Family mad I canceled event—when my daughter is sick!

[Anonymous]

I would have thought you were overreacting and would have rolled my eyes—but I also would accept I’m not entitled to your home or time! There are issues where we say “reasonable minds can disagree” and this is one.

[Anonymous]

Sister just attended a party where she caught the flu. Said it was worse for her than COVID.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were sooo confident in your decision you wouldn’t need to post multiple paragraphs here to get head pats about how you just did EVERYTHING right, you poor dear. You are exhausting.

Yeah I'm with this poster and surprised how many people are on OP's side.

I mean, OP's story mentions a bunch of people in her family who think she's being a drama queen about this - in the grandparent generation and her own generation. her story didn't have a single person in her family who thought she was doing the right thing. I feel like if there were people who supported her, she would have mentioned them.

I think this story is less positive than OP is making it out to be.

Yeah, my guess is OP probably is exhausting and dramatic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are absolutely right and you did the right thing.

Try to focus your energy away from this and tune them out.

Plus 1 millions. You’re a good person OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were sooo confident in your decision you wouldn’t need to post multiple paragraphs here to get head pats about how you just did EVERYTHING right, you poor dear. You are exhausting.

Yeah I'm with this poster and surprised how many people are on OP's side.

I mean, OP's story mentions a bunch of people in her family who think she's being a drama queen about this - in the grandparent generation and her own generation. her story didn't have a single person in her family who thought she was doing the right thing. I feel like if there were people who supported her, she would have mentioned them.

I think this story is less positive than OP is making it out to be.

Looks like you’re the drama llama.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree, I would have cancelled but 102° is not drastic for a child.

It could be drastic, we just don't know.
I agree with you though -- she did the right thing.

Our bodies create fevers as a reaction/tool to killing whatever virus, bacteria or infection that your immune system is trying to fight off -- the higher the fever, the worse the infection is usually (although, the exact number on the thermometer is usually not what's paramount -- how your child looks, feels and acts is).

One thing is for certain though OP, this is not a cold -- you do not develop a high fever with a common cold.

[Anonymous]

Thank you for being a kind and considerate person, OP. The rest is just white noise.

[Anonymous]

The only person in this story who behaved obnoxiously was the “she’s exhausting…it’s not covid” aunt. Everyone else seems perfectly normal and has given fine reactions. I can see a bit the surprise that ILs didn’t come. They could have easily stayed with you and not been near the sick daughter. But also fine they didn’t come.

So one bad aunt isn’t so bad OP! I think you’re being hard on your family. Sounds like they regrouped and handled things ok.

Hope your daughter feels better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only person in this story who behaved obnoxiously was the “she’s exhausting…it’s not covid” aunt. Everyone else seems perfectly normal and has given fine reactions. I can see a bit the surprise that ILs didn’t come. They could have easily stayed with you and not been near the sick daughter. But also fine they didn’t come.

So one bad aunt isn’t so bad OP! I think you’re being hard on your family. Sounds like they regrouped and handled things ok.

Hope your daughter feels better.

Oh wait I now see parents say you were overreacting. I had read the follow ups where they were pretty gracious about canceling the food etc.

They’re disappointed. If you generally get along with them then just let it go I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sister just attended a party where she caught the flu. Said it was worse for her than COVID.

My 3 yo was sick all last week and completely miserable. It was an unnamed virus (not flu, Rsv, or COVID). People have forgotten that there are other illnesses out there and that being sick sucks. It’s not like before COVID we’d never keep people home or cancel events due to illness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have thought you were overreacting and would have rolled my eyes—but I also would accept I’m not entitled to your home or time! There are issues where we say “reasonable minds can disagree” and this is one.

This is where I am. I personally would have proceeded with one parent home with the sick kid, and the other daughter getting her communion party. I don’t think both parents need to be home attending to the sick kid, and I don’t think the other sibling should have lost her communion party. But I understand why a parent might have wanted a joint party for both kids, and that’s ok too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would have thought you were overreacting and would have rolled my eyes—but I also would accept I’m not entitled to your home or time! There are issues where we say “reasonable minds can disagree” and this is one.

This is where I am. I personally would have proceeded with one parent home with the sick kid, and the other daughter getting her communion party. I don’t think both parents need to be home attending to the sick kid, and I don’t think the other sibling should have lost her communion party. But I understand why a parent might have wanted a joint party for both kids, and that’s ok too.

Did you guys miss the part about this bring a party for BOTH daughters? It would be really sh*tty to celebrate without the one who was sick.

[Anonymous]

*being*

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would have thought you were overreacting and would have rolled my eyes—but I also would accept I’m not entitled to your home or time! There are issues where we say “reasonable minds can disagree” and this is one.

NP. I’m truly shocked that anyone would “roll their eyes” during this big season of flu, RSV, and yes, still COVID. You either don’t have kids, or your kids are grown, I take it? Tons of kids are out at our elementary school, and I know a lot of kids who have missed school and parents who have missed work because of it. If I showed up at a party and someone was sick with a fever and sore throat and coughing, we would leave. It’s not worth getting our family sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only person in this story who behaved obnoxiously was the “she’s exhausting…it’s not covid” aunt. Everyone else seems perfectly normal and has given fine reactions. I can see a bit the surprise that ILs didn’t come. They could have easily stayed with you and not been near the sick daughter. But also fine they didn’t come.

So one bad aunt isn’t so bad OP! I think you’re being hard on your family. Sounds like they regrouped and handled things ok.

Hope your daughter feels better.

Oh, how interesting that you know the exact size and layout of OP’s dwelling, when she did not provide that information.