Other kids asking for toys at the park

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, judging by these comments clearly you will be providing a valuable service by allowing other children the opportunity to gaze upon something desirable and be told they are not allowed to use it. Otherwise imagine them as adults. Asking to use other adult's new phones, or drive their cars, or borrow their make up....terrible.

If my kid has it, he can say "No, sorry, my mom says I can't lend it to anybody." If the child asks why, he can say "I don't know." Repeat as necessary. Usually repetition is not necessary.

If I have it and a child asks me I say "No, I'm sorry, we don't lend this out." Why? "That's just not something we do." Repeat as necessary.

I've only had one kid and one grown up get really rude and salty. It's when I was using an adult kick scooter and the brakes were weird. Instead of just saying no like I usually do, I said, "no, sorry, it's not safe the brakes are being weird." I was on my way to put it in the car because I was done with it. The kid and his grandmother (?) both wanted to debate me. I finally just said "This is so strange. I said no. Please leave me alone." Grandma did a lot of muttering and shaking her head.

But usually kids take it well and their parents either ignore or they yell from afar "They lady is saying no Larlo, find something else to do."

+100000

I was thinking the same thing. Kids need to learn to say no and hear no. Otherwise, they’d turn into all the other posters on this thread when they grow up. We bring our bikes and scooters to the park as transportation. No one has ever asked to use them.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s pretty mean to bring those types of cool toys to a busy park and have fun playing while other people can’t play it too. It’s like bragging - are you allowed, is it legal? Sure, but that doesn’t make it nice.

Play with them in a more empty open space.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say no.

“Thank you for asking, but no, you can’t borrow the hover board”.

Why on earth would you thank someone for asking to use your stuff??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s pretty mean to bring those types of cool toys to a busy park and have fun playing while other people can’t play it too. It’s like bragging - are you allowed, is it legal? Sure, but that doesn’t make it nice.

Play with them in a more empty open space.

Omg I can’t even with some of you people anymore.
If that’s the case, you can only ride/use your stuff where absolute no one else is around lest they see you enjoying it and get sad. We can’t let that happen now can we?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because playground rules are that everything there is a shared commodity. It’s the whole culture of the playground.

If you don’t want to share, find a park that doesn’t have many kids in it and doesn’t have a playground or ball court nearby.

You don’t bring an attractive item to a playground, which is a community play space, and then say, “no, this is just for me.”

This may be true for kids who are under 5, but the kids at issue here are 7-12. They are perfectly capable of understanding that people are not obligated to share their personal belongings. Interesting how adults think that kids should be forced to share their toys/items, but how many adults share their iphones, cameras, etc. with other adults they don't know?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say no.

“Thank you for asking, but no, you can’t borrow the hover board”.

Why on earth would you thank someone for asking to use your stuff??

You don’t have to. You can just say no (which I think is completely acceptable). The thank you helps ease and buffer the answer for kids. Apparently some of these parents on this thread can’t seem to do that.

Personally, I don’t think kids don’t need to share their toys, and they should feel free to take their hoverboards, scooters in anything they like to the park. Just because you’re in a community space doesn’t mean your items become community items. A playground is a place to learn and kids should feel free to share or not share their toys. So that means some kid will learn not to touch and that not everything is for them to play with. They learn boundaries. I think a lot of people need to learn boundaries from early on and it starts with young kids, and these are lessons you take to adulthood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't bring toys to the park.

These aren't toddlers. They can hear and deal with "no."

[Anonymous]

Laughing at some of these responses. Your 7 - 12 year olds are not entitled to use someone else's stuff just because they see it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t bring things to the park that you don’t want to share.

+1

+2. Makes your life simpler.

+3. If a scooter is transportation, it should be against the fence when not in use. If it’s a toy to play with, share or leave in the car.

NP but other kids are definitely going to help themselves to it if it’s not locked.

This may vary. We’re in the city where people walk/bike/scoot and don’t drive to the park. There are rows of bikes and scooters on the fence and nobody touches them. Never in our 8 years of playground have I seen kids touch them. Different if they’re brought into the playground area and played with like a toy. Maybe PP is in the suburbs?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just say "No", FFS!

Understand that bringing expensive toys can make your kids target for resentment and jealousy from the poors. Otherwise, just say "No".

The "poor's"?! Be careful and remember you could get nasty diseases from the "poor's.". You are a real piece of work with seriously unpleasant character flaws.

[Anonymous]

A perennial DCUM thread

Bringing your own toys to the playground-what's the etiquette?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/60/563150.page

bringing toys to the playground and not sharing
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/803872.page

Sharing toys with strangers went bye bye... courtesy Covid.
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/959966.page

[Anonymous]

I just say no, even to borrowing cheap stuff. Random kids will take your bucket and shovel, wander off and leave it somewhere and then you are left to track it down. No thanks. I have no problem saying no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because playground rules are that everything there is a shared commodity. It’s the whole culture of the playground.

If you don’t want to share, find a park that doesn’t have many kids in it and doesn’t have a playground or ball court nearby.

You don’t bring an attractive item to a playground, which is a community play space, and then say, “no, this is just for me.”

Playground rules are that stuff that is provided in the playground is communal property and people have to take turns.

It does not mean that your stroller, your toys, your ball is also communal property.

The etiquettes are to take turns, keep the space clean, do not litter, do not bring pets that are unleashed, clean up after your pets, keep is safe, hygienic and polite.

It does not mean that you have to share your own personal things when you don't want to.

What about snacks? what if other kids want the snack that your kid is eating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say "No", FFS!

Understand that bringing expensive toys can make your kids target for resentment and jealousy from the poors. Otherwise, just say "No".

The "poor's"?! Be careful and remember you could get nasty diseases from the "poor's.". You are a real piece of work with seriously unpleasant character flaws.

We are still not sharing toys with your kid, poor!

[Anonymous]

If you're going to the playground, why are you bringing toys?