Sibling abuse trigger warning

[Anonymous]

You take your kids and leave or ask him and his son to leave until it is settled. Not ok to do. No marriage is better than one where a child is being abused.

[Anonymous]

Why is your stepson an a user? I would be concerned someone in his family had abused him. Unless that person is from his mothers side, that person could also be around your kids. It could even be your husband.

Divorce.

[Anonymous]

I would be concerned for your other kids too. Are they old enough to speak up if something was done to them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is your stepson an a user? I would be concerned someone in his family had abused him. Unless that person is from his mothers side, that person could also be around your kids. It could even be your husband.

Divorce.

He was abused when he was very young by an older female cousin. Age difference maybe 4 years tops. As far as I know not reported.(was before my marriage) husband was upset by it but obviously didn't get his son help. His.mother wrote it off as child.exploration.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend who went through this but the husband had a very different response. He believed the abused child, and cooperated with any investigations. The abuser went to some sort of correctional facility, and intense therapy. As far as I understand, he still sees his son but he has never again put his son in the same room as the child that the son abused.

There's a way of dealing with this is not an automatic divorce, but OPs partner has not chosen that path.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is your stepson an a user? I would be concerned someone in his family had abused him. Unless that person is from his mothers side, that person could also be around your kids. It could even be your husband.

Divorce.

He was abused when he was very young by an older female cousin. Age difference maybe 4 years tops. As far as I know not reported.(was before my marriage) husband was upset by it but obviously didn't get his son help. His.mother wrote it off as child.exploration.

And why was she a young abuser?

There’s something weird going on here. I fear that your husbands family might be rife with abuse.

Is his family catholic?

It was on the mom's side. I don't know them but I believe my stepson s mom side is full of abuse.

[Anonymous]

How could he make her recount this to them?! That is almost as angering as the abuse.
Please let her know she is brave and did the right thing to tell you. Don't let her feel down about herself at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a friend who went through this but the husband had a very different response. He believed the abused child, and cooperated with any investigations. The abuser went to some sort of correctional facility, and intense therapy. As far as I understand, he still sees his son but he has never again put his son in the same room as the child that the son abused.

There's a way of dealing with this is not an automatic divorce, but OPs partner has not chosen that path.

Op here. this is what I would consider an acceptable response and could probably work it out. My husband hasn't come out and said it didn't happen but is minimizing it. His focus is on his son and its sad.

[Anonymous]

You need to leave and file for divorce. Do not ever let that kid around your daughter again. Anything less and her abuse is on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be concerned for your other kids too. Are they old enough to speak up if something was done to them?

They are all going Friday for interviews. I am trying to move the date up

[Anonymous]

Please thank your daughter and give her affirmation for being so brave - she had to stand and re-tell everything to dad and to scummy step brother and to cps...that's A LOT! Very emotionally draining. Lots of hugs, lots of positive energy
And gentle reminders that your DD can always come to you.

Is she receiving therapy? If not, please do so.

And honestly, the step son needs help too. He needs to find closure and coping mechanisms of his own abusive past so the cycle doesn't continue and also your DD (and other kids, future girl friends he may have) don't fall victim to him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 6 year old disclosed to me that her 17 year old half brother(my step son) touched her inappropriately. He held her in the bathroom and dry humped her and she could not get away. He also put hands in her pants.

She also disclosed that he would play games with her and they would.end with him doing these things to her. From what I gathered clothes were always on. Sorry for so many details.

. I told me husband his way of dealing with it was have my daughter tell him and her brother what she told me. Literally stand in front of her abuser and repeat this. Then he had his son tell my daughter how that made him feel. Of course his son denied it and said her accusations made him feel bad. I called CPS. We have a forensic interview Friday. My husband is upset I got CPS involved. I feel he is trying to protect his son. Told me it shouldn't go further than investigation no charges etc. Also told my daughter not to talk to anyone unless he is there(meaning cps workers). She is not comfortable talking around him and shuts down.

I hate my stepson and I am done with him. I am starting to hate my husband. I want a divorce now. Am I just filled.with emotion or should I get the hell out of here.

Get out. It will not get better.

[Anonymous]

Sad thing is that now you are going to have to watch your daughter around your younger/older kids. You are lucky if she is the only one he molested. This is a little girl. People who abuse kids when they are that young don’t really have a preference for gender. So best to have all of your kids evaluated.

[Anonymous]

Does your stepson have a lawyer? Do you have a lawyer for your daughter? I would be contacting an attorney to protect your daughter’s rights and your husband needs to contact an attorney for his son. You have 4 kids with your husband. I think this is the only way to salvage your marriage.

[Anonymous]

Oh my god I’m so sorry. I can’t effing imagine how turned upside down your world feels right now.

Your daughter was so so brave to tell you ❤️