I like that my girlfriend was a virgin when we met

[Anonymous]

First, I claim troll because no 25 year old has a hymen still in tact so as to produce blood. That shit has long ago disappeared.

Second, assume that you will have a sexless relationship within a few months. She was okay not having sex for 10+ years (ie mid puberty forward, when you have pretty intense hormones - or at least, you should). If she was okay not having sex from age 15-25, she'll be super okay not having sex from when she has her first baby at age 32 until death. You okay with that?

If not, move along and let this museum artifact find a new boyfriend who isn't creepy.

[Anonymous]

It’s odd that you are chuffed by this

[Anonymous]

For the life of me I cannot imagine why you are posting on a parents message board -- DC Urban Moms -- about your GF's virginity.

[Anonymous]

I don't see what's wrong with being a virgin or wanting one, regardless of the gender. However, it's tough to find one in this day and age and no way to know if they are telling the truth.

[Anonymous]

Just the way we are accepting of other choices, why aren't we accepting of virginity?

[Anonymous]

There is some recurrent poster over the years claiming to be an awkward woman who never dated but was really good with kids. There was a lot about being shy and some social impairment, and a lot of threads staring off like "Men, would you date ..." and "Men, would you find this attractive ...?"

I was kind of wondering if this was the new hot take on the guy's perspective just so we can get the ball rolling on another conversation about how awkward people not into sex are super attractive and a real catch.

But if not, maybe DCUM could be ground zero for all of them finding tru love. That would be nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, I claim troll because no 25 year old has a hymen still in tact so as to produce blood. That shit has long ago disappeared.

Second, assume that you will have a sexless relationship within a few months. She was okay not having sex for 10+ years (ie mid puberty forward, when you have pretty intense hormones - or at least, you should). If she was okay not having sex from age 15-25, she'll be super okay not having sex from when she has her first baby at age 32 until death. You okay with that?

If not, move along and let this museum artifact find a new boyfriend who isn't creepy.

+1. I follow a great psychologist's blog who discusses this in detail. While men may love the idea that their wives only awakened sexually once they started having sex with him, any woman in her mid-20s who hasn't already had sex is likely to have a low sex drive within monogamy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. Please, sex is not rocket science.

Nailed it. Pun intended.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Were you a virgin? You should feel bad if not. By the same logic.

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[Anonymous]

Sure she was a virgin, OP.

And those are real orgasms she's having with you, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the life of me I cannot imagine why you are posting on a parents message board -- DC Urban Moms -- about your GF's virginity.

True but from the mom's stories on this sub you know that most of the moms here were or are chickenheads

[Anonymous]

Both are fine choices and neither tells anything about your character or sex drive, just about your cultural and personal preferences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. Please, sex is not rocket science.

You have apparently never known any Middle Easterners or Indians.

Actually, I am an Indian. And I was a virgin when I married, as was my DH. How hard was it to learn how to have amazing sex for us? LOL. Is there any dearth of material available now?

I am glad that my first sexual experience was with my husband because it was not only with a person who I loved and who loved me back, but it was also a person who would not betray my trust. Mentally, it allowed me to enjoy sex fully without guilt or fear, and made it exciting, pleasurable and intimate.

Sex for us was addictive and heady. It cemented our marital relationship because this was our first sexual relationship and we were not going to have other partners. So there was no reason for us to guard our hearts. Think back to your first crush and sexual experience. That chemistry was lost on some random person. If it would have been your spouse, it would have made your marriage magical.

Yes, as for sex is concerned - read the forums. No one is having sex with their spouses. People hate each other. People dislike the children they make. And WASP marriages do not last. How can it? The glue of sex has lost its effectiveness to make marriages stick because it has been relegated to a bodily function like taking dump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First, I claim troll because no 25 year old has a hymen still in tact so as to produce blood. That shit has long ago disappeared.

Second, assume that you will have a sexless relationship within a few months. She was okay not having sex for 10+ years (ie mid puberty forward, when you have pretty intense hormones - or at least, you should). If she was okay not having sex from age 15-25, she'll be super okay not having sex from when she has her first baby at age 32 until death. You okay with that?

If not, move along and let this museum artifact find a new boyfriend who isn't creepy.

+1. I follow a great psychologist's blog who discusses this in detail. While men may love the idea that their wives only awakened sexually once they started having sex with him, any woman in her mid-20s who hasn't already had sex is likely to have a low sex drive within monogamy.

Assuming they had a boyfriend yes. There's a whole thread about women over 35 who never had a boyfriend on here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is not so rare nowadays because USA is becoming more diverse culturally. There are many beautiful and smart girls who are more interested in education and jump starting their careers and their family culture does not encourage dating. They start dating only when they are economically independent in a high paying professional career.

Only the WASP culture in USA is obsessed about virginity or lack of it. Please, sex is not rocket science.

To be fair, unless there is a religious or cultural pressure, those girls would be more open to dating and relationships, but only with intentions to find a serious long term partner, not to just hook up with randos whenever feeling horny.