Inconsiderate visiting family

[Anonymous]

Either you or your husband take a nap so you'll be rested to pick them up and get them settled into their guest rooms before you can go back to bed. It's one day, it's family, try to be nice.

[Anonymous]

I would have no problem saying no to picking them up but also expect people to run plane times by me if they are depending on me for anything including being let in. Maybe this is the only flight that worked, maybe it saved them exactly $5; those feel different to me! Anyway if you feel bad at all you can offer to pay for the Uber - a regular size taxi will not work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would keep it light … “sorry, that’s way past our bedtime these days! Hah! But it’s super easy to Uber or take a cab from DCA. Once you get your luggage just follow the signs to ground transportation/taxi. Looking forward to having you all!”

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would keep it light … “sorry, that’s way past our bedtime these days! Hah! But it’s super easy to Uber or take a cab from DCA. Once you get your luggage just follow the signs to ground transportation/taxi. Looking forward to having you all!”

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Same, but I'd offer to pay for the Uber to smooth my guilt that I'd wish I didn't have, so it'd be like: "sorry, that's way past our bedtime these days! Hah! I'd love to cover your Uber for you. Ubers are easy and plentiful from DCA."

[Anonymous]

I would pick them up if I had a vehicle that could accommodate. Unless you leave 2 hours away from the airport I don’t see what the problem is. In my family we pick people up from the airport, whenever the plane arrives. There is nothing inconsiderate about this request.

If you don’t want to host, don’t do it in the future. You are starting out with a bad attitude OP. Be thankful you have family interested in spending thousands on 6 airline tickets to visit with you.

Happy Thanksgiving

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Isn't it normal to pick someone up at the airport? I couldn't imagine not offering.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean there are 6 of them, so taxis are extra expensive since you have to get a van or suv. I guess I don't see this as inconsiderate as you do. Flying is shit these days and it's hard to get flights with nice arrival times.

This.

This is a preplanned visit. If you think you're being put out, think about what they're goin through flying on Thanksgiving eve. Finding a vehicle that can fit 6 people after a late flight might not be simple. They'll all be exhausted and want one less thing to worry about. It would make minimum difference to you or your H but a huge difference to them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s nothing inconsiderate about asking family to pick you up at the airport. It’s extremely common to expect family to pick you up, and to pick them up when they visit you at the airport. For a of families it would be unheard of not to offer.

We routinely send a private car service for family, because the driving conditions around our location airport are a bit hectic (not DC).

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would keep it light … “sorry, that’s way past our bedtime these days! Hah! But it’s super easy to Uber or take a cab from DCA. Once you get your luggage just follow the signs to ground transportation/taxi. Looking forward to having you all!”

This. Takers will keep taking unless you stop them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH's family is coming here for THanksgiving. His brother and his family (6 people total) are staying at our house. His brother's wife emailed us their flight itinerary and they arrive at DCA at 11:15pm Wednesday. She wrote only "Can you pick us up"? My DH does not want to confront her or his brother over this, but it is upsetting me that they are so inconsiderate. Now my DH will be exhausted on thanksgiving, plus they'll likely wake up the whole house when they arrive. I really want to text her "how about you take a taxi" but she'll probably take offense. This is in line with her pattern of inconsiderate behavior. What can I do?

OMG. If your husband is going to be "exhausted" by picking up his sister at 11:15 pm, then you have bigger problems than you know. Holy cow. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would pick them up if I had a vehicle that could accommodate. Unless you leave 2 hours away from the airport I don’t see what the problem is. In my family we pick people up from the airport, whenever the plane arrives. There is nothing inconsiderate about this request.

If you don’t want to host, don’t do it in the future. You are starting out with a bad attitude OP. Be thankful you have family interested in spending thousands on 6 airline tickets to visit with you.

Happy Thanksgiving

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would pick them up if I had a vehicle that could accommodate. Unless you leave 2 hours away from the airport I don’t see what the problem is. In my family we pick people up from the airport, whenever the plane arrives. There is nothing inconsiderate about this request.

If you don’t want to host, don’t do it in the future. You are starting out with a bad attitude OP. Be thankful you have family interested in spending thousands on 6 airline tickets to visit with you.

Happy Thanksgiving

x1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean there are 6 of them, so taxis are extra expensive since you have to get a van or suv. I guess I don't see this as inconsiderate as you do. Flying is shit these days and it's hard to get flights with nice arrival times.

+1 I'm pretty self-sufficent with travel, but I would be worried about getting an uber xl at night and even more stressed if I knew I would be traveling with kids late a night.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is good with this. Just let it go. I mean one night of going to bed late - which will happen whether he picks them up or not - isn’t going to be a big deal for most people. If you were asked, that would be different.

[Anonymous]

It’s 2022 if people are flying for vacation they can afford a taxi