Homecoming dresses are so short!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And the girls all wear sneakers (at least in every picture I saw of a HC last weekend). I think it's pretty cute.

dressing like a street walker isn't "cute".

-parent of HS sophmore.

I make DD wear biker shorts underneath her dress, and it must come down a couple of inches below her bottom. Some of the dresses I've seen hit right below the butt cheeks. Some girls wear tube tops to school, and shorts that show the bottom of the butt cheeks.

How on earth is that appropriate attire for school?

The internalized misogyny is grotesque. Some of you are unbelievable.

you are the one who is unbelievable to think it's appropriate for a 14 yr old girl to wear such skimpy clothes that she might be mistaken for a street walker.

Have some class and self respect for yourself and your girls.

[Anonymous]

It's been this way for years, OP. My kids are still in elementary, but I distinctly remember seeing pictures of my cousins at their high school dances about 8-9 years ago and was shocked at what all of the girls were wearing. The dresses were so tight and short--like what you'd see 20-something women wear to go clubbing in Vegas. It didn't seem like an age-appropriate look for high schoolers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And the girls all wear sneakers (at least in every picture I saw of a HC last weekend). I think it's pretty cute.

dressing like a street walker isn't "cute".

-parent of HS sophmore.

I make DD wear biker shorts underneath her dress, and it must come down a couple of inches below her bottom. Some of the dresses I've seen hit right below the butt cheeks. Some girls wear tube tops to school, and shorts that show the bottom of the butt cheeks.

How on earth is that appropriate attire for school?

I thought schools have dress codes. Or did that go away?

I am not understanding how it's okay to show off have your belly and your part of your a$$, and have it not be a violation of any dress codes for school (assuming there is still one).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And the girls all wear sneakers (at least in every picture I saw of a HC last weekend). I think it's pretty cute.

dressing like a street walker isn't "cute".

-parent of HS sophmore.

I make DD wear biker shorts underneath her dress, and it must come down a couple of inches below her bottom. Some of the dresses I've seen hit right below the butt cheeks. Some girls wear tube tops to school, and shorts that show the bottom of the butt cheeks.

How on earth is that appropriate attire for school?

I don't think it's appropriate, but I also don't think it's appropriate to refer to other women/girls as streetwalkers. Do you teach your HS sophomore to refer to the ones you don't approve of like that?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And the girls all wear sneakers (at least in every picture I saw of a HC last weekend). I think it's pretty cute.

dressing like a street walker isn't "cute".

-parent of HS sophmore.

I make DD wear biker shorts underneath her dress, and it must come down a couple of inches below her bottom. Some of the dresses I've seen hit right below the butt cheeks. Some girls wear tube tops to school, and shorts that show the bottom of the butt cheeks.

How on earth is that appropriate attire for school?

I thought schools have dress codes. Or did that go away?

I am not understanding how it's okay to show off have your belly and your part of your a$$, and have it not be a violation of any dress codes for school (assuming there is still one).

^half = have

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's been this way for years, OP. My kids are still in elementary, but I distinctly remember seeing pictures of my cousins at their high school dances about 8-9 years ago and was shocked at what all of the girls were wearing. The dresses were so tight and short--like what you'd see 20-something women wear to go clubbing in Vegas. It didn't seem like an age-appropriate look for high schoolers.

+ 1. I distinctly remember seeing half the girls dressed like this at my (much younger) cousin’s bar mitzvah in about 2012 and was shocked. All the adults were.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please note what stays consistent over time - the boys are fully clothed and covered and girls boobs and asses are on display or hanging out.

But if you point this out, you are slut shaming them and also you should be body positive. Oh and also if a boy glances at their butt cheeks or boobs or notices when their crotch is on fully display, he is the problem and not the girl and it is their right to have their ass or boobs hanging out and the boys should all be better humans and not ever look or comment. This mindset totally works and all the boys handle this great because 16 and 17 year olds are super mature and have no raging hormones or lack of good judgment in groups.

It is the greatest that this is what our daughters want to wear and don't have a single opinion OP. And yep, I have a teen daughter.

+1
It’s beyond me how people think the expectation that only girls show their bodies is somehow liberating.

+1 IMO, it's sexualizing and objectifying girls even more.

-parent of teen DD and teen DS, and I'm somewhat of a feminist.

Those girls have zero respect for their own bodies. People have eyes. H3ll, even a woman/girl would notice your butt cheeks hanging out.

So if teen boys accidentally stare, is that frowned upon? Or are their owns only allowed to look from the neck up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parent of elementary age kids here, so I’m not in the homecoming/high school world yet. But seeing pics of friends and family’s daughters in their homecoming dresses and I’m just shocked at the short (dare I say slutty looking) dresses on all of the girls.

I am not a prude and not religious, etc - generally not a judgy person - but I am feeling like an old person with my reaction to these revealing dresses on young girls.

Am I alone?! Asking anonymously because I know I’ll sound judgy if I ask my friends who are parents of these girls. Dreading my daughter entering this scene and not sure how I’ll deal!

Just curious for thoughts on this topic.

Deal by not slut shaming your own child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parent of elementary age kids here, so I’m not in the homecoming/high school world yet. But seeing pics of friends and family’s daughters in their homecoming dresses and I’m just shocked at the short (dare I say slutty looking) dresses on all of the girls.

