Other kids asking for toys at the park

[Anonymous]

OP, judging by these comments clearly you will be providing a valuable service by allowing other children the opportunity to gaze upon something desirable and be told they are not allowed to use it. Otherwise imagine them as adults. Asking to use other adult's new phones, or drive their cars, or borrow their make up....terrible.

If my kid has it, he can say "No, sorry, my mom says I can't lend it to anybody." If the child asks why, he can say "I don't know." Repeat as necessary. Usually repetition is not necessary.

If I have it and a child asks me I say "No, I'm sorry, we don't lend this out." Why? "That's just not something we do." Repeat as necessary.

I've only had one kid and one grown up get really rude and salty. It's when I was using an adult kick scooter and the brakes were weird. Instead of just saying no like I usually do, I said, "no, sorry, it's not safe the brakes are being weird." I was on my way to put it in the car because I was done with it. The kid and his grandmother (?) both wanted to debate me. I finally just said "This is so strange. I said no. Please leave me alone." Grandma did a lot of muttering and shaking her head.

But usually kids take it well and their parents either ignore or they yell from afar "They lady is saying no Larlo, find something else to do."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Something like a soccer ball or frisbee - sure. A scooter or hover board? No way - not only because they could damage it, but because they could injure themselves.

What would you or your kid say to other kids? With the scooter I told my soon without helmet it's dangerous to ride so he can't let anyone without a helmet use it. The kids continue to still ask. Wondering if there is anything I can say.

No is an answer. After the 2nd time I said no, I'd tell them not to ask me again. After that I would just ignore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, judging by these comments clearly you will be providing a valuable service by allowing other children the opportunity to gaze upon something desirable and be told they are not allowed to use it. Otherwise imagine them as adults. Asking to use other adult's new phones, or drive their cars, or borrow their make up....terrible.

If my kid has it, he can say "No, sorry, my mom says I can't lend it to anybody." If the child asks why, he can say "I don't know." Repeat as necessary. Usually repetition is not necessary.

If I have it and a child asks me I say "No, I'm sorry, we don't lend this out." Why? "That's just not something we do." Repeat as necessary.

I've only had one kid and one grown up get really rude and salty. It's when I was using an adult kick scooter and the brakes were weird. Instead of just saying no like I usually do, I said, "no, sorry, it's not safe the brakes are being weird." I was on my way to put it in the car because I was done with it. The kid and his grandmother (?) both wanted to debate me. I finally just said "This is so strange. I said no. Please leave me alone." Grandma did a lot of muttering and shaking her head.

But usually kids take it well and their parents either ignore or they yell from afar "They lady is saying no Larlo, find something else to do."

Yeah, what's this idea that everything you have you have to share? Share if you want. Don't if you dont' want to.

[Anonymous]

I think it's fine to say no OP. My kids ride their bikes to park. Other kids know they are not there for borrowing/sharing.

Just try to ride these things away from where kids play (i.e. the playground).

[Anonymous]

I say yes because I'm not an a-hole.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I say yes because I'm not an a-hole.

Really? Since when is it obligatory to share the personal items you bring to a public space? No is acceptable. If my kids coveted a try they might ask and they might be told no, and they’d be fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Who says yes? It’s all fun and games until the kid rides way in your child’s scooter or hoverboard and doesn’t come back.

[Anonymous]

Because playground rules are that everything there is a shared commodity. It’s the whole culture of the playground.

If you don’t want to share, find a park that doesn’t have many kids in it and doesn’t have a playground or ball court nearby.

You don’t bring an attractive item to a playground, which is a community play space, and then say, “no, this is just for me.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t bring things to the park that you don’t want to share.

+1

+2. Makes your life simpler.

+3. Not only that, but it's just plain rude to bring a toy to a public park/playground that you aren't willing to share.

If you don't want to share, find somewhere else to play with it. But going to a public playground and flaunting your expensive toy that you won't share is just obnoxious and crass.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because playground rules are that everything there is a shared commodity. It’s the whole culture of the playground.

If you don’t want to share, find a park that doesn’t have many kids in it and doesn’t have a playground or ball court nearby.

You don’t bring an attractive item to a playground, which is a community play space, and then say, “no, this is just for me.”

WHAT? Where did you get this idea?

[Anonymous]

OP said the park, not into the playground area. You don’t need to share your scooter riding through the park. How ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe all the people saying just don’t bring them.

They are yours. Of course you can bring them to use and aren’t obligated to share. Get comfortable saying no if you don’t want to share. It’s fine to say no and kids needs to accept that

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don’t bring things to the park that you don’t want to share.

+1

+2. Makes your life simpler.

+3. If a scooter is transportation, it should be against the fence when not in use. If it’s a toy to play with, share or leave in the car.

NP but other kids are definitely going to help themselves to it if it’s not locked.

[Anonymous]

Op, it’s fine to say no. It’s a good skill to teach your kids.

[Anonymous]

Just say no.

“Thank you for asking, but no, you can’t borrow the hover board”.