Serious things you accept to stay marriage

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being a Nebraska football fan.

Tolerable for the most part as long as he isn't a Tom Osborne fan.

Our compromise is to watch women's volleyball instead.

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Yacht Rock

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Met and fell in love with a very amazing woman. Kissing, heavy petting but no PIV. Got to the point of frustration. Went to dinner and back to her house. Same thing, kissing and heavy petting. She broke off an embrace crying, saying she’s sorry, blah, blah, blah.
Make a long story short, she stands up, lifts her skirt and I saw an unmistakable bulge in her panties. 100 percent passable and would have never known she was trans. Have not married her but still with her after five years.

[Anonymous]

No sex for almost 20 years. Living here in the DMV when if it weren't for DH I would have left years ago. Living in FCC instead of DC.

All of this has been very much worth it. Love my DH to the moon and back.

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Anonymous wrote:I hate being an military spouse. I am suicidal from the isolation more often than not. But I love DH, so...

aww, where do you live or currently stationed?

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One kid.

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Anonymous wrote:Less sex than I would like, as a female. DH says I want it too much and need 4 men. I think he wants it too little!

…if there were only some way to connect with men in the mirror situation…

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Realities of DH:
- ADD (let me senior dog out to potty, forgot about him, and the dog drowned in the pool)
- on the spectrum
- career fell off a cliff 8 years ago (fired from job, accepted low paying government drone position and has never left)

It’s been a struggle, but we have two kids and I literally have zero family support so I’m not leaving. I make significantly more than him, and also work an extra 30 hours per month as an attorney freelancer (on top of my full time job) so we can have a nice life and have a vacation, throw a good bday party for the kids etc.

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To save our finances, meaning our ability to pay for college, provide stability to our children, and launch them in life, I put up with mental illness my spouse refuses to treat, and a total lack of emotional support and physical intimacy.

Similar. Untreated mental health issues, verbal and emotional abuse. Not really finances so much but stability for the kids.

Yeah, right.

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Anonymous wrote:No sex for almost 20 years. Living here in the DMV when if it weren't for DH I would have left years ago. Living in FCC instead of DC.

All of this has been very much worth it. Love my DH to the moon and back.

How are you able to cope with the no sex part?

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ther wife with a no drive husband.

I don’t cope. I’m an emotional mess. My body image is entirely threshed and taking care of myself while a nice release in the moment is depressing. I miss being desired and we are not as connected as we could be. He is aware of this and still does nothing. Head in the sand. I’m wretched around ovulation.

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Anonymous wrote:ther wife with a no drive husband.

I don’t cope. I’m an emotional mess. My body image is entirely threshed and taking care of myself while a nice release in the moment is depressing. I miss being desired and we are not as connected as we could be. He is aware of this and still does nothing. Head in the sand. I’m wretched around ovulation.

Another…

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Moderate to severe mental illness

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Anonymous wrote:ther wife with a no drive husband.

I don’t cope. I’m an emotional mess. My body image is entirely threshed and taking care of myself while a nice release in the moment is depressing. I miss being desired and we are not as connected as we could be. He is aware of this and still does nothing. Head in the sand. I’m wretched around ovulation.

Therapy for you and couples counseling for both of you. I have been in this situation, and you will only feel worse over time. And then you may do something stupid in your loneliness and desperation like have an affair, which I promise will only make everything so much worse. You may lose everything you value over not fixing this problem. I speak from experience!

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Anonymous wrote:No sex for almost 20 years. Living here in the DMV when if it weren't for DH I would have left years ago. Living in FCC instead of DC.

All of this has been very much worth it. Love my DH to the moon and back.

How are you able to cope with the no sex part?

PP here. I've just kind of forgotten about that part of myself. I've thought about finding an AP, but it's just not worth the effort/time/risk etc.