Sibling abuse trigger warning

[Anonymous]

My 6 year old disclosed to me that her 17 year old half brother(my step son) touched her inappropriately. He held her in the bathroom and dry humped her and she could not get away. He also put hands in her pants.

She also disclosed that he would play games with her and they would.end with him doing these things to her. From what I gathered clothes were always on. Sorry for so many details.

. I told me husband his way of dealing with it was have my daughter tell him and her brother what she told me. Literally stand in front of her abuser and repeat this. Then he had his son tell my daughter how that made him feel. Of course his son denied it and said her accusations made him feel bad. I called CPS. We have a forensic interview Friday. My husband is upset I got CPS involved. I feel he is trying to protect his son. Told me it shouldn't go further than investigation no charges etc. Also told my daughter not to talk to anyone unless he is there(meaning cps workers). She is not comfortable talking around him and shuts down.

I hate my stepson and I am done with him. I am starting to hate my husband. I want a divorce now. Am I just filled.with emotion or should I get the hell out of here.

[Anonymous]

Get the he!! Out tonight

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP that is so awful for your daughter. She is the child of you and your husband? I would see a lawyer immediately. What I would want to do in your situation is take my child and leave but you do need some legal advice so you don't end up in a situation where the court sees you as the bad actor. If you insist to your husband that your stepson stay somewhere else while the investigation is happening, will he listen?

[Anonymous]

If your husband isn’t up to supporting his very young child fully in light of credible allegations of sexual abuse by his older child, it is probably a very good idea to reassess the marriage.

But at present you need to focus 100% on protecting your child, including from her father’s psychologically damaging methods of parenting through sibling abuse allegations. You should consult with a good family law attorney who handles both matrimonial issues and child protection litigation because depending on how things go with CPS you will need your parental interests protected, too.

[Anonymous]

Sorry I should of said this. Stepson is out. He only stayed two Saturdays a month anyway. But cps said no contact until investigation is over. I plan to never allow him in my home or near my kids

My daughter is my husband's. I have 4 children under 8 with my husband.

[Anonymous]

Send him away to school, or to live with his mother. When he comes, your daughter goes to her dad's. If you divorce, your daughter would visit them without you there. Might be worse. I'm assuming your husband is girls dad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry I should of said this. Stepson is out. He only stayed two Saturdays a month anyway. But cps said no contact until investigation is over. I plan to never allow him in my home or near my kids

My daughter is my husband's. I have 4 children under 8 with my husband.

Why so many??

[Anonymous]

Yes, you absolutely need to divorce your husband and the fact that you are even questioning this is concerning. If you hope to ever have a relationship with your child once she reaches adulthood and not have her hate you as much as you do your stepson you have a very limited window to try to make amends for putting her in this situation and show you are 100% in her corner.

[Anonymous]

Try not to have her alone with your husband or son at all until then. Ask CPS if there is any way to move the interview time moved up or suggestions on what to do as husband is in protective mode for son and intimidating daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry I should of said this. Stepson is out. He only stayed two Saturdays a month anyway. But cps said no contact until investigation is over. I plan to never allow him in my home or near my kids

My daughter is my husband's. I have 4 children under 8 with my husband.

Oh op I’m so so sorry. You are doing the right thing absolutely for your daughter. What a brave kid to come to you and a brave mom to believe her and act. This is so hard but you’re doing the right thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely need to divorce your husband and the fact that you are even questioning this is concerning. If you hope to ever have a relationship with your child once she reaches adulthood and not have her hate you as much as you do your stepson you have a very limited window to try to make amends for putting her in this situation and show you are 100% in her corner.

Thank you for being honest. You won't believe the responses I have gotten from family that I should feel sorry for my husband because he is in a tough situation trying to.protect both kids. It makes me physically sick. I do not see my stepson as a kid. I see him as a predator. He is 6 months away from.being 18.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, you absolutely need to divorce your husband and the fact that you are even questioning this is concerning. If you hope to ever have a relationship with your child once she reaches adulthood and not have her hate you as much as you do your stepson you have a very limited window to try to make amends for putting her in this situation and show you are 100% in her corner.

Thank you for being honest. You won't believe the responses I have gotten from family that I should feel sorry for my husband because he is in a tough situation trying to.protect both kids. It makes me physically sick. I do not see my stepson as a kid. I see him as a predator. He is 6 months away from.being 18.

Your instincts are in the right place, just keep following them. Wishing healing for you and your daughter.

[Anonymous]

OP, i would take your bio kids to a hotel until Friday. Your husband’s response was a marriage killer. I am sorry. You can only protect your kids now.

[Anonymous]

I am 100% on your team OP and I am so very sorry. I can understand that your husband is devastated and he can’t turn off his instinct to protect his son. This is very sudden and he has a lot to work through. He will get there and you should hold him accountable in making sure he does so. He is not handling things well right now and maybe some space is a good thing while he gets his head in straight.

[Anonymous]

Your husband clearly doesn’t think this is a big deal and is trying to minimize it. I think you need to follow through with the CPS process and do everything you possibly can to protect your daughter. If you minimize what happened you will not only lose your marriage (I think that’s done anyway), but your daughter. My mother didn’t believe me when I told her I was assaulted and we never recovered.