He doesn’t want to see me after I disclosed health results

Anonymous
Why are you asking her that, it’s irrelevant
Anonymous
I did have my suspicions that he was unfaithful to me. When I asked he insisted he was faithful but I felt like he was lying. I trusted him and I shouldn’t have been so trusting.

This feels awful. I don’t know what feels worse—that he could have given HPV to me or that I could have given it to him. (OP)
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It is completely relevant. Because if their relationship is sex-based, and he doesn't want to have sex with her because of the HPV, then why would he want to see her?

Aren’t all romantic relationships sex-based?
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Anonymous wrote:Why do people keep suggesting that OP’s guy was sleeping around?

Because she had a clean panel before they started sleeping together, and apparently so did he. So it sounds like he was sleeping around, got it from someone else, and gave to OP.


He did not have a “clean panel” for hpv, unless you are referring to someone looking at his or is and seeing no warts, but even that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t have hpv. she tested negative before she slept with him. He was not tested because there is not commercially available test for men. They slept together. She then tested positive. Either she got it from him, or she had it before and it was lying dormant and reactivated (this is one theory for how hpv acts - we don’t know if that actually happens for sure).
Anonymous
I am suprised by how many on here wouldn't want to be told and if told wouldn't care at all if their partner had an STI and gave it to them.

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Anonymous wrote:I am suprised by how many on here wouldn't want to be told and if told wouldn't care at all if their partner had an STI and gave it to them.


If you mean not disclosing a low-risk HPV strain even doctors say you don’t have to. The reason is because the likelihood of even symptoms can be low and if they do appear (warts) the body clears the virus naturally (or it becomes dormant, the science isn’t clear on that). Also, there is no test for men so why freak out over something that is most likely nothing?
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Anonymous wrote:I am suprised by how many on here wouldn't want to be told and if told wouldn't care at all if their partner had an STI and gave it to them.



He more likely gave it to her.
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Anonymous wrote:Unlike other STIs, there is no treatment for HPV, so it is not necessary to disclose HPV to current or previous sexual partners.


There is absolutely a treatment for HPV. I received intra urethral medication when I had virus and it cleared in one month. It was in Germany 20 years ago. It was some sort of anti viral and immunomodulator I believe

Really? I’ve never heard of this. Are you male or female PP? What was the medication called?
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Anonymous wrote:It’s weird that he wouldn’t want to see you after you shared the results.


He was probably sleeping with someone else and feels guilty.


NP Oh! My! Feigning HPV ignorance as he backs into the hedges and ghosts both OP and OW.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I can’t believe people flip out over low risk HPV.


PP here. I ended up with HSIL and eventual cervical cancer. Waited until marriage. Slept with one guy. Have one child and lifelong health issues because of it. Yeah - I flipped out.
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Anonymous wrote:Unlike other STIs, there is no treatment for HPV, so it is not necessary to disclose HPV to current or previous sexual partners.


There is absolutely a treatment for HPV. I received intra urethral medication when I had virus and it cleared in one month. It was in Germany 20 years ago. It was some sort of anti viral and immunomodulator I believe

Really? I’ve never heard of this. Are you male or female PP? What was the medication called?


I only recall the type but not the name. They inserted tube into urethra (pretty painful) and injected it there. US is so much behind other countries in some areas! The vaccine was also available upon request over 20 years ago
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Unlike other STIs, there is no treatment for HPV, so it is not necessary to disclose HPV to current or previous sexual partners.


There is absolutely a treatment for HPV. I received intra urethral medication when I had virus and it cleared in one month. It was in Germany 20 years ago. It was some sort of anti viral and immunomodulator I believe

Really? I’ve never heard of this. Are you male or female PP? What was the medication called?


DP. There are various treatments for the actual warts, including immune modulators. You wouldn’t get this for asymptomatic virus though.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:Unlike other STIs, there is no treatment for HPV, so it is not necessary to disclose HPV to current or previous sexual partners.


There is absolutely a treatment for HPV. I received intra urethral medication when I had virus and it cleared in one month. It was in Germany 20 years ago. It was some sort of anti viral and immunomodulator I believe

Really? I’ve never heard of this. Are you male or female PP? What was the medication called?


DP. There are various treatments for the actual warts, including immune modulators. You wouldn’t get this for asymptomatic virus though.


I’ve heard of prescription creams for genital warts but never heard of anything administered intra-urethrally.
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Anonymous wrote:I got HPV from my husband (only person I ever had sexual contact with). I wish I'd received that information prior to marrying him. Can't blame your boyfriend for ending it.

You mean he knew about it and didn’t tell you?


He knew about it (ex-gf had issues with it) and did not tell me, that's correct.
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Anonymous wrote:I got HPV from my husband (only person I ever had sexual contact with). I wish I'd received that information prior to marrying him. Can't blame your boyfriend for ending it.

OP here—I didn’t do anything wrong except trust this guy and get cheated on my my ex husband. The strain I tested positive for is low risk. Why should the guy leave me and you not blame him for it? I acted responsibly. And he very likely passed it to me!


If your ex cheated, you cannot say the new guy likely passed it on to you.
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