Son wants all-boys birthday party

[Anonymous]

My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't say you only want boys but, I would tell your friend that for this activity you have limited spots and if would be better if her son came solo. How much younger is the girl? You would think the mom would enjoy one on one time with her dd!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say you only want boys but, I would tell your friend that for this activity you have limited spots and if would be better if her son came solo. How much younger is the girl? You would think the mom would enjoy one on one time with her dd!

She’s three years younger. I don’t think the mom has as much support from the dad

[Anonymous]

He should be able to invite who he wants, but I don’t understand why an additional person is an issue, tbh. Does she cause some sort of problem or is annoying? Or are you saying that if the little sibling were a boy it would be fine because that keeps it all boys? The only problem with the sibling is she’s a girl? Because that’s a bit odd, IMO.
At any rate, it’s fine so long as he’s ok knowing it means his friend might not be able to come if she can’t.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you offer to pick the boy up and take him to the party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you offer to pick the boy up and take him to the party?

Exactly what l was thinking. Bring him with you.

[Anonymous]

Just make it drop off or offer to pick up the boy in question. NBD.

[Anonymous]

Tell her that unfortunately you can't accommodate siblings this year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you offer to pick the boy up and take him to the party?

Exactly what l was thinking. Bring him with you.

+2 This is the answer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell her that unfortunately you can't accommodate siblings this year.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He should be able to invite who he wants, but I don’t understand why an additional person is an issue, tbh. Does she cause some sort of problem or is annoying? Or are you saying that if the little sibling were a boy it would be fine because that keeps it all boys? The only problem with the sibling is she’s a girl? Because that’s a bit odd, IMO.
At any rate, it’s fine so long as he’s ok knowing it means his friend might not be able to come if she can’t.

She's 3 years younger than the boys. That's likely a huge part of it. She's not friends with the birthday boy and he doesn't want her there. That's all that matters and if mom won't let her son go to a party unless his much younger sister can go too, then I feel pretty bad for the boy. 9 year old boys and 6 year old girls are not natural playmates (or whatever the ages are).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should be able to invite who he wants, but I don’t understand why an additional person is an issue, tbh. Does she cause some sort of problem or is annoying? Or are you saying that if the little sibling were a boy it would be fine because that keeps it all boys? The only problem with the sibling is she’s a girl? Because that’s a bit odd, IMO.
At any rate, it’s fine so long as he’s ok knowing it means his friend might not be able to come if she can’t.

She's 3 years younger than the boys. That's likely a huge part of it. She's not friends with the birthday boy and he doesn't want her there. That's all that matters and if mom won't let her son go to a party unless his much younger sister can go too, then I feel pretty bad for the boy. 9 year old boys and 6 year old girls are not natural playmates (or whatever the ages are).

Ok, but that’s not what OP said. If the birthday kid said I don’t want younger siblings there or I don’t want people who aren’t my friends there, that is one thing, but it sounds like the issue is not age or friendship but gender, which would bug me (which doesn’t matter, cause it’s not my kid).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He should be able to invite who he wants, but I don’t understand why an additional person is an issue, tbh. Does she cause some sort of problem or is annoying? Or are you saying that if the little sibling were a boy it would be fine because that keeps it all boys? The only problem with the sibling is she’s a girl? Because that’s a bit odd, IMO.
At any rate, it’s fine so long as he’s ok knowing it means his friend might not be able to come if she can’t.

She's 3 years younger than the boys. That's likely a huge part of it. She's not friends with the birthday boy and he doesn't want her there. That's all that matters and if mom won't let her son go to a party unless his much younger sister can go too, then I feel pretty bad for the boy. 9 year old boys and 6 year old girls are not natural playmates (or whatever the ages are).

Ok, but that’s not what OP said. If the birthday kid said I don’t want younger siblings there or I don’t want people who aren’t my friends there, that is one thing, but it sounds like the issue is not age or friendship but gender, which would bug me (which doesn’t matter, cause it’s not my kid).

Son wants an all boy birthday party. Nowhere does it say the little sister is his friend, he doesn't want to invite her because he already has his guest list in mind. She's not on it, therefore she's not his friend, and she's also not a boy. If she was his actual friend he would probably make an exception. That's all that matters.

[Anonymous]

Just tell the mom no siblings and offer to pick up friend or have him dropped off. I doubt a girl would want to play laser tag with a bunch of 3 years older boys anyway.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son wants an all-boys birthday party but he has a friend whose mom drags the little sister to all the parties.

She’s a sweetheart but we have a limited headcount and she would be the only girl at the party.

Should I just let her tag along anyway or should I tell the mom we only want boys?

The party involves an activity similar to laser tag.

I don't see what her gender has to do with it.

Surely, if your kid is old enough to play laser tag, then it's a drop off party right? Just say "Just a heads up that we can't accommodate siblings due to the headcount, but feel free to drop off!"