Son wants all-boys birthday party

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Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misygonistic jerk about this.

He's a little boy who wants a boys only party just like girls want only "girls" party! He has lots of time before he can be accused of misygonistic jerk!

Misogyny starts early. He probably gets it from his father.

[Anonymous]

The boy thing is a non-factor here. The solution is the same no matter who is on the guest list.

Since younger sister is not an invited guest, you don't have to make room for her during the planned activities. If this is a change from past parties (or even if it's not) you'll be doing everyone a kindness by making it clear up front to the parent of the invited guest.

Drop off, arranging a car pool, undertstanding that the mom and little sister may still hang around the venue, those are all fine solutions. But definitely be clear up front.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Let the girl come to the party! By no means do you need to provide her a space in the laser tag, etc. activity. She can come, hang out with her mom while the boys play the game, and eat some cake.

If the party isn’t drop off, I wouldn’t care if she came along and hung out with mom at the arcade or whatever else was going on in the venue while the boys did their activities

That doesn't sound like the issue because it wouldn't count towards the headcount. If the girl does the activity then it does and that's what OP is trying to avoid since this is a pattern with this mom and girl.

It sounds like it would be an issue for the birthday boy even if the mom paid for her daughter to play. And, chances are that the girl will want to participate; she has in the past.

[Anonymous]

I have 2 boys and a girl. Both boys have had all boy birthday parties since second grade.

I have had parents sometimes bring a sibling to drop off or pick up and sibling does not participate. I have thrown multiple laser tag and recently a paintball party. I can’t think of one time a younger sibling joined the arena. I have held laser tag parties both at a venue and in my backyard. One party some people played arcades with siblings. One time we had a backyard laser tag party. Two parents stayed with younger siblings. Oddly everyone else dropped off except the ones who stayed with the siblings. You would think the ones with the siblings would be the ones to leave. Anyways, both younger siblings did not play laser tag and sat in our backyard with their moms.

[Anonymous]

How old are the boys? If age 7 and up, just tell mom to drop off and no siblings for this one.

[Anonymous]

No, you should say on the invite that you can only accommodate invited guests. If she tags along with the little sister and it’s a public place, not much you can do. It would be very rude of her to try tic one into the party room though. Other option is not to invite the brother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misygonistic jerk about this.

He's a little boy who wants a boys only party just like girls want only "girls" party! He has lots of time before he can be accused of misygonistic jerk!

Misogyny starts early. He probably gets it from his father.

Our next door neighbors five year old daughter demanded an all girls party. My son, who she sometimes plays with, wasn’t invited while our other neighbors daughters were. Is that also misogyny?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misygonistic jerk about this.

He's a little boy who wants a boys only party just like girls want only "girls" party! He has lots of time before he can be accused of misygonistic jerk!

Misogyny starts early. He probably gets it from his father.

Our next door neighbors five year old daughter demanded an all girls party. My son, who she sometimes plays with, wasn’t invited while our other neighbors daughters were. Is that also misogyny?

I have boys and not invited the neighborhood girls. Never thought anything of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misygonistic jerk about this.

He's a little boy who wants a boys only party just like girls want only "girls" party! He has lots of time before he can be accused of misygonistic jerk!

Misogyny starts early. He probably gets it from his father.

Where do the girls who don't invite the boys learn misandry. From you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misygonistic jerk about this.

He's a little boy who wants a boys only party just like girls want only "girls" party! He has lots of time before he can be accused of misygonistic jerk!

Misogyny starts early. He probably gets it from his father.

Where do the girls who don't invite the boys learn misandry. From you?

My boys play with boys. I have never hosted a girl for a play date for my boys since kindergarten. In kindergarten, I liked a mom and we did a play date. We are still friends but our kids were never friends. In kindergarten, she invited my son to her daughter’s party and I invited her daughter to my son’s birthday party. Since then, we usually hang out just the moms or invite one another to family parties.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 boys and a girl. Both boys have had all boy birthday parties since second grade.

I have had parents sometimes bring a sibling to drop off or pick up and sibling does not participate. I have thrown multiple laser tag and recently a paintball party. I can’t think of one time a younger sibling joined the arena. I have held laser tag parties both at a venue and in my backyard. One party some people played arcades with siblings. One time we had a backyard laser tag party. Two parents stayed with younger siblings. Oddly everyone else dropped off except the ones who stayed with the siblings. You would think the ones with the siblings would be the ones to leave. Anyways, both younger siblings did not play laser tag and sat in our backyard with their moms.

This is absolutely atrocious horrible parenting because it only promotes gun violence and directly causes school shootings.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have 2 boys and a girl. Both boys have had all boy birthday parties since second grade.

I have had parents sometimes bring a sibling to drop off or pick up and sibling does not participate. I have thrown multiple laser tag and recently a paintball party. I can’t think of one time a younger sibling joined the arena. I have held laser tag parties both at a venue and in my backyard. One party some people played arcades with siblings. One time we had a backyard laser tag party. Two parents stayed with younger siblings. Oddly everyone else dropped off except the ones who stayed with the siblings. You would think the ones with the siblings would be the ones to leave. Anyways, both younger siblings did not play laser tag and sat in our backyard with their moms.

This is absolutely atrocious horrible parenting because it only promotes gun violence and directly causes school shootings.

It directly causes school shootings? Since when?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"

I agree. He is being a misygonistic jerk about this.

He's a little boy who wants a boys only party just like girls want only "girls" party! He has lots of time before he can be accused of misygonistic jerk!

Misogyny starts early. He probably gets it from his father.

Our next door neighbors five year old daughter demanded an all girls party. My son, who she sometimes plays with, wasn’t invited while our other neighbors daughters were. Is that also misogyny?

No. It's misandry.

[Anonymous]

It’s one kid, regardless of gender. It sounds like you don’t want to pay for her tbh. My son had an all-boys party and two boys brought their sisters (whom we paid for). Think of it as a kindness to the mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s one kid, regardless of gender. It sounds like you don’t want to pay for her tbh. My son had an all-boys party and two boys brought their sisters (whom we paid for). Think of it as a kindness to the mom.

Of course She doesn’t want to pay for the girl - she is not a guest that her son wants at *his* birthday party.

I am one of the kindest, “more the merrier” people when it fits, but really - “a kindness to the other mother”? What about a kindness to her son, who wants an all boy party with his peers on his birthday? Like to hear it or not, a three year younger sister changes the whole dynamic. It’s all a kindness to her son to set a boundary that allows him to experience his birthday the way he would like. This isn’t a random playground play date.