Coming from a lowkey racist WASP family

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:True WASPs aren't racist.

Laughable! WASP culture is absolutely racist.

No. True WASP culture is the type of Episcopalianism where you are very worried about racism and social justice but have no minority friends. It's about being overly obsequious to your housekeeper because she's "like family". It's about believing you couldn't possibly be racist because racism is a character flaw and WASPs don't have character flaws, they are the moral paradigms that all other Americans should strive to be.

Spot on. Watch Get Out.

+100

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP did you think your family is more racist than others because they are white? I'm sure your girlfriend's parents made similar comments about you, especially if you have an obviously WASP name.

Only whites can be racist.

By definition, BIPOC peoples are incapable of racism.

Who gets to make that definition?

[Anonymous]

So much overt racism against white people on this thread. Very disheartening.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Fwiw, many ethnicities are like that and it's fine when they do it. The only problem is when white people do it

OP here, yes I've experienced this too w/ the families of women I've dated. Asian family wanted their daughter dating an Asian guy not a white guy, Black family was the same. It's not limited to white people.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:[google]

Anonymous wrote:True WASPs aren't racist.

Laughable! WASP culture is absolutely racist.

No. True WASP culture is the type of Episcopalianism where you are very worried about racism and social justice but have no minority friends. It's about being overly obsequious to your housekeeper because she's "like family". It's about believing you couldn't possibly be racist because racism is a character flaw and WASPs don't have character flaws, they are the moral paradigms that all other Americans should strive to be.

LOL, this describes many Episcopalians I know.

Oh boy is this spot on!

x1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I married into an old money WASP family. My kids and I call out my ILs and try to educate them when they're being racist/homophobic/bigoted/victim shamer/etc. but my ILs very much have the attitude of "I'm too old to keep up with all these new rules."

I've been married to my wife for 25 years and no matter how many times I've told her that the correct term is either people of color or black, she still calls them "colored people" and says that back then, they wanted to be called colored instead of other things. Um, yeah, I guess if the options were colored or n-word, I'd pick colored, too, Jacqueline!

I'm from a Southern WASP family and no one uses colored people except the very, very old and they are largely dead. You and your wife are in your 50s? She didn't grow up in a time when it was acceptable to use colored people even if she may have heard her grandparents use the term. Because that would be the 1980s. Black and African American were what people used. I also don't genuinely think you could be married to her for 25 years and she'd still use the term because colored people was completely verboten for too many decades now.

Your story would have been a bit more plausible if you were talking about your mother in law. But even then it's a bit of a stretch.

[Anonymous]

I think everyone is somewhat racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think everyone is somewhat racist.

We had DEI training a few years ago and the (Black) leader said that everybody is racist, no matter your color. The issue is how you recognize it in yourself and mitigate it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Fwiw, many ethnicities are like that and it's fine when they do it. The only problem is when white people do it

OP here, yes I've experienced this too w/ the families of women I've dated. Asian family wanted their daughter dating an Asian guy not a white guy, Black family was the same. It's not limited to white people.

+1. I dated an Asian guy for a while and when his parents came to town he said he wasn't ready for me to meet them because it was a really big deal for his family. This is after he talked about us buying a house together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP did you think your family is more racist than others because they are white? I'm sure your girlfriend's parents made similar comments about you, especially if you have an obviously WASP name.

Only whites can be racist.

By definition, BIPOC peoples are incapable of racism.

Who gets to make that definition?

those who are marginalized. This is absolutely correct. Only whites can be racist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP did you think your family is more racist than others because they are white? I'm sure your girlfriend's parents made similar comments about you, especially if you have an obviously WASP name.

Only whites can be racist.

By definition, BIPOC peoples are incapable of racism.

Who gets to make that definition?

those who are marginalized. This is absolutely correct. Only whites can be racist.

I am a liberal, but this is one of those areas, like gender, where the new lefty shibboleths are so ridiculous that they are literally unbelievable. It is self-evident that non-whites can be racist. The evidence is there for all to see. Stop this nonsense, you are embarrassing yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP did you think your family is more racist than others because they are white? I'm sure your girlfriend's parents made similar comments about you, especially if you have an obviously WASP name.

Only whites can be racist.

By definition, BIPOC peoples are incapable of racism.

Who gets to make that definition?

those who are marginalized. This is absolutely correct. Only whites can be racist.

I am a liberal, but this is one of those areas, like gender, where the new lefty shibboleths are so ridiculous that they are literally unbelievable. It is self-evident that non-whites can be racist. The evidence is there for all to see. Stop this nonsense, you are embarrassing yourself.

You need to report to the nearest reeducation center.

[Anonymous]

There is nothing racist about white people commenting on the racist and problematic behavior of their own community. It’s being self-aware. If you have a problem with this, you should discover why. As for the other posts pointing out issues with other communities, start your own thread. This thread deals with WASPs.

For those who don’t think WASPs are racist, please explain to me why country clubs blocked memberships of minorities or different religions. Maybe the new breed of Episcopalians are more enlightened but the older generation were low key racists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is nothing racist about white people commenting on the racist and problematic behavior of their own community. It’s being self-aware. If you have a problem with this, you should discover why. As for the other posts pointing out issues with other communities, start your own thread. This thread deals with WASPs.

For those who don’t think WASPs are racist, please explain to me why country clubs blocked memberships of minorities or different religions. Maybe the new breed of Episcopalians are more enlightened but the older generation were low key racists.

This point about older generations is largely correct. But not even universally. Our fancy local country club blocked Jews like our family doctor, so my parents joined the YMCA outdoor pool instead. They were Episcopalian, as were a number of the other Y members.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fwiw, many ethnicities are like that and it's fine when they do it. The only problem is when white people do it

It’s not fine when anyone does it. Stop.