I am not a prude and not religious, etc - generally not a judgy person - but I am feeling like an old person with my reaction to these revealing dresses on young girls.

Am I alone?! Asking anonymously because I know I’ll sound judgy if I ask my friends who are parents of these girls. Dreading my daughter entering this scene and not sure how I’ll deal!

Just curious for thoughts on this topic.

Do we have to hear about how some poster is "not a prude but doesn't like the short dresses" every.Effing.Fall?

Yes, they're short. No, I don't care. Find a hobby.

[Anonymous]

I hate the fact that boys are expected to dress decently and “professional” looking. Long sleeve shirts with long pants and long sleeved jackets. Girls on the other hand are encouraged to show as much skin as possible. Why the double standard? Equality will come when girls don’t feel the need to “bare it all” just like the boys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Please note what stays consistent over time - the boys are fully clothed and covered and girls boobs and asses are on display or hanging out.

But if you point this out, you are slut shaming them and also you should be body positive. Oh and also if a boy glances at their butt cheeks or boobs or notices when their crotch is on fully display, he is the problem and not the girl and it is their right to have their ass or boobs hanging out and the boys should all be better humans and not ever look or comment. This mindset totally works and all the boys handle this great because 16 and 17 year olds are super mature and have no raging hormones or lack of good judgment in groups.

It is the greatest that this is what our daughters want to wear and don't have a single opinion OP. And yep, I have a teen daughter.

+1
It’s beyond me how people think the expectation that only girls show their bodies is somehow liberating.

+1 IMO, it's sexualizing and objectifying girls even more.

-parent of teen DD and teen DS, and I'm somewhat of a feminist.

Those girls have zero respect for their own bodies. People have eyes. H3ll, even a woman/girl would notice your butt cheeks hanging out.

So if teen boys accidentally stare, is that frowned upon? Or are their owns only allowed to look from the neck up?

No. Leering and catcalling, yes. Your boys aren't animals. Teach them to control themselves beyond the initial look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Parent of elementary age kids here, so I’m not in the homecoming/high school world yet. But seeing pics of friends and family’s daughters in their homecoming dresses and I’m just shocked at the short (dare I say slutty looking) dresses on all of the girls.

I am not a prude and not religious, etc - generally not a judgy person - but I am feeling like an old person with my reaction to these revealing dresses on young girls.

Am I alone?! Asking anonymously because I know I’ll sound judgy if I ask my friends who are parents of these girls. Dreading my daughter entering this scene and not sure how I’ll deal!

Just curious for thoughts on this topic.

Didn't even make it past the noon hour before my first slut-shaming post of the day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Parent of elementary age kids here, so I’m not in the homecoming/high school world yet. But seeing pics of friends and family’s daughters in their homecoming dresses and I’m just shocked at the short (dare I say slutty looking) dresses on all of the girls.

I am not a prude and not religious, etc - generally not a judgy person - but I am feeling like an old person with my reaction to these revealing dresses on young girls.

Am I alone?! Asking anonymously because I know I’ll sound judgy if I ask my friends who are parents of these girls. Dreading my daughter entering this scene and not sure how I’ll deal!

Just curious for thoughts on this topic.

Deal by not slut shaming your own child.

My DD is a senior and knew that a "bodycon" dress wouldn't be her best option, so she went with a v-neck dress with a "flouncy" bottom. It wasn't long, but it covered everything it needed to cover. She is well-endowed in the boob category, but it was still okay. In the group of 10 girls she was with, almost every girl had a non-tight dress. There are lots of options out there and honestly, I would just focus on instilling a body-positive image attitude and helping her to find silhouettes that flatter her and more importantly, that she feels comfortable in. If she's got the body for bodycon style, then just let her be -- and let her enjoy it. Likely that time in life will pass by pretty quickly anyway. For me, it's all about what my daughter feels most like herself in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And the girls all wear sneakers (at least in every picture I saw of a HC last weekend). I think it's pretty cute.

dressing like a street walker isn't "cute".

-parent of HS sophmore.

I make DD wear biker shorts underneath her dress, and it must come down a couple of inches below her bottom. Some of the dresses I've seen hit right below the butt cheeks. Some girls wear tube tops to school, and shorts that show the bottom of the butt cheeks.

How on earth is that appropriate attire for school?

Sexism and slut shaming isn't cute, either. But you seem to have that down pat, anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And the girls all wear sneakers (at least in every picture I saw of a HC last weekend). I think it's pretty cute.

dressing like a street walker isn't "cute".

-parent of HS sophmore.

I make DD wear biker shorts underneath her dress, and it must come down a couple of inches below her bottom. Some of the dresses I've seen hit right below the butt cheeks. Some girls wear tube tops to school, and shorts that show the bottom of the butt cheeks.

How on earth is that appropriate attire for school?

I thought schools have dress codes. Or did that go away?

I am not understanding how it's okay to show off have your belly and your part of your a$$, and have it not be a violation of any dress codes for school (assuming there is still one).

IMO, it's because most of the girls who dress this way in our HS are a particular skin color, and the admin don't want to be seen as racist.