I like that my girlfriend was a virgin when we met

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

I'm sure there are but its interesting that you only mentioned girls and didn't say anything about boys.

[Anonymous]

Essence of the discussion: Just respect ALL choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah if we has used tampons this is not a “telltale sign” also my husband who has been married to me for over ten years couldn’t tell me when my period was. No way you know after a few months. This has to be a troll.

+1 ...and even if she did have an intact hymen (unlikely if the person had any level of physical activity), the amount of blood a torn one produced wouldn't likely be noticeable with all the other 'secretions' present at the time.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/body/22718-hymen

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why people are trying to prove that its impossible for anyone to be a virgin.

That being said, a very orthodox friend of mine told her sexually active kids to tell their matchmaker and potential that they are still virgins. I was quite surprised but found out that its a common practice among religious communities.

[Anonymous]

* and most parents don't even know or acknowledge so they aren't actually lying.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't understand why people are trying to prove that its impossible for anyone to be a virgin.

That being said, a very orthodox friend of mine told her sexually active kids to tell their matchmaker and potential that they are still virgins. I was quite surprised but found out that its a common practice among religious communities.

AND these are religious people regularly attending church or mosque and synagogue and only matchmaking with other religious people, though only high value ones like doctors, lawyers, Ivy leaguers, Wall Street bros etc.

[Anonymous]

It is foolish, selfish and very immature to believe being a virgin is a good thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. Please, sex is not rocket science.

You have apparently never known any Middle Easterners or Indians.

Actually, I am an Indian. And I was a virgin when I married, as was my DH. How hard was it to learn how to have amazing sex for us? LOL. Is there any dearth of material available now?

I am glad that my first sexual experience was with my husband because it was not only with a person who I loved and who loved me back, but it was also a person who would not betray my trust. Mentally, it allowed me to enjoy sex fully without guilt or fear, and made it exciting, pleasurable and intimate.

Sex for us was addictive and heady. It cemented our marital relationship because this was our first sexual relationship and we were not going to have other partners. So there was no reason for us to guard our hearts. Think back to your first crush and sexual experience. That chemistry was lost on some random person. If it would have been your spouse, it would have made your marriage magical.

Yes, as for sex is concerned - read the forums. No one is having sex with their spouses. People hate each other. People dislike the children they make. And WASP marriages do not last. How can it? The glue of sex has lost its effectiveness to make marriages stick because it has been relegated to a bodily function like taking dump.

Ouch but true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah if we has used tampons this is not a “telltale sign” also my husband who has been married to me for over ten years couldn’t tell me when my period was. No way you know after a few months. This has to be a troll.

Uhh. Guys definitely know if they had sex with a woman who is on her period. Your husband may be overly polite.

[Anonymous]

My ex-girlfriend was a virgin (she claimed). She had a huge, shall we say, appetite. But that was the same thing that caused her to say, thanks, now that I’ve had my first helpings, I want to be with other guys.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. Please, sex is not rocket science.

You have apparently never known any Middle Easterners or Indians.

Actually, I am an Indian. And I was a virgin when I married, as was my DH. How hard was it to learn how to have amazing sex for us? LOL. Is there any dearth of material available now?

I am glad that my first sexual experience was with my husband because it was not only with a person who I loved and who loved me back, but it was also a person who would not betray my trust. Mentally, it allowed me to enjoy sex fully without guilt or fear, and made it exciting, pleasurable and intimate.

Sex for us was addictive and heady. It cemented our marital relationship because this was our first sexual relationship and we were not going to have other partners. So there was no reason for us to guard our hearts. Think back to your first crush and sexual experience. That chemistry was lost on some random person. If it would have been your spouse, it would have made your marriage magical.

Yes, as for sex is concerned - read the forums. No one is having sex with their spouses. People hate each other. People dislike the children they make. And WASP marriages do not last. How can it? The glue of sex has lost its effectiveness to make marriages stick because it has been relegated to a bodily function like taking dump.

I am Middle Eastern and happy I waited until marriage to have sex, but lol, it did not make my marriage “magical.” And sometimes I do wonder, what would sex with another man be like? I will probably never know. I think part of the reason I really love sex is that my husband and I figured it out together and he was receptive to learning what gives me pleasure, but our marriage has a lot of problems.

Marriage can be very hard, particularly if you grew up with baggage. Waiting to have sex will not fix that or make it better. It may correlate to other factors, such as a cultural pressure to commit, but that doesn’t mean that Indian or Egyptian or Lebanese marriages are somehow better. Being unhappily married for 50 years is not an accomplishment, and I have seen plenty of people from the old country who are utterly miserable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

I'm sure there are but its interesting that you only mentioned girls and didn't say anything about boys.

Np here. I know you are going for a gotcha nut but pp is right women are gatekeepers when it comes to sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. Please, sex is not rocket science.

You have apparently never known any Middle Easterners or Indians.

Actually, I am an Indian. And I was a virgin when I married, as was my DH. How hard was it to learn how to have amazing sex for us? LOL. Is there any dearth of material available now?

I am glad that my first sexual experience was with my husband because it was not only with a person who I loved and who loved me back, but it was also a person who would not betray my trust. Mentally, it allowed me to enjoy sex fully without guilt or fear, and made it exciting, pleasurable and intimate.

Sex for us was addictive and heady. It cemented our marital relationship because this was our first sexual relationship and we were not going to have other partners. So there was no reason for us to guard our hearts. Think back to your first crush and sexual experience. That chemistry was lost on some random person. If it would have been your spouse, it would have made your marriage magical.

Yes, as for sex is concerned - read the forums. No one is having sex with their spouses. People hate each other. People dislike the children they make. And WASP marriages do not last. How can it? The glue of sex has lost its effectiveness to make marriages stick because it has been relegated to a bodily function like taking dump.

I am Middle Eastern and happy I waited until marriage to have sex, but lol, it did not make my marriage “magical.” And sometimes I do wonder, what would sex with another man be like? I will probably never know. I think part of the reason I really love sex is that my husband and I figured it out together and he was receptive to learning what gives me pleasure, but our marriage has a lot of problems.

Marriage can be very hard, particularly if you grew up with baggage. Waiting to have sex will not fix that or make it better. It may correlate to other factors, such as a cultural pressure to commit, but that doesn’t mean that Indian or Egyptian or Lebanese marriages are somehow better. Being unhappily married for 50 years is not an accomplishment, and I have seen plenty of people from the old country who are utterly miserable.

This is true but you aren't Middle Eastern

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Both are fine choices and neither tells anything about your character or sex drive, just about your cultural and personal preferences.

Exactly. End thread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nah if we has used tampons this is not a “telltale sign” also my husband who has been married to me for over ten years couldn’t tell me when my period was. No way you know after a few months. This has to be a troll.

Definitely a troll. The whole tell tale sign gave it away