How do you get over a crush?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get to know them, the crush will be crushed because everybody poops.

Don’t be alone with each other.

Google limerance.

We are never alone and I don’t see a scenario where we would be for work. We do speak or message daily about work.

[Anonymous]

I also had a crush on a coworker. We're both married with similarly aged kids but sometimes it felt like I actually had more in common with him than with my husband - we like similar music, have similar styles, similar backgrounds. I got pretty deep in the crush (of course nothing ever happened) and I had some serious NSFW dreams about him which made me feel AWFUL. As we continued working together, I started seeing so many things I disliked about him and I just "grew out of it". Now I can barely stand the guy!

[Anonymous]

Mine was super intense and lasted for years AND we had to work together all the time. He died, which solved it. Now I just miss him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine was super intense and lasted for years AND we had to work together all the time. He died, which solved it. Now I just miss him.

I am sorry, that must be terrible.

[Anonymous]

I had a pretty intense crush on a coworker for several years. I don’t know if they tired of me like the PP who can no longer stand him, or if they’ve simply moved on. I would like to think that they do think of me fondly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am married and have a crush on my married coworker. We only interact at work and only discuss work related topics, we don’t communicate outside of work.

I can’t stop thinking about my coworker. I am trying to lessen our work interactions and we don’t see each other often, but it is not helping. I would never acknowledge this crush to anyone and I just want it to end.

Its possible that this person if genuinely friendly with you to get their work done. I also work in corporate culture and people who are happy in theor marriages also talk really well with co-workers.

You will wreck another husband, wife and the children an entire family along with ruining your own wife/husband and kids. Karma / what goes around comes around ...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am married and have a crush on my married coworker. We only interact at work and only discuss work related topics, we don’t communicate outside of work.

I can’t stop thinking about my coworker. I am trying to lessen our work interactions and we don’t see each other often, but it is not helping. I would never acknowledge this crush to anyone and I just want it to end.

Its possible that this person if genuinely friendly with you to get their work done. I also work in corporate culture and people who are happy in theor marriages also talk really well with co-workers.

You will wreck another husband, wife and the children an entire family along with ruining your own wife/husband and kids. Karma / what goes around comes around ...

Where did I give any indication that I would try to have an affair? I don’t even know if my coworker sees me as anything other than a coworker they get along with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine was super intense and lasted for years AND we had to work together all the time. He died, which solved it. Now I just miss him.

I wouldn’t call this a crush. Limerence or a one sided emotional affair, maybe… but not a crush.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine was super intense and lasted for years AND we had to work together all the time. He died, which solved it. Now I just miss him.

Exactly the same experience. Gone way too soon (lung cancer) and left behind a beautiful young family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Mine was super intense and lasted for years AND we had to work together all the time. He died, which solved it. Now I just miss him.

I wouldn’t call this a crush. Limerence or a one sided emotional affair, maybe… but not a crush.

It is not an emotional affair or limerance if it’s not mutual. It’s a crush by definition.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine was super intense and lasted for years AND we had to work together all the time. He died, which solved it. Now I just miss him.

I wouldn’t call this a crush. Limerence or a one sided emotional affair, maybe… but not a crush.

It is not an emotional affair or limerance if it’s not mutual. It’s a crush by definition.

You don’t know what limerence even is- it can definitely be one sided.

[Anonymous]

Fastest way to get over a crush is to find a new crush. It’s like I lose all memory of my old infatuation when I get a new crush. I’m also not married though and it doesn’t sound like you like your husband that much. When I have a boyfriend I’m so obsessed with them that I don’t think of anyone else

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fastest way to get over a crush is to find a new crush. It’s like I lose all memory of my old infatuation when I get a new crush. I’m also not married though and it doesn’t sound like you like your husband that much. When I have a boyfriend I’m so obsessed with them that I don’t think of anyone else

You really can’t compare a boyfriend to a long term marriage, unless you live with your boyfriend for 20+ yrs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine was super intense and lasted for years AND we had to work together all the time. He died, which solved it. Now I just miss him.

I wouldn’t call this a crush. Limerence or a one sided emotional affair, maybe… but not a crush.

It is not an emotional affair or limerance if it’s not mutual. It’s a crush by definition.

You don’t know what limerence even is- it can definitely be one sided.

There’s no difference between what you’re calling limerence and a strong physical and personal attraction, otherwise known as a major crush.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine was super intense and lasted for years AND we had to work together all the time. He died, which solved it. Now I just miss him.

I wouldn’t call this a crush. Limerence or a one sided emotional affair, maybe… but not a crush.

It is not an emotional affair or limerance if it’s not mutual. It’s a crush by definition.

You don’t know what limerence even is- it can definitely be one sided.

There’s no difference between what you’re calling limerence and a strong physical and personal attraction, otherwise known as a major crush.

No, different words have different meanings. Limerence is different from a “crush.”