They like speed and things that have wheels and wings. (See risks and fun, above.)

They really just want to be accepted and not judged. That’s pretty much it.

That’s been my experience. I’ve had great luck not to come across predators, jerks (except from a distance) and the like. I have incredible guy friends and a DH who is my rock and our kids’ biggest hero.

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Well said

Alll that said, we live in a patriarchy where women are deprived their humanity and the ability to reach their potential. Just the other day women in ICELAND were on strike due to economic discrimination and sexual abuse. So, men are also all kinds of other, terrible things. I’ve just been able to skate around them and only tangentially suffer the consequences of a misogynistic world. A minority of insecure men spoil it for everyone else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

I believe the above. But the question was what have you learned about men, not how to get or keep one.

[Anonymous]

The center of their brain activity is in their 'd'. All decisions come from the 'd'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

[Anonymous]

Even the smartest men lose all judgement when seduced by a beautiful woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have contempt for pretty much all women.

No, but I think they fear women and that's why they need to control/dominate women - to be safe. It's almost a universal man thing.

[Anonymous]

If men or women who are cast in role of keepers of their parents(emotionally, logistically or financially), don't expect that to change after signing for marriage license. If its a problem for you, don't marry them. If you tried to change it, their guilt and anger over it would eat them up and sour your relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Read between the lines, - be nice, easy going, don't nag or harangue me - hahaha, just shut up about what you need and bone me. Seems confused about divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was brought up in an exceedingly conservative family and didn't understand the first thing about relationships.

But after extirpating myself, I now understand that the *benefit of the doubt* will be given to handsome men and pretty women, and even more so if they smile and are full of goodwill, and even more so if they dress well. That's a fundamental concept that's very important both in private and professional interactions. It may seem obvious to many, but it wasn't obvious to me, at all, coming out of my childhood. And that there is a certain currency given in regards to beauty and social graces for both sexes.

This is what I'm teaching my son and daughter.

what are you teaching them? that it's wrong? or to use it to their advantage?

The latter. Not that they're not particularly handsome/pretty, or social butterflies. They're your average teens. I'm teaching them to make whatever they have work for them, instead of leaving a lot of social capital by the wayside just because they don't realize they have it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men want someone attractive (subjectively to them, however that looks), kind, can hold a conversation beyond reality tv, has a degree, doesn’t insult them and likes sex a lot.

Really it’s that simple. Be nice. Be more easy going. Don’t nag and harangue too much. And just bone.

I’m probably getting divorced soon, so don’t listen to me, but as a man, that’s my advice.

You don't say?

What is wrong with what he said?

Read between the lines, - be nice, easy going, don't nag or harangue me - hahaha, just shut up about what you need and bone me. Seems confused about divorce.

Actually, he was pretty explicit. You don't need to read between the lines at all.

What do you want in a man? Someone who isn't nice, who nags and complains all the time and never wants to have sex with you. There is nothing wrong with what he said.

[Anonymous]

"A man is not a plan." Help her avoid being left destitute if a romantic relationship ends. If she wants to be a SAHM or work part-time after having kids, she should try to max out her retirement accounts every year before that (both 401k and a Roth IRA). Then, while she's staying home, she can have her husband contribute to a spousal IRA. Maintain a separate investment account even after marriage.