Older woman couples, how are you doing in midlife?

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I had your libidos! I am 3 years older than DH and it's been a constant struggle with him wanting it always and me never. It's only getting worse as I approach 50. He has stopped initiating all together which is unfair but I also understand.

DP, not OP. Kind of a side note, so sorry to OP! But to the PP: Are you already in menopause? I'm asking because I'm wondering if you're still on birth control--? Or have been on it for a long time? I've posted about this before, but hormonal BC - miracle that it is, no doubt! -- can crush libido in some women. And ob/gyns very often do not discuss that aspect of the pill and other hormonal BC. If you've been on it for a long time, that might be part of the "constant struggle" over years. I am NOT saying it's the only reason but it's one thing that I have surprisingly found many women have never been told, or not told clearly enough--that it can suppress libido. Not everyone, but more of us than I think realize it. It absolutely affected my libido for years, once I went off the pill, my libido greatly increased. Nothing to do with age differences (and PP, three years is nothing at all). Just something to consider. (Also, I found it was a myth that "every" woman loses interest in sex at menopause as DCUM likes to claim - menopause was the best thing that ever happened to our sex life, frankly.)

The fact your DH has stopped initiating altogehter should be worrying, yet you sound resigned to it. BC issues aside, Have you and he talked about his no longer initiating and how you and he can work together to restore sex to the marriage? Scheduling sex, using toys or changing up your foreplay, women's testosterone therapy (look it up re: Mayo Clinic), seeing a sex therapist, getting a good physical checkup, most of all being open about how to work on this? You don't have to be resigned to this. It may feel like a huge relief to you for him not to be initiating any more -- but it will affect you both emotionally, eventually. Not criticizing you, OP! Just saying it's concerning if you and he aren't communcating about the issue and aren't coming up with ways to work on it as a couple, together.

Thanks for responding

I went off BC years ago, made no difference. We scheduled sex once a week but then he'd be upset if I wasnt into it which I wasn't but he couldn't handle having a partner who just wanted to make him happy. Which I get but I can't help it. I think I am just not wired for monogamy.

Yes, I know no sex is a problem but I can't make him initiate and frankly I am fine with things. I am not in menopause yet.

I guess I don't know what your secret sauce is. We have a functional marriage but it's not remotely passionate and he's given up. I guess I dream that if I married someone 5-10 years older, he'd be pushing 60 and the lack of sex would be more normal

You say you're not wired for monogamy but also that you're fine with the way things are (a se less marriage?). What do you actually mean?

I mean that I have no desire for him at all even though he is literally tall, dark and handsome and successful. I imagine if I divorce I would regain my libido. I don't know how other women find desire to have sex with the same person for years. It doesn't feel normal to me. It also doesn't help he looks young for his age and I don't.

I think it’s incredibly common for women to lose desire for their partner after a few years. Sadly it doesn’t matter if he’s still hot. We need variety and I’d venture to say we need it waaaay more than men. We just internalize these struggles and it expresses as low libido. The real problem is boredom.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I had your libidos! I am 3 years older than DH and it's been a constant struggle with him wanting it always and me never. It's only getting worse as I approach 50. He has stopped initiating all together which is unfair but I also understand.

DP, not OP. Kind of a side note, so sorry to OP! But to the PP: Are you already in menopause? I'm asking because I'm wondering if you're still on birth control--? Or have been on it for a long time? I've posted about this before, but hormonal BC - miracle that it is, no doubt! -- can crush libido in some women. And ob/gyns very often do not discuss that aspect of the pill and other hormonal BC. If you've been on it for a long time, that might be part of the "constant struggle" over years. I am NOT saying it's the only reason but it's one thing that I have surprisingly found many women have never been told, or not told clearly enough--that it can suppress libido. Not everyone, but more of us than I think realize it. It absolutely affected my libido for years, once I went off the pill, my libido greatly increased. Nothing to do with age differences (and PP, three years is nothing at all). Just something to consider. (Also, I found it was a myth that "every" woman loses interest in sex at menopause as DCUM likes to claim - menopause was the best thing that ever happened to our sex life, frankly.)

The fact your DH has stopped initiating altogehter should be worrying, yet you sound resigned to it. BC issues aside, Have you and he talked about his no longer initiating and how you and he can work together to restore sex to the marriage? Scheduling sex, using toys or changing up your foreplay, women's testosterone therapy (look it up re: Mayo Clinic), seeing a sex therapist, getting a good physical checkup, most of all being open about how to work on this? You don't have to be resigned to this. It may feel like a huge relief to you for him not to be initiating any more -- but it will affect you both emotionally, eventually. Not criticizing you, OP! Just saying it's concerning if you and he aren't communcating about the issue and aren't coming up with ways to work on it as a couple, together.

Thanks for responding

I went off BC years ago, made no difference. We scheduled sex once a week but then he'd be upset if I wasnt into it which I wasn't but he couldn't handle having a partner who just wanted to make him happy. Which I get but I can't help it. I think I am just not wired for monogamy.

Yes, I know no sex is a problem but I can't make him initiate and frankly I am fine with things. I am not in menopause yet.

I guess I don't know what your secret sauce is. We have a functional marriage but it's not remotely passionate and he's given up. I guess I dream that if I married someone 5-10 years older, he'd be pushing 60 and the lack of sex would be more normal

You say you're not wired for monogamy but also that you're fine with the way things are (a se less marriage?). What do you actually mean?

