Other kids asking for toys at the park

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something like a soccer ball or frisbee - sure. A scooter or hover board? No way - not only because they could damage it, but because they could injure themselves.

What would you or your kid say to other kids? With the scooter I told my soon without helmet it's dangerous to ride so he can't let anyone without a helmet use it. The kids continue to still ask. Wondering if there is anything I can say.

"No."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say no.

“Thank you for asking, but no, you can’t borrow the hover board”.

Why on earth would you thank someone for asking to use your stuff??

Its better than grabbing and taking it without asking. Many kids would just do that so i can see thanking a kid for asking first.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because playground rules are that everything there is a shared commodity. It’s the whole culture of the playground.

If you don’t want to share, find a park that doesn’t have many kids in it and doesn’t have a playground or ball court nearby.

You don’t bring an attractive item to a playground, which is a community play space, and then say, “no, this is just for me.”

Playground rules are that stuff that is provided in the playground is communal property and people have to take turns.

It does not mean that your stroller, your toys, your ball is also communal property.

The etiquettes are to take turns, keep the space clean, do not litter, do not bring pets that are unleashed, clean up after your pets, keep is safe, hygienic and polite.

It does not mean that you have to share your own personal things when you don't want to.

What about snacks? what if other kids want the snack that your kid is eating?

Keep the space hygienic? Really? Playgrounds are some of the most disgusting places to go. Do you have any idea how many times I’ve seen a toddler stick fingers in his or her mouth and then use the playground equipment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just say no.

“Thank you for asking, but no, you can’t borrow the hover board”.

Why on earth would you thank someone for asking to use your stuff??

She thanked them for asking first instead of taking the stuff.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because playground rules are that everything there is a shared commodity. It’s the whole culture of the playground.

If you don’t want to share, find a park that doesn’t have many kids in it and doesn’t have a playground or ball court nearby.

You don’t bring an attractive item to a playground, which is a community play space, and then say, “no, this is just for me.”

Playground rules are that stuff that is provided in the playground is communal property and people have to take turns.

It does not mean that your stroller, your toys, your ball is also communal property.

The etiquettes are to take turns, keep the space clean, do not litter, do not bring pets that are unleashed, clean up after your pets, keep is safe, hygienic and polite.

It does not mean that you have to share your own personal things when you don't want to.

What about snacks? what if other kids want the snack that your kid is eating?

Keep the space hygienic? Really? Playgrounds are some of the most disgusting places to go. Do you have any idea how many times I’ve seen a toddler stick fingers in his or her mouth and then use the playground equipment?

Well I think minimum expectation is that mothers will not throw diapers in the bush near the playground etc, as I have seen some ape moms do in Montgomery Country.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because playground rules are that everything there is a shared commodity. It’s the whole culture of the playground.

If you don’t want to share, find a park that doesn’t have many kids in it and doesn’t have a playground or ball court nearby.

You don’t bring an attractive item to a playground, which is a community play space, and then say, “no, this is just for me.”

Playground rules are that stuff that is provided in the playground is communal property and people have to take turns.

It does not mean that your stroller, your toys, your ball is also communal property.

The etiquettes are to take turns, keep the space clean, do not litter, do not bring pets that are unleashed, clean up after your pets, keep is safe, hygienic and polite.

It does not mean that you have to share your own personal things when you don't want to.

What about snacks? what if other kids want the snack that your kid is eating?

Very well stated. I understand what you mean by hygienic. People are hanging onto that word as if it’s going to invalidate everything you said.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s pretty mean to bring those types of cool toys to a busy park and have fun playing while other people can’t play it too. It’s like bragging - are you allowed, is it legal? Sure, but that doesn’t make it nice.

Play with them in a more empty open space.

So make sure you don’t bring your fancy car, fancy drone, fancy engagement ring, fancy phone…. I could go on 🤦🏻‍♀️ Because if I see it, I’m going to expect you to share 🙄

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s pretty mean to bring those types of cool toys to a busy park and have fun playing while other people can’t play it too. It’s like bragging - are you allowed, is it legal? Sure, but that doesn’t make it nice.

Play with them in a more empty open space.

So make sure you don’t bring your fancy car, fancy drone, fancy engagement ring, fancy phone…. I could go on 🤦🏻‍♀️ Because if I see it, I’m going to expect you to share 🙄

Came to say this. You took off your fancy scarf/hat/gloves? Can I borrow it?

[Anonymous]

Never bring anything to the park that is super-expensive, fragile, breakable. Never bring anything that you are not willing to lend if another kid asks to try it/borrow it. I told my kids no, you're not bringing that pick something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never bring anything to the park that is super-expensive, fragile, breakable. Never bring anything that you are not willing to lend if another kid asks to try it/borrow it. I told my kids no, you're not bringing that pick something else.

No. You don't have to be willing to lend anything just because someone else asks for it. If "No" doesn't exist in your vocabulary for other kids, then leave it home. The rest of us can just tell the would be borrowers "no", and call it a day. If you can tell your own kids no, why can't you tell a kid trying to borrow your toy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never bring anything to the park that is super-expensive, fragile, breakable. Never bring anything that you are not willing to lend if another kid asks to try it/borrow it. I told my kids no, you're not bringing that pick something else.

You don't have to share everything you bring to the playground. Especially scooters, bikes, etc.

[Anonymous]

We share snacks at the playground, particularly if they’re eating them in a public play space and not a picnic table. I think this is a philosophical issue. My kids are taught to be generous and that’s a standard I hold them to. You’re also welcome to borrow my cell phone if you need it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s pretty mean to bring those types of cool toys to a busy park and have fun playing while other people can’t play it too. It’s like bragging - are you allowed, is it legal? Sure, but that doesn’t make it nice.

Play with them in a more empty open space.

An empty, open space. Like....a park?

Seriously, PP, what are you talking about? What other open spaces are there for kids to play in? The lot in front of the abandoned X-citment Video store?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because playground rules are that everything there is a shared commodity. It’s the whole culture of the playground.

If you don’t want to share, find a park that doesn’t have many kids in it and doesn’t have a playground or ball court nearby.

You don’t bring an attractive item to a playground, which is a community play space, and then say, “no, this is just for me.”

Playground rules are that stuff that is provided in the playground is communal property and people have to take turns.

It does not mean that your stroller, your toys, your ball is also communal property.

The etiquettes are to take turns, keep the space clean, do not litter, do not bring pets that are unleashed, clean up after your pets, keep is safe, hygienic and polite.

It does not mean that you have to share your own personal things when you don't want to.

What about snacks? what if other kids want the snack that your kid is eating?

Keep the space hygienic? Really? Playgrounds are some of the most disgusting places to go. Do you have any idea how many times I’ve seen a toddler stick fingers in his or her mouth and then use the playground equipment?

Well I think minimum expectation is that mothers will not throw diapers in the bush near the playground etc, as I have seen some ape moms do in Montgomery Country.

Well, that’s good, because I have never once taken my kids to a playground under the belief that it’s “hygienic.” Fun? Yes. A good place to burn off energy? Yes. Get fresh air? Yes. Hygienic? Nope, that one never crossed my mind.