Do your parents/in laws know how much money you make?
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Anonymous
| Hell nope. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| No way. But they probably suspect a good amount |
Anonymous
| My sibling and I discussed it once, a long time ago (we were renovating a house, she was buying a new larger house). Haven't brought it up again |
Anonymous
Mine do as well. I think it’s because we live modestly and save a substantial amount in retirement. |
Anonymous
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I don’t think my parents know. My mom brags about my brother making money all the time, but my HHI is probably 3-4 times my brother’s
We’re a one fed one private sector family. They likely think I make too much (because all feds make too much). They have no idea what DH makes. They think we waste money. I bought $14 worth of grapes and my mom wouldn’t let it go. |
Anonymous
| My parents don't know and would be shocked at how much we earn. Neither do our adult kids although I think my DS is savvy enough to be in the ballpark on income. The kids do know that I (DW) is the primary earner. |
Anonymous
| Maybe me, because my salary is public record, if they cared enough tot look it up. Not my H though. If we shared total income ILs would not understand at all why we don’t jet out to CA to see them at every school long weekend. The answer is a) $3-5k for 4 tickets each trip is outrageous b) we are socking away for college and retirement (not something ILs ever did, college was covered by grandparents and the inheritance they received from MIL’s parents has generously funded their retirement) and c) we don’t want to spend every single vacation day we get visiting one side of the family (not $$ related, but still true). |
Anonymous
| Nope. My in laws seem to think DHs brother and his wife (who openly discuss their salaries) make way more than all of us, which works in our favor. I think they feel bad for us as they offer to pay for things here and there, little do any of them know DH and I make 100k more than them. |
Anonymous
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I don't talk with my parents about money.
My spouse tends to share more. My ILs might know but it's not a conversation I've had with them. |
Anonymous
| My SIL has an autistic son who will sometimes make comments about us having a lot of money. I assume he’s repeating things he’s hearing at home. I doubt she knows how much we make, but we have a nice house, cars, pay for private school, etc. |
Anonymous
| They have an idea because my husband is union UPS and that was in the news recently. DH is not a driver and makes more than a driver. I don’t know if they know that. But anyway, what they do know is he makes more than the rest of the family. Plus we bought a house two years ago and our kid goes to a private school. Easy to look all of that up and figure out how much we approximately make to afford those things. |
Anonymous
| No. If asked, I might tell my ILs, but absolutely would not tell my parents. |
Anonymous
Yes, this - people can guess what the ballpark is because of our house and the fact that kids are in private. I’ve never shared exact numbers and I think both sets of parents would be shocked at the actual number but they have a baseline minimum they would expect it to be based on lifestyle. I would suspect this is the situation most people who have a somewhat normal relationship with their parents would find themselves in. |
Anonymous
| Hell no. I would never tell my in-laws because then they would expect us to give them some/support them more. Instead we live well below our means, small house, and pretend we don't have any money. |