Do your parents/in laws know how much money you make?
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Anonymous
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Anonymous
| I’m a parent of adult kids. I know what most of my kids and their spouses make. Not down to the penny, but I have a good idea. Would you like to know? |
Anonymous
| NO way. |
Anonymous
| No. None of their business, they would not think to ask and l don’t offer the info. |
Anonymous
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We've never discussed it with them, and never would.
My FIL looked up my salary (I'm a state employee) and made much of knowing it. Classy guy. |
Anonymous
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My mother and her nosy, backstabbing sisters do not, because they would not use the information in a constructive way. My in-laws are a lot more reasonable and I have no problem sharing.
I have tried to build a relationship of trust with my kids such that if ever they have questions or issues, I hope they will come to me for help. |
Anonymous
| No. No idea. I doubt they know the name of my employer, even though I've been there a decade. |
Anonymous
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Yes! My siblings and parents know how much we make, we know how much they make, and we all know to pitch in for important stuff - buying home, weddings of kids, medical, education, funerals.
Are you kidding? Without family lending a hand, we could not have bought homes, kept business running etc. |
Anonymous
| No. I make more than my parents ever did, and it feels weird to share (even though I think this is what they wanted for me). My parents are very much "it's impolite to discuss money" types anyway. |
Anonymous
| My mom has a rough idea because she was also a fed. Whenever exact savings numbers come up she's always surprised but I think she forgets in 40 and I've had 15 years in the TSP. My in-laws do not and I have had to urgently pantomime "no!" at my husband when he's been on the verge of giving it away (I didn't get a stimulus check and they asked what I'd do with mine) because they're terrible with money and I don't want to be on their radar as a potential loan source. |
Anonymous
| No. |
Anonymous
| my parents do |
Anonymous
| Parents, ILs, and siblings all don't. |
Anonymous
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They have an idea, but not explicitly. My husband is pretty much capped out at his low six figure income, but I have a lot of earning potential - as we increase our HHI I can see myself working to downplay it more. I can already see our income causing some issues, particularly with his family, where we make many times more than any other couple.
It’s not as awesome as I thought it would be when I was broke. Maybe biggie smalls was onto something when he said “mo money, mo problems.” |
Anonymous
| Roughly. I would tell them if they asked. My in-laws are super secretive about money compared to mine, and I don’t think it has done them any good. |