How common is "failure to launch?"

[Anonymous]

What do you consider a "failure to launch"?

A 25 year old who lives with his parents and hasn't worked or done any schooling since graduating high school?

A 45 year old who isn't a coupled homeowner in a career job?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you consider a "failure to launch"?

A 25 year old who lives with his parents and hasn't worked or done any schooling since graduating high school?

A 45 year old who isn't a coupled homeowner in a career job?

The first, obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you consider a "failure to launch"?

A 25 year old who lives with his parents and hasn't worked or done any schooling since graduating high school?

A 45 year old who isn't a coupled homeowner in a career job?

The first, obviously.

I agree but I think some people would say both.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you consider a "failure to launch"?

A 25 year old who lives with his parents and hasn't worked or done any schooling since graduating high school?

A 45 year old who isn't a coupled homeowner in a career job?

is the 45 year old living at home and/or working a job?

[Anonymous]

In the movie ‘Failure to Launch’, the character is 35.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you consider a "failure to launch"?

A 25 year old who lives with his parents and hasn't worked or done any schooling since graduating high school?

A 45 year old who isn't a coupled homeowner in a career job?

The first, obviously.

I agree but I think some people would say both.

Not many. Homeownership does not equal financial independence from your parents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you consider a "failure to launch"?

A 25 year old who lives with his parents and hasn't worked or done any schooling since graduating high school?

A 45 year old who isn't a coupled homeowner in a career job?

is the 45 year old living at home and/or working a job?

Pp said they were in a career job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I immigrated from a culture where most people live in multi-generational families. In our society, no one fails to launch. People may not be earning a living but those who are at home are taking care of the home, family and social obligations.

My brother lost his job 5 yrs ago. He is 60 now. His wife is the breadwinner. He does projects at home. House repair, additions, medical care, veggi garden, selling of property, consolidating investments. He is busy as hell and will rake in big amounts of money with selling his property (he used to buy land for cheap at one point in life).

That's an early semi-retirement, not a failure to launch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you consider a "failure to launch"?

A 25 year old who lives with his parents and hasn't worked or done any schooling since graduating high school?

A 45 year old who isn't a coupled homeowner in a career job?

is the 45 year old living at home and/or working a job?

Pp said they were in a career job.

I meant NOT a coupled homeowner in a career job. So like 45 year old who works, but not really in a stable or well paid career, rents an apartment, and doesn't have a romantic partner or kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Usually "failure to launch" is just a rude term for someone who has intellectual, congitive, nueorcognitive and/or psychological struggles and either the parents went into deniaql and did not get adequate treatment or the parents did care, got help, but it was not enough.

Also, what is interesting is among the uber wealthy often it isn't referred to as "failure to launch" because the person lives off family wealth. I know several trust fund babies who label themselves as entrepreneurs or investors. Nobody bats an eyelash. If they are marries as long as they pay their pills-great. If the person is single, nobody seems to side-eye because the person doesn't live with parents. The person doesn't live with parents because there is lots of money to play with.

In my family, there are no failures to launch because the younger generation knows they'll get a swift kick in the behind should they be sitting on it for too long. That has worked for at least 3 generations, and I intend on keeping it going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone in my family launched, and I have a big family. But some moved out at 16, and some (me) at 23. Some moved back home after college for a few years before moving out permanently. Some moved out and became doctors, but their mommy called them every morning to wake them up until they got married and their wives took over that duty.

At what age do you consider someone failure to launch? Some said I was a failure because I lived at home until 23. Some say it's after 30 or 35....

There are different ways of living at home. Some do it productively and some not. My brother moved out at 27, but I don't consider him a failure to launch. He's been working since 15, going to college, then working full time. He was also a tremendous help to my parents in taking care of our elderly grandparents and a great aunt who lived nearby, driving them everywhere, etc. He was definitely not a failure to launch, just saving money to pay off the student loans quickly and buy a condo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Usually "failure to launch" is just a rude term for someone who has intellectual, congitive, nueorcognitive and/or psychological struggles and either the parents went into deniaql and did not get adequate treatment or the parents did care, got help, but it was not enough.

Also, what is interesting is among the uber wealthy often it isn't referred to as "failure to launch" because the person lives off family wealth. I know several trust fund babies who label themselves as entrepreneurs or investors. Nobody bats an eyelash. If they are marries as long as they pay their pills-great. If the person is single, nobody seems to side-eye because the person doesn't live with parents. The person doesn't live with parents because there is lots of money to play with.

I still consider it failure to launch, even if wealthy. Boss's daughter never held down a real job and flits around Europe in her 30s, totally on the parent's dime. I guess it's fine since they have the money to support it but I still don't consider her a fully "launched" adult.

Who cares what you think? It doesn't affect you or ask anything of you. Jealous?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone in my family launched, and I have a big family. But some moved out at 16, and some (me) at 23. Some moved back home after college for a few years before moving out permanently. Some moved out and became doctors, but their mommy called them every morning to wake them up until they got married and their wives took over that duty.

At what age do you consider someone failure to launch? Some said I was a failure because I lived at home until 23. Some say it's after 30 or 35....

There are different ways of living at home. Some do it productively and some not. My brother moved out at 27, but I don't consider him a failure to launch. He's been working since 15, going to college, then working full time. He was also a tremendous help to my parents in taking care of our elderly grandparents and a great aunt who lived nearby, driving them everywhere, etc. He was definitely not a failure to launch, just saving money to pay off the student loans quickly and buy a condo.

Agreed. Living at home as an adult does not automatically mean "failure to launch." I also come from fairly recent immigrants where living at home is pretty normal as an adult. My one side of the family basically lived on a family compound and the oldest of the family (9 kids from the two heads of the family who came here) all basically stayed their until they all died (2 remain, both in their 90s). The rest of the property was either sold off or younger members of the family live in the homes. Though they are not as tight knit a group as the elders were.

[Anonymous]

My brother has been babied, enabled, and shielded from the world by both his parents (we share a mom and have different dads). I think it’s fueled by their guilt over divorcing, codependence, and some toxic cultural cornerstones around boy children. I frankly think they’re doing him a disservice by not compelling him to find his way in the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What do you consider a "failure to launch"?

A 25 year old who lives with his parents and hasn't worked or done any schooling since graduating high school?

A 45 year old who isn't a coupled homeowner in a career job?

is the 45 year old living at home and/or working a job?

Pp said they were in a career job.

I read as isn’t a coupled homeowner in a career job- meaning single and not in a career job.