Men can’t be tested for HPV so, no, he wasn’t able to be fully tested. It’s likely he could have passed it to you. |
And you are no longer negative. There’s nothing wrong with him reviewing his health concerns with his doctor. And if he decides that he’s not comfortable seeing you anymore - that’s an ok choice for him to make. |
That makes total sense. If he reaches out then you want nothing to do with him. What if he doesn’t reach out? |
Yes this is true and this is what I’m wondering too. No way to know though. |
I know. It still hurts and I still feel rejected though. |
Then nothing |
OP I’m getting the impression this guy doesn’t understand how HPV works and thinks you’ve been sleeping around. Did he say anything like that? I hope his speaking with a doctor corrects this, in which case he’s going to feel kind of dumb. |
Yeah that was my impression too. And he worked in healthcare so I thought he’d have more knowledge of this but didn’t. I explained everything I learned in detail but he didn’t seem to understand that he likely gave it to me, he very possibly will not have any symptoms, there is no way to test him to it and since I have it he also probably does too. Or maybe he just said all that stuff to break up with me and let me down easily? Who knows. |
I’m curious on how direct you were that he may have given it to you. |
Why? |
Did he understand that’s what you were saying? If you were vague, he may not have gotten it. |
I thought he did. I did mention that my PAP was normal and didn’t show any cell changes, which could mean a very recent infection meaning he gave it to me. I also repeated that men often show no symptoms. |
I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I’m a women’s health NP and I spend a LOT of time helping people, understand HPV, its prevalence ( almost all adults will be exposed at some point ), and how to think about it. If you think this guy is a good guy and you’re comfortable giving him the benefit of the doubt it may just be he doesn’t understand it. Hopefully he will get more information and be reasonable. But some people are jerks about this stuff no matter how much info they get. Best of luck to you. |
Thank you for your kind and caring response. I appreciate it. |
Dermatologists treat male hpv. He’s probably seen enough of it that he doesn’t want to get it. |