Opening your front door

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody comes to your door for your benefit. I haven’t answered my door in years.

I get plenty of local political candidates and I learn a lot from talking to them.

Boy, are you a glutton for punishment. You learn a lot? From professional liars who are the ultimate in self-seeking?

[Anonymous]

Nope. And I have a sign saying no soliciting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I never open the door. Ever.

+1
My teenaged daughter was appalled by this - she said, "They can hear us!! They know we're in here!" I had to tell her it didn't matter. Just because we're home doesn't mean we're obligated to open the door.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody comes to your door for your benefit. I haven’t answered my door in years.

Not true. We often get packages that need signing. Just last week DH had something delivered that he mentioned to me and i immediately forgot about. Luckily I opened the door for the delivery person and signed for it- DH wasn’t home.
Generally, I’ll see who it is then decide on opening the door- clearly a delivery person (UPS truck, etc), neighbor or kid then I’ll open the door; someone who looks like a solicitor, then no.

I had an interesting experience a few weeks ago when I did open for a solicitor. I’m white and the solicitor started accusing me of being fearful of him (black male). He was saying things like “ I can tell I’m making you uncomfortable and it’s probably bc I’m a black male- look I’m stepping back..” I was mostly stunned and thinking “what the heck is he trying to sell.” He left without selling anything and saying he was leaving because i clearly didn’t want him there. Umm-yeah, no one likes solicitors knocking on their doors.

Yep. I am an equal opportunity no-door opener. I don't care if you're a woman - or purple. Not opening my door.

[Anonymous]

I’ve never lived with anyone and I’ve never hesitated to open my front door. I don’t live in the US though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do not open your door to strangers.

This. Anything else is plain stupid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never open the door. Ever.

+1
My teenaged daughter was appalled by this - she said, "They can hear us!! They know we're in here!" I had to tell her it didn't matter. Just because we're home doesn't mean we're obligated to open the door.

Kids are mostly (and shockingly!) unprepared to go away to college. They’re easy targets for assaults.

[Anonymous]

I live alone and open for deliveries that I am expecting and that’s it.

[Anonymous]

Do all the prior replying live in DC? It strikes me as beyond odd not to answer the door ever. I live in the burbs though and grew up in one too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nobody comes to your door for your benefit. I haven’t answered my door in years.

Not true. We often get packages that need signing. Just last week DH had something delivered that he mentioned to me and i immediately forgot about. Luckily I opened the door for the delivery person and signed for it- DH wasn’t home.
Generally, I’ll see who it is then decide on opening the door- clearly a delivery person (UPS truck, etc), neighbor or kid then I’ll open the door; someone who looks like a solicitor, then no.

I had an interesting experience a few weeks ago when I did open for a solicitor. I’m white and the solicitor started accusing me of being fearful of him (black male). He was saying things like “ I can tell I’m making you uncomfortable and it’s probably bc I’m a black male- look I’m stepping back..” I was mostly stunned and thinking “what the heck is he trying to sell.” He left without selling anything and saying he was leaving because i clearly didn’t want him there. Umm-yeah, no one likes solicitors knocking on their doors.

Do you happen to live in Cleveland Park? I have had an ear identical experience twice with the same man (months apart in his visits) accusing me of similar things with very similar if not identical language and never actually trying to sell me anything. I’ve been baffled both times by the experience as all I did was open my door when he knocked.and he almost instantly accused me of being afraid of him because he was Black. All I did was open my door and say hello…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This. I never open the door.

This is my favorite joke of his—and it’s so true!

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nobody comes to your door for your benefit. I haven’t answered my door in years.

+1

Only open if we are expecting someone. Otherwise, there is no point.

MIL jumps at the door and the phone. She did not grow up in the city. LOL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I open the front door whether my DH is home or not. If I’m not expecting someone and I’m busy, I might just ignore it.

I am fine with taking reasonable precautions but there’s a line where you’re holding yourself hostage to very, very small risks. I just can’t live like that. I’m not going to be constantly in fear just to reduce my risk from .0000002 to .0000001

“Hostage?” Are you always this dramatic.

You’re on my doorstep. I don’t know you. I don’t answer. You go away. I go on with my day. No “hostages” here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I open the front door whether my DH is home or not. If I’m not expecting someone and I’m busy, I might just ignore it.

I am fine with taking reasonable precautions but there’s a line where you’re holding yourself hostage to very, very small risks. I just can’t live like that. I’m not going to be constantly in fear just to reduce my risk from .0000002 to .0000001

So you WANT to buy a magazine subscription or decide to accept Jesus as your savior?

I occasionally get the religious people or the sales people, I just politely decline and close the door. More often it’s a neighbor or a delivery. Probably most often it’s a neighbor kid.