So frustrated- MCPS Sports

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do Jewish people always make the biggest deal about their 2 holidays. You already get off. Everyone had to go to Thurs night football games.

Meanwhile Lunar New Year is still not a holiday and there is the same percentage that celebrate that - and Eid is barely recognized. My DD had a softball tournament Easter weekend last year. Sports happen. Choose your battles. She misses something. Life sucks.

Last time I checked, MCPS are public schools. If you want all of your religious holidays off and all the activities to shut down, go to religious schools. There are plenty of them all over the DC Metro.

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The term anti- Semitism gets thrown around too much. This isn’t it.

[Anonymous]

There are some ridiculous responses on this thread - apologies, OP.

I agree that this should be escalated. Not sure you'd have any changes in time for the next game, but patterns of poor coach behavior need to be documented.

[Anonymous]

The coach’s behavior is bullish!t. Sorry op. These are still kids. Why do so many adults make sports into an awful experience?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, look at all the anti-Semitism on this thread and ask yourself if you want th coach to be emboldened even further.

And this is the problem right here. Public schools don't owe you anything. The practice was during the day time. The End. If it conflicts with something for you later that night, then your daughter sits a game per the coach. It isn't anti-semitism and everyone is so sick of hearing this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, look at all the anti-Semitism on this thread and ask yourself if you want th coach to be emboldened even further.

And this is the problem right here. Public schools don't owe you anything. The practice was during the day time. The End. If it conflicts with something for you later that night, then your daughter sits a game per the coach. It isn't anti-semitism and everyone is so sick of hearing this.

Wrong. If a child has a religious holiday and must miss practice to observe that holiday it should be excused and they should not face consequences for missing a practice.

[Anonymous]

Assuming your DD is in HS, I would follow her lead or let her handle it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do Jewish people always make the biggest deal about their 2 holidays. You already get off. Everyone had to go to Thurs night football games.

Meanwhile Lunar New Year is still not a holiday and there is the same percentage that celebrate that - and Eid is barely recognized. My DD had a softball tournament Easter weekend last year. Sports happen. Choose your battles. She misses something. Life sucks.

Last time I checked, MCPS are public schools. If you want all of your religious holidays off and all the activities to shut down, go to religious schools. There are plenty of them all over the DC Metro.

What? OP’s child asked for 1 hour off for her own child. She did not ask for the practice to be changed or canceled. In what way does being respectful of a child’s religion hurt anyone? Make sure you are responding to the OP and not airing all of your grievances about the MCPS calendar or what not.

This was not a good reason to punish the child. Maybe we could switch it out for Easter or Christmas. Some of us don’t celebrate those so why not have school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, look at all the anti-Semitism on this thread and ask yourself if you want th coach to be emboldened even further.

And this is the problem right here. Public schools don't owe you anything. The practice was during the day time. The End. If it conflicts with something for you later that night, then your daughter sits a game per the coach. It isn't anti-semitism and everyone is so sick of hearing this.

Wrong. If a child has a religious holiday and must miss practice to observe that holiday it should be excused and they should not face consequences for missing a practice.

Sounds like the coach is either Jewish or knowledgeable enough about holidays to know that the observance doesn't begin until after practice ends. What op is asking for is have the right to go out of town.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do Jewish people always make the biggest deal about their 2 holidays. You already get off. Everyone had to go to Thurs night football games.

Meanwhile Lunar New Year is still not a holiday and there is the same percentage that celebrate that - and Eid is barely recognized. My DD had a softball tournament Easter weekend last year. Sports happen. Choose your battles. She misses something. Life sucks.

Last time I checked, MCPS are public schools. If you want all of your religious holidays off and all the activities to shut down, go to religious schools. There are plenty of them all over the DC Metro.

What? OP’s child asked for 1 hour off for her own child. She did not ask for the practice to be changed or canceled. In what way does being respectful of a child’s religion hurt anyone? Make sure you are responding to the OP and not airing all of your grievances about the MCPS calendar or what not.

There's no I in team.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here: I requested 1 hour early, not to miss completely. She gave them a week’s notice, but they only came to their decision last night.

1 weeks notice isn't near enough. The holiday observation should have been flagged as a conflict day 1.

Do you need to “flag” Christian holidays for coaches on “day 1” to give “enough” notice? Do you flag Christmas Eve and Easter each year? Is there a policy where everyone of every religion must flag their holidays on day 1 so the coaches have a full accounting? This isn’t some obscure holiday. The entire school system is usually closed but this year it happens to start on a Friday evening into Saturday. The entire system is closed on the Wednesday before Thanksgiving presumably because people need to travel and have a minute to prepare for holidays. The request is a reasonable excused absence and the retaliation of the coach is against policy and discriminatory.

Of course I would flag a Christian holiday early. An Buddist or Muslim one too for that matter. It's not the coaches job to track my thing. I need to be responsible and put it in their radar so they can prepare. Geez.

The student gave plenty of notice so they could “prepare.” It was on their radar. All kinds of other things come up (concussions, death in family, extreme thunderstorms) where there is even less advance notice and somehow these coaches are able to pivot and still run their practices. The punitive resolution is the issue.

Last ex use for your lack of communication.

[Anonymous]

Last excuse for lack of communication.

[Anonymous]

Assuming your DD is in HS, I would follow her lead or let her handle it.

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[Anonymous]

Once you step between the lines on that field you live by the coach’s rules. I remember having to practice on Good Friday to be allowed to play Holy Saturday.

The coach isn’t demanding your daughter practice during the holiday. He’s asking you to choose between a family event and the team. If you choose the family event, a kid who chose the team gets your daughter’s playing time. It’s that simple and it’s the only fair way to do it.

Playing competitive sports means you have to sacrifice family and social events for the team. The coach isn’t forcing you or your daughter to miss the holiday. Celebrate it closer to home and the problem is solved.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once you step between the lines on that field you live by the coach’s rules. I remember having to practice on Good Friday to be allowed to play Holy Saturday.

The coach isn’t demanding your daughter practice during the holiday. He’s asking you to choose between a family event and the team. If you choose the family event, a kid who chose the team gets your daughter’s playing time. It’s that simple and it’s the only fair way to do it.

Playing competitive sports means you have to sacrifice family and social events for the team. The coach isn’t forcing you or your daughter to miss the holiday. Celebrate it closer to home and the problem is solved.

A religious holiday is not a family event. It’s not like it’s a party.

[Anonymous]

Necessary detail is missing here. What time does the practice end?