I like that my girlfriend was a virgin when we met

[Anonymous]

I’m not religious at all, nor am I insecure about how I “measure up”, I just like that she’s never been with any other guys. I had no idea that she was a virgin until after the fact and then she told me, because she was mid 20’s and attractive. No clues outside certain body language that I chalked up to normal awkwardness.

Does this make me a bad person? Seems like in most cultures around the world it’s normal for men to want this but in the West we’re told it’s bad to want a virgin.

I don’t have this as a standard or anything because it’s not a realistic one to have once you hit your 20’s, but I feel very lucky.

[Anonymous]

Have you considered she maybe wasn’t a virgin but told you she was because she thought it would make her seem more attractive to you?

[Anonymous]

It's rare definitely. The ones I've heard have had it in other openings except their nani. The saying is, if you have a boyfriend you're having sex.

[Anonymous]

It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. Please, sex is not rocket science.

[Anonymous]

Congratulations??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you considered she maybe wasn’t a virgin but told you she was because she thought it would make her seem more attractive to you?

I don’t think so because she acted pretty inexperienced and nervous and there was the telltale physical sign (been several months now so I know that’s not her normal time of the month) and I didn’t say anything about caring about virginity, or anything that would suggest I care, since that would be a really weird way to start a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Nah if we has used tampons this is not a “telltale sign” also my husband who has been married to me for over ten years couldn’t tell me when my period was. No way you know after a few months. This has to be a troll.

[Anonymous]

She might dump you.

Is better to not be a Virgin when you have found your forever partner. So you have tried already and you're ready. She might get bored of you and leave you.

[Anonymous]

Many people in West likes to experiment first. And that's great! You don't want to be a Virgin, without any experience for future partners. It's your body, your choice. And many chooses well by not staying virgin.


That's why there aren't many virgins.
Most virgins comes from extreme religious fanatics cultists who keeps breeding children with their own children. Disgusting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not religious at all, nor am I insecure about how I “measure up”, I just like that she’s never been with any other guys. I had no idea that she was a virgin until after the fact and then she told me, because she was mid 20’s and attractive. No clues outside certain body language that I chalked up to normal awkwardness.

Does this make me a bad person? Seems like in most cultures around the world it’s normal for men to want this but in the West we’re told it’s bad to want a virgin.

I don’t have this as a standard or anything because it’s not a realistic one to have once you hit your 20’s, but I feel very lucky.

Lol OP

She's gonna dump you. Girls don't go fantasying the guys who popped their cherry. They dream about many other guys.
Since you were her first. She will get bored of you and find another guy.

People likes to experiment and that's great. Our body, our choice

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. Please, sex is not rocket science.

You have apparently never known any Middle Easterners or Indians.

[Anonymous]

Were you a virgin? Do you feel you’ve let her down by having other partners before her? Do you think she sees you as tainted or damaged because you let your junk get surrounded by a bunch of other hoohas before you met her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not religious at all, nor am I insecure about how I “measure up”, I just like that she’s never been with any other guys. I had no idea that she was a virgin until after the fact and then she told me, because she was mid 20’s and attractive. No clues outside certain body language that I chalked up to normal awkwardness.

Does this make me a bad person? Seems like in most cultures around the world it’s normal for men to want this but in the West we’re told it’s bad to want a virgin.

I don’t have this as a standard or anything because it’s not a realistic one to have once you hit your 20’s, but I feel very lucky.

Other cultures want you to marry the virgins though. If you want to go down this thread, you should absolutely feel ashamed for taking her virginity if you aren’t prepared to make her a wife and mother right now.

To make things right, you should man up, do the right thing, grab two witnesses and report to your local clergyman. Mazel Tov!

[Anonymous]

Were you a virgin? You should feel bad if not. By the same logic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not religious at all, nor am I insecure about how I “measure up”, I just like that she’s never been with any other guys. I had no idea that she was a virgin until after the fact and then she told me, because she was mid 20’s and attractive. No clues outside certain body language that I chalked up to normal awkwardness.

Does this make me a bad person? Seems like in most cultures around the world it’s normal for men to want this but in the West we’re told it’s bad to want a virgin.

I don’t have this as a standard or anything because it’s not a realistic one to have once you hit your 20’s, but I feel very lucky.

Troll level: journeyman. Nice try, and when I read the post I actually expected a better reaction, but this wasn’t subtle enough and people aren’t really taking the bait.