Do your parents/in laws know how much money you make?

[Anonymous]

My parents know. My dad is very good at investing and has given us a lot of sound advice. My in-laws haven’t cared to ask.

[Anonymous]

No. There have been brief windows when they did. Or we did re: our kids. Even that wasn't exact. But, for the most part, no.

[Anonymous]

Nope

[Anonymous]

I told my mom (in the context of asking career advice) once several years ago. She doesn't know current. ILs and dad (parents are divorced) have never known.

[Anonymous]

I don't have contact with either of my parents. I am not sure my mother even knows where I went to college or what I do for a living. My father might know what I do for a living but not where I work or have any idea how much I earn. My inlaws know what I do for a living, what company I work for, but they don't know how much i earn.

[Anonymous]

I know what my kids make because they are early 20s, recent college grads. Neither is married

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:?

Parents have a sense. Unfortunately ILs do too and have been trying to pressure us to give them money.

[Anonymous]

No. My Dad was a School Principal and my mother never worked out of the home. I started making more than my Dad ever did when I was 32. I don't think they would judge us but they don't care about money in the slightest. My MIL is weird about money and makes comments all the time that insinuate that we want her money. It's funny because we're very HHI and don't want or need a dime from her. I think she realized how off-base she is about her assumptions when both our kids went to private colleges which we are paying 100% but our lifestyle has remained the same. She made some snide comment about how she couldn't believe we could afford it.

[Anonymous]

No. My parents seem to think we make less than we do. Whenever we get something (always a necessity like a new roof!) my mother asks "are you sure you can afford that?" and they try to give us money. His parents think the opposite and that we make MORE than we do. We did some remodeling and his dad made passive aggressive comments that "it must be nice to have the money for that". But we make less than he did in the 90s! We just budget properly.

[Anonymous]

Not how much I make, but thy know what I do for living and they can look up how much people make in my industry.
They don't know my net worth and offer to pay for everything.

[Anonymous]

My parents have a rough idea. In laws think we make much, much less than we do. Like an order of magnitude difference.

[Anonymous]

Of course not. My inlaws would think we are loaded, and would analyze every purchase. Plus my MIL in particular would think she deserves a cut.

In her culture having a lot of kids is the retirement plan.

[Anonymous]

Both sets of parents knew early on in my career. My parents haven’t asked recently, but probably know ballpark figures. My in-laws blabbed to distant relatives once, so we don’t share anymore. They still ask occasionally, but we just bring up the blabbing incident.

[Anonymous]

I’d say rough estimates, but not exact amounts.

[Anonymous]

I'm one of three sisters. Years ago, I found out that one of my sisters told my parents what her income was. I was aghast. My other sister's reaction was "Why are you surprised? She tells them everything." Flash forward, I have three young adult kids, ages 22-26. I have no idea what the oldest makes, which is completely typical of him. The middle kid mentioned in casual conversation how much he makes; also typical. The youngest, who just graduated from college, told us what she makes in the course of asking for financial advice and asked us not to tell her brothers. Again, typical. People are who they are.