Opening your front door

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I open the front door whether my DH is home or not. If I’m not expecting someone and I’m busy, I might just ignore it.

I am fine with taking reasonable precautions but there’s a line where you’re holding yourself hostage to very, very small risks. I just can’t live like that. I’m not going to be constantly in fear just to reduce my risk from .0000002 to .0000001

So you WANT to buy a magazine subscription or decide to accept Jesus as your savior?

I occasionally get the religious people or the sales people, I just politely decline and close the door. More often it’s a neighbor or a delivery. Probably most often it’s a neighbor kid.

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This is normal human behavior.

[Anonymous]

I am a woman and I answer my door if someone is there. I gave dogs though so maybe that makes a difference. Sometimes it’s a neighbor and sometimes it’s a kid looking for my kid. On rare occasions it’s someone selling something and I just say no thank you and they go on their way.

[Anonymous]

I look out the peep hole to see if it is someone I know. Otherwise I do not open the door. I do not want to waste my time listening to someone tell me that they can repair my roof for free or whatever. Often I do not even have to look because solicitors step away from the door so they can not be seen in a camera...that puts them right in front of my window.

[Anonymous]

I use my doorbell camera. If it’s someone I know and/or am expecting, I open the door. If it’s a stranger soliciting or something, I don’t. That’s part safety and part I don’t want to waste my time telling the millionth landscaper that no, I don’t need your services.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody comes to your door for your benefit. I haven’t answered my door in years.

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Only open if we are expecting someone. Otherwise, there is no point.

MIL jumps at the door and the phone. She did not grow up in the city. LOL.

I grew up in a far bigger city than this. You guys just get off on talking about how much you dislike everyone.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I never open the door. Ever.

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My teenaged daughter was appalled by this - she said, "They can hear us!! They know we're in here!" I had to tell her it didn't matter. Just because we're home doesn't mean we're obligated to open the door.

+1 I would never open the door to someone I didn't know.

[Anonymous]

I never open my door; always a window to the side.

Besides my dogs go ape$hit if someone knocks so, better not to open it. And I do feel like, I literally double dog dare you to try to come into my house uninvited!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I never open the door. Ever.

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My teenaged daughter was appalled by this - she said, "They can hear us!! They know we're in here!" I had to tell her it didn't matter. Just because we're home doesn't mean we're obligated to open the door.

Kids are mostly (and shockingly!) unprepared to go away to college. They’re easy targets for assaults.

PP here and you're right. She moves off-campus next year and I really need to drive home the concept of NOT opening the door for anyone doesn't know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I open the front door whether my DH is home or not. If I’m not expecting someone and I’m busy, I might just ignore it.

I am fine with taking reasonable precautions but there’s a line where you’re holding yourself hostage to very, very small risks. I just can’t live like that. I’m not going to be constantly in fear just to reduce my risk from .0000002 to .0000001

“Hostage?” Are you always this dramatic.

You’re on my doorstep. I don’t know you. I don’t answer. You go away. I go on with my day. No “hostages” here.

This. Not getting the drama or outrage. No one is obligated to open their door to strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I use my doorbell camera. If it’s someone I know and/or am expecting, I open the door. If it’s a stranger soliciting or something, I don’t. That’s part safety and part I don’t want to waste my time telling the millionth landscaper that no, I don’t need your services.

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Additionally, some of these solicitors do NOT take no for an answer and want to stand there and argue with you. Moxie Pest Control, I'm looking at you and your idiot reps.

[Anonymous]

You gotta be really lonely to open the door for complete strangers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m single (so no DH to act as my protector- weird). If I’m expecting someone, of course I answer the front door. Depending on what I’m doing determines whether I answer an unexpected knock. But I’ve got storm doors, do I don’t open that.

Having a DH doesn't guarantee someone that acts like a protector to you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I open the front door whether my DH is home or not. If I’m not expecting someone and I’m busy, I might just ignore it.

I am fine with taking reasonable precautions but there’s a line where you’re holding yourself hostage to very, very small risks. I just can’t live like that. I’m not going to be constantly in fear just to reduce my risk from .0000002 to .0000001

“Hostage?” Are you always this dramatic.

You’re on my doorstep. I don’t know you. I don’t answer. You go away. I go on with my day. No “hostages” here.

This. Not getting the drama or outrage. No one is obligated to open their door to strangers.

The upset people in this thread are the ones not opening the doors. A small # of us have said that seems like bizarre overkill - I strongly suspect virtually all of the non-openers live in DC or other quasi-urban areas like near-in Arlington. I'm in the "boring" suburbs area and honestly would consider it rude to have a blanket policy of never opening my door if i'm not expecting someone. I think this depends a lot on what kind of neighborhood you live in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m single (so no DH to act as my protector- weird). If I’m expecting someone, of course I answer the front door. Depending on what I’m doing determines whether I answer an unexpected knock. But I’ve got storm doors, do I don’t open that.

Having a DH doesn't guarantee someone that acts like a protector to you.

Dp. My dh won't open the door, either, unless it's someone we're expecting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m single (so no DH to act as my protector- weird). If I’m expecting someone, of course I answer the front door. Depending on what I’m doing determines whether I answer an unexpected knock. But I’ve got storm doors, do I don’t open that.

Having a DH doesn't guarantee someone that acts like a protector to you.

That’s sad.

I consider myself a badass female who can hold my own, but sometimes I enjoy feeling protected.