Is it rude if I don’t want my kid to go to a birthday party at 6PM?!

[Anonymous]

It's one night OP. See how it goes, it may be fine or the kid may be fussy. Let dh deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is having her kids birthday tonight at 6PM at a ball pit/play gym park. The party starts at 6PM and dinner is at 7.

Her daughter is turning 4. My son is 3. 7pm is bathtime for us and he’s in bed by 8. It feels like a late birthday party and I really don’t want him wound up on cake and ice cream at 8pm at night. I really want to make up an excuse but my husband is adamant about it that he has to go and is expected to be there, I’m a little annoyed that my husband is being so pushy about it and that the party is scheduled so late on a weekday.

Your kid is an only, amrite?

[Anonymous]

Just go to the party. It’s your fam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is having her kids birthday tonight at 6PM at a ball pit/play gym park. The party starts at 6PM and dinner is at 7.

Her daughter is turning 4. My son is 3. 7pm is bathtime for us and he’s in bed by 8. It feels like a late birthday party and I really don’t want him wound up on cake and ice cream at 8pm at night. I really want to make up an excuse but my husband is adamant about it that he has to go and is expected to be there, I’m a little annoyed that my husband is being so pushy about it and that the party is scheduled so late on a weekday.

Yes you are being rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husbands sister is having her kids birthday tonight at 6PM at a ball pit/play gym park. The party starts at 6PM and dinner is at 7.

Her daughter is turning 4. My son is 3. 7pm is bathtime for us and he’s in bed by 8. It feels like a late birthday party and I really don’t want him wound up on cake and ice cream at 8pm at night. I really want to make up an excuse but my husband is adamant about it that he has to go and is expected to be there, I’m a little annoyed that my husband is being so pushy about it and that the party is scheduled so late on a weekday.

Your kid is an only, amrite?

No. And what is this supposed to mean. You sound a mom of 5.

[Anonymous]

Op here.

Yep, you’re all right. Im not fond of my SIL for a number of reasons, mainly because she doesn’t believe in vaccines and she and her kids aren’t as hygenic as I’d like them to be. My son always picks up some kind of a bug like clockwork in the last 3 play dates he’s had with them.

I really don’t want him to go because it’s a week before his birthday and I don’t want him picking up another bug from this Petri dish of a birthday party.

Yes, I have anxiety and am neurotic.

[Anonymous]

I agree it’s a little annoying, but I assume she scheduled on a weeknight for lower cost. However, being flexible and showing up are both great qualities I’m sure you’d like to instill in your son.

[Anonymous]

DH takes kid to party and handles bedtime. you have dinner with friend or go see a movie etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Yep, you’re all right. Im not fond of my SIL for a number of reasons, mainly because she doesn’t believe in vaccines and she and her kids aren’t as hygenic as I’d like them to be. My son always picks up some kind of a bug like clockwork in the last 3 play dates he’s had with them.

I really don’t want him to go because it’s a week before his birthday and I don’t want him picking up another bug from this Petri dish of a birthday party.

Yes, I have anxiety and am neurotic.

Learn to let go. You can’t control everything.

[Anonymous]

If it weren't family, I'd skip. For family, suck it up.

[Anonymous]

I mean, it's never rude to not go to a birthday party (okay maybe there might be a situation where it is). You're invited, not required. I don't think it would hurt your kid to be off routine for an evening, but if you think differently or just aren't interested in deviating. Don't go. Send the kid a birthday card and wish him happy birthday next time you see him. It won't be the last birthday party you miss for someone!

[Anonymous]

Having a preference is never rude

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Yep, you’re all right. Im not fond of my SIL for a number of reasons, mainly because she doesn’t believe in vaccines and she and her kids aren’t as hygenic as I’d like them to be. My son always picks up some kind of a bug like clockwork in the last 3 play dates he’s had with them.

I really don’t want him to go because it’s a week before his birthday and I don’t want him picking up another bug from this Petri dish of a birthday party.

Yes, I have anxiety and am neurotic.

Why are you bothering yammering here? Your husband has decided he wants to take the kid, let him take the kid. Your kid could just as easily get a bug elsewhere. Are you being treated for your anxiety? If not, you need to get some help. Your anxiety is more of a threat to your kid’s well-being than the occasional bug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here.

Yep, you’re all right. Im not fond of my SIL for a number of reasons, mainly because she doesn’t believe in vaccines and she and her kids aren’t as hygenic as I’d like them to be. My son always picks up some kind of a bug like clockwork in the last 3 play dates he’s had with them.

I really don’t want him to go because it’s a week before his birthday and I don’t want him picking up another bug from this Petri dish of a birthday party.

Yes, I have anxiety and am neurotic.

Why are you bothering yammering here? Your husband has decided he wants to take the kid, let him take the kid. Your kid could just as easily get a bug elsewhere. Are you being treated for your anxiety? If not, you need to get some help. Your anxiety is more of a threat to your kid’s well-being than the occasional bug.

Yeah OP should totally listen to advice about what is polite from the likes of you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having a preference is never rude

Did you just make this up? Because there are lots of examples where preferences can be rude.