Poor, greedy, coarse behavior - what would you call it?

[Anonymous]

* see something “fascinating” lol

[Anonymous]

I think it’s just self absorbed. We were shocked at our midwestern family’s thanksgiving dinner when my cousin (the host) announced that dinner was ready and his brother in laws wife said loudly “well, I’m not shy more for me” and got up like lightening followed closely by some of the in-laws. I’ve never seen anything like it. It was like feeding time at the farm!

[Anonymous]

I'd call them "boors".

I live in a wealthy neighborhood of million dollar homes and the neighbor kids are just like this. They actually come into my house and check out my pantry and start eating every snack in sight. The first time it happened my kids were dumbfounded. They know we don't eat the lunch snacks because they're for lunch boxes, but didn't know what to tell a guest. I've hosted parties and they eat the entire tray of cookies (I saw at least 7 on one kid's plate of big cookies) / chocolates/ juice boxes (they each took 2-3!). They regularly take toys from my kids and play with them so roughly they're all broken. DH and I have drilled manners into our kids, but we've had to teach them since how to stand up for themselves and say no. If they ask for a toy you're enjoying- say no. If they ask you for your cookie and you don't have more- say no. If they tell you to go ask your mom to make everyone hot chocolates (wtf?)- say no.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s just self absorbed. We were shocked at our midwestern family’s thanksgiving dinner when my cousin (the host) announced that dinner was ready and his brother in laws wife said loudly “well, I’m not shy more for me” and got up like lightening followed closely by some of the in-laws. I’ve never seen anything like it. It was like feeding time at the farm!

In my family we'd congratulate her and tell her to "put the feed bag on".

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s just self absorbed. We were shocked at our midwestern family’s thanksgiving dinner when my cousin (the host) announced that dinner was ready and his brother in laws wife said loudly “well, I’m not shy more for me” and got up like lightening followed closely by some of the in-laws. I’ve never seen anything like it. It was like feeding time at the farm!

In my family we'd congratulate her and tell her to "put the feed bag on".

Midwesterners aren't known for sophistication.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP mad she didn't wolf down the chocolates. Shows she is just as crass as her siblings.

I thought the issue is more of portion control or lack thereof. I bet the sisters are obese.

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Anonymous wrote:OP mad she didn't wolf down the chocolates. Shows she is just as crass as her siblings.

I thought the issue is more of portion control or lack thereof. I bet the sisters are obese.

Not really, if they were, the OP would certainly mention it. I read it like the previous poster, she didn't want them eating what she perceived as 'her' candy.

[Anonymous]

Yes, boors, or even ignorant boors, since they don’t seem to know better.

Sometimes it takes a bit to get gracious habits to first be observed, and then hopefully copied. I remember when I had no idea to take a gift when invited to dinner. Young, and pre internet. What an advantage the uneducated have with the whole internet, if they are just curious to ask!

[Anonymous]

Is the family big? It’s usually in big families that don’t have resources have everyone fend for themselves mentality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s just self absorbed. We were shocked at our midwestern family’s thanksgiving dinner when my cousin (the host) announced that dinner was ready and his brother in laws wife said loudly “well, I’m not shy more for me” and got up like lightening followed closely by some of the in-laws. I’ve never seen anything like it. It was like feeding time at the farm!

Sounds like a cultural interpretation. You could look at this as flattery to the chef. It actually sounds fine to me. A family member spent a long time cooking, another family member expressed enthusiasm to eat that cooking.

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Anonymous wrote:Clear this up for me, why should someone else stand or sit on the floor so that you can have their chair? Are you elderly, handicapped, pregnant? Or is it just that you are rich and therefore more important?

So you just remain seated and stare at your guests? Interesting.

Are family guests? I would never ever expect my parents to give up their seats for me or my partner/kids!

Chairs go by age and infirmity. I would never expect an older and more ill person to get up for me.

[Anonymous]

As kids, we always sat on the floor.

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Anonymous wrote:Clear this up for me, why should someone else stand or sit on the floor so that you can have their chair? Are you elderly, handicapped, pregnant? Or is it just that you are rich and therefore more important?

So you just remain seated and stare at your guests? Interesting.

Are family guests? I would never ever expect my parents to give up their seats for me or my partner/kids!

Chairs go by age and infirmity. I would never expect an older and more ill person to get up for me.

Chairs are… something you have enough of for the number of guests you have? Even if that means bringing folding plastic chairs out or using ottomans as chairs. You don’t just do nothing though.

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Anonymous wrote:Clear this up for me, why should someone else stand or sit on the floor so that you can have their chair? Are you elderly, handicapped, pregnant? Or is it just that you are rich and therefore more important?

So you just remain seated and stare at your guests? Interesting.

Are family guests? I would never ever expect my parents to give up their seats for me or my partner/kids!

Chairs go by age and infirmity. I would never expect an older and more ill person to get up for me.

Chairs are… something you have enough of for the number of guests you have? Even if that means bringing folding plastic chairs out or using ottomans as chairs. You don’t just do nothing though.

Kids sit on the floor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s just self absorbed. We were shocked at our midwestern family’s thanksgiving dinner when my cousin (the host) announced that dinner was ready and his brother in laws wife said loudly “well, I’m not shy more for me” and got up like lightening followed closely by some of the in-laws. I’ve never seen anything like it. It was like feeding time at the farm!

I actually think that’s hilarious and good for her/them. Nothing worse than “dinner’s ready” then everyone is too polite/nervous/zoned out drunk to actually come to the table on time, then the food starts to get cold, and everyone is jockeying for the microwave or stuff has to go back in the oven. Not that my IL’s have actually done that or anything (spoiler: they totally do that every year and then we end up eating at 9 pm).