Sibling abuse trigger warning

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds HORRIBLE.

Makes you wonder why his son is a sexual predator??

Do not make your child sleep in the same house as the stepson. How could she possible sleep there?

Do what you have to to keep them apart. Praise her for speaking up. Tell her that you are very proud of her.

Also, have your husband tell the child (in front of you) that she should tell the truth about the incident. And she definitely should not have to discuss it in front of the father OR the stepson.

Your husband should NOT be allowed to control any of this. Your daughter has to see that you believe her and will protect her.

(I could not stay with him. One more minute...)

[Anonymous]

Any luck getting the appointment moved up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does your stepson have a lawyer? Do you have a lawyer for your daughter? I would be contacting an attorney to protect your daughter’s rights and your husband needs to contact an attorney for his son. You have 4 kids with your husband. I think this is the only way to salvage your marriage.

This. Absolutely no way my child would be interviewed by CPS without one.

[Anonymous]

You need to be careful and probably get out to protect your daughter. CPS has alot of power and if they feel you aren't taking steps to protect your daughter by siding with your husband (even if you are not-there is that appearance), they can ask the court to make alternative temporary arrangements and request a protective order against both you and your husband. Not saying that will happen, but it is a possibilty.

[Anonymous]

OP, my heart hurts for you. This is a lot. I'm glad you are being so strong for your daughter.

I recently listened to a podcast out of australia that covered extensive abuse within a family. There was tremendous pressure to cover it up, minimize it, say that's just how it is, keep the peace, etc. Generations of abuse and covering up for abusers. At every revelation I would just think, my god, what in the world is going on here? But over time you see how it all just get buried (or tries to get buried). Warning, one of the victims of abuse has commited suicide. It's called My Sister's Secrets, from The Australian.

Abuse like this - threaded through a family - appears pernicious. Difficult to expose and root out, mostly because of the coverups and minimization within the family. I hope you can find your way through this tangle.

I realize it's Thursday, and CPS is tomorrow. Another idea might be to visit the pediatrician. Your DH making her repeat in from our her half-brother and having it be minimized already is difficult. but maybe a trusted relationship with an outside-the-family figure could be helpful.

Hang in there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is your stepson an a user? I would be concerned someone in his family had abused him. Unless that person is from his mothers side, that person could also be around your kids. It could even be your husband.

Divorce.

He was abused when he was very young by an older female cousin. Age difference maybe 4 years tops. As far as I know not reported.(was before my marriage) husband was upset by it but obviously didn't get his son help. His.mother wrote it off as child.exploration.

And why was she a young abuser?

There’s something weird going on here. I fear that your husbands family might be rife with abuse.

Is his family catholic?

This is a hateful, bigoted unnecessary comment.

[Anonymous]

Appointment was yesterday nothing else came out but everything was confirmed. I am moving out with my kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Appointment was yesterday nothing else came out but everything was confirmed. I am moving out with my kids.

I'm so sorry this happened OP. Strength and comfort to you and your kids. I'm sure moving out is super hard but you are doing the right thing.

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry, OP. That’s beyond awful. How long has that been going on? Has your stepson done anything to any of the other kids?

[Anonymous]

Why did you call CPS and not the police? Wtf. I'd be filing a police report ASAP. Your DH is an enabler.

[Anonymous]

Police report was filed. Cps and police work together on investigation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry, OP. That’s beyond awful. How long has that been going on? Has your stepson done anything to any of the other kids?

I don't know how long because she can't really explain time. No other kids reported anything. Sad part is he at my house for 2 overnights a month with very limited access to her. So I can only imagine what may done to other kids that he is around more often.

[Anonymous]

You’re a hero, OP. Don’t give up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re a hero, OP. Don’t give up.

One million percent.

[Anonymous]

My cousin is serving 70 years for doing something similar to my siblings and other children. He initially got caught with a kid he was babysitting, and then after some digging more victims came forward including my siblings. He was 15, tried as an adult.

There could be more victims. OP, for your children's sake, stay strong and leave. Sending you well wishes. I am so sorry.