Is it rude if I don’t want my kid to go to a birthday party at 6PM?!

[Anonymous]

I would not be happy about this, OP! But I would make an exception, since it's family.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm going to go against the grain here and say an invitation to a party is not a summons. I would probably decline such an invitation. Husband can go and take gift. Why make yourselves miserable?

The only one who sounds miserable is OP. Nowhere in her post did she say this would throw her kid off balance for days on end. Op just has an extremely rigid plan with her kid and seems to freak out if she has to stray from it. They can go for dinner and leave around 730. I guarantee OPs kid will be fine if bedtime is 830 and not 8.

I would decline the party because neither my child nor I would enjoy it. I don't see the issue with that and think OP's DH is the one being needlessly rigid and stubborn.

+1

[Anonymous]

It's one night. I don't see the big deal in making an exception. Especially if your kid will have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's one night. I don't see the big deal in making an exception. Especially if your kid will have fun.

He is 3, not 30.

[Anonymous]

How far away is the party from your house? Let’s say its 20 mins.

Go to the party, get there right at 6. Stay for dinner at 7. Eave at 7:20 (pre cake) and get home at 7:40. No bath. 20 min bedtime routine, in bed on time, or if he needs a little more wind-down time, maybe 8:15. Make sure someone sits next to him in the car so he doesn’t fall asleep.

This sounds really doable and worthwhile.

[Anonymous]

This is crazy OP. Is it ideal? No, but my kids would be OVER THE MOON if they got to stay up late and go to their cousins birthday party...live a little!

[Anonymous]

Clearly OP does not like her SIL.

OP you are unreasonable. Yes, the party is late (unheard of in my experience), but it’s not a big deal. They are not asking you to fly cross country for a 4th birthday party. You will live if your son goes to bed an hour or so later.

Being so rigid is not going to serve you or your son well in life. I have 3 kids all older than yours and I used to be rigid like you and had to change a lot…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to go against the grain here and say an invitation to a party is not a summons. I would probably decline such an invitation. Husband can go and take gift. Why make yourselves miserable?

The only one who sounds miserable is OP. Nowhere in her post did she say this would throw her kid off balance for days on end. Op just has an extremely rigid plan with her kid and seems to freak out if she has to stray from it. They can go for dinner and leave around 730. I guarantee OPs kid will be fine if bedtime is 830 and not 8.

I would decline the party because neither my child nor I would enjoy it. I don't see the issue with that and think OP's DH is the one being needlessly rigid and stubborn.

I can see we don’t value family in the same way. I would be really sad if my niece/nephew did not attend my son birthday party because it would delay bedtime. How sad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to go against the grain here and say an invitation to a party is not a summons. I would probably decline such an invitation. Husband can go and take gift. Why make yourselves miserable?

The only one who sounds miserable is OP. Nowhere in her post did she say this would throw her kid off balance for days on end. Op just has an extremely rigid plan with her kid and seems to freak out if she has to stray from it. They can go for dinner and leave around 730. I guarantee OPs kid will be fine if bedtime is 830 and not 8.

I would decline the party because neither my child nor I would enjoy it. I don't see the issue with that and think OP's DH is the one being needlessly rigid and stubborn.

I can see we don’t value family in the same way. I would be really sad if my niece/nephew did not attend my son birthday party because it would delay bedtime. How sad

That’s because you only care about yourself. You are not thinking of your niece/nephew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to go against the grain here and say an invitation to a party is not a summons. I would probably decline such an invitation. Husband can go and take gift. Why make yourselves miserable?

The only one who sounds miserable is OP. Nowhere in her post did she say this would throw her kid off balance for days on end. Op just has an extremely rigid plan with her kid and seems to freak out if she has to stray from it. They can go for dinner and leave around 730. I guarantee OPs kid will be fine if bedtime is 830 and not 8.

I would decline the party because neither my child nor I would enjoy it. I don't see the issue with that and think OP's DH is the one being needlessly rigid and stubborn.

Really? Your 3 year old wouldn't enjoy running around a play place an hour before their bedtime routine even starts?

[Anonymous]

Kid runs around from 6-7.7-20/730 you all eat pizza. Skip cake and ice cream. Get home and do quick bedtime routine. Kid is in bed 830-845 which is only a difference of 45 min. Seems so easily doable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to go against the grain here and say an invitation to a party is not a summons. I would probably decline such an invitation. Husband can go and take gift. Why make yourselves miserable?

The only one who sounds miserable is OP. Nowhere in her post did she say this would throw her kid off balance for days on end. Op just has an extremely rigid plan with her kid and seems to freak out if she has to stray from it. They can go for dinner and leave around 730. I guarantee OPs kid will be fine if bedtime is 830 and not 8.

I would decline the party because neither my child nor I would enjoy it. I don't see the issue with that and think OP's DH is the one being needlessly rigid and stubborn.

I can see we don’t value family in the same way. I would be really sad if my niece/nephew did not attend my son birthday party because it would delay bedtime. How sad

That’s because you only care about yourself. You are not thinking of your niece/nephew.

I would not have a birthday party at 6 PM, but if for whatever reason that was the only time I could find a place, I would absolutely expect my family to attend. It’s my child’s birthday so ai would be thinking about him before thinking about inconveniencing SIL for 30 min.

YOU are the selfish one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to go against the grain here and say an invitation to a party is not a summons. I would probably decline such an invitation. Husband can go and take gift. Why make yourselves miserable?

The only one who sounds miserable is OP. Nowhere in her post did she say this would throw her kid off balance for days on end. Op just has an extremely rigid plan with her kid and seems to freak out if she has to stray from it. They can go for dinner and leave around 730. I guarantee OPs kid will be fine if bedtime is 830 and not 8.

I would decline the party because neither my child nor I would enjoy it. I don't see the issue with that and think OP's DH is the one being needlessly rigid and stubborn.

Really? Your 3 year old wouldn't enjoy running around a play place an hour before their bedtime routine even starts?

Not if he is hungry and tired and cranky.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Its one night. I can't imagine going through life being this rigid and uptight

No need to name call (?!). For one of my kids, going to this party at age 3 would take a week to recover from (not me, the kid). We don't know OP's kid so we don't know the issues.

A week to recover from going to bed an hour late on one night? I call MAJOR BS!!

[Anonymous]

Some of you seem so difficult. Feed the kid before, let him run around for an hour, bow out when pizza is server at 7. Home by 730. Quick bath, read a couple books, bed by 815. There are so many work arounds between "not going" and "let me kid get hyped up on cake and ice cream at 8pm". Op seems like she wants to be difficult just to be difficult