I mean that I have no desire for him at all even though he is literally tall, dark and handsome and successful. I imagine if I divorce I would regain my libido. I don't know how other women find desire to have sex with the same person for years. It doesn't feel normal to me. It also doesn't help he looks young for his age and I don't.

I think it’s incredibly common for women to lose desire for their partner after a few years. Sadly it doesn’t matter if he’s still hot. We need variety and I’d venture to say we need it waaaay more than men. We just internalize these struggles and it expresses as low libido. The real problem is boredom.

It hasn't been my experience in two long term relationships. The first lasted 8 years and the sex was great through the very end. The second is my marriage, 12 years and the sex is actually getting better over time.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I had your libidos! I am 3 years older than DH and it's been a constant struggle with him wanting it always and me never. It's only getting worse as I approach 50. He has stopped initiating all together which is unfair but I also understand.

DP, not OP. Kind of a side note, so sorry to OP! But to the PP: Are you already in menopause? I'm asking because I'm wondering if you're still on birth control--? Or have been on it for a long time? I've posted about this before, but hormonal BC - miracle that it is, no doubt! -- can crush libido in some women. And ob/gyns very often do not discuss that aspect of the pill and other hormonal BC. If you've been on it for a long time, that might be part of the "constant struggle" over years. I am NOT saying it's the only reason but it's one thing that I have surprisingly found many women have never been told, or not told clearly enough--that it can suppress libido. Not everyone, but more of us than I think realize it. It absolutely affected my libido for years, once I went off the pill, my libido greatly increased. Nothing to do with age differences (and PP, three years is nothing at all). Just something to consider. (Also, I found it was a myth that "every" woman loses interest in sex at menopause as DCUM likes to claim - menopause was the best thing that ever happened to our sex life, frankly.)

The fact your DH has stopped initiating altogehter should be worrying, yet you sound resigned to it. BC issues aside, Have you and he talked about his no longer initiating and how you and he can work together to restore sex to the marriage? Scheduling sex, using toys or changing up your foreplay, women's testosterone therapy (look it up re: Mayo Clinic), seeing a sex therapist, getting a good physical checkup, most of all being open about how to work on this? You don't have to be resigned to this. It may feel like a huge relief to you for him not to be initiating any more -- but it will affect you both emotionally, eventually. Not criticizing you, OP! Just saying it's concerning if you and he aren't communcating about the issue and aren't coming up with ways to work on it as a couple, together.

Thanks for responding

I went off BC years ago, made no difference. We scheduled sex once a week but then he'd be upset if I wasnt into it which I wasn't but he couldn't handle having a partner who just wanted to make him happy. Which I get but I can't help it. I think I am just not wired for monogamy.

Yes, I know no sex is a problem but I can't make him initiate and frankly I am fine with things. I am not in menopause yet.

I guess I don't know what your secret sauce is. We have a functional marriage but it's not remotely passionate and he's given up. I guess I dream that if I married someone 5-10 years older, he'd be pushing 60 and the lack of sex would be more normal

You say you're not wired for monogamy but also that you're fine with the way things are (a se less marriage?). What do you actually mean?

I mean that I have no desire for him at all even though he is literally tall, dark and handsome and successful. I imagine if I divorce I would regain my libido. I don't know how other women find desire to have sex with the same person for years. It doesn't feel normal to me. It also doesn't help he looks young for his age and I don't.

re: the bold: let's put that more accurately, PP: "I fantasize/hope/wish that if I divorce I would regain my libido." There is zero guarantee, zero, that you would.

Asking seriously, why did you marry him in the first place? The sex was great then? Was there ever more than sex to your early relationship, before you got bored with him sexually? Because what you're describing sounds like plain garden variety boredom. If you and he had more in common than sexual compatibility at first, how did you end up so bored? Of course you don't want to work on the sex if you do not love him as a person and want to make the entire relationship --not just the sexual relationship--work, and last. Sex is important and great but it also is not the be-all and end-all of a marriage, at least not a healthy one. Was there ever more? Is there more that died, not just sex?

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I had your libidos! I am 3 years older than DH and it's been a constant struggle with him wanting it always and me never. It's only getting worse as I approach 50. He has stopped initiating all together which is unfair but I also understand.

DP, not OP. Kind of a side note, so sorry to OP! But to the PP: Are you already in menopause? I'm asking because I'm wondering if you're still on birth control--? Or have been on it for a long time? I've posted about this before, but hormonal BC - miracle that it is, no doubt! -- can crush libido in some women. And ob/gyns very often do not discuss that aspect of the pill and other hormonal BC. If you've been on it for a long time, that might be part of the "constant struggle" over years. I am NOT saying it's the only reason but it's one thing that I have surprisingly found many women have never been told, or not told clearly enough--that it can suppress libido. Not everyone, but more of us than I think realize it. It absolutely affected my libido for years, once I went off the pill, my libido greatly increased. Nothing to do with age differences (and PP, three years is nothing at all). Just something to consider. (Also, I found it was a myth that "every" woman loses interest in sex at menopause as DCUM likes to claim - menopause was the best thing that ever happened to our sex life, frankly.)

The fact your DH has stopped initiating altogehter should be worrying, yet you sound resigned to it. BC issues aside, Have you and he talked about his no longer initiating and how you and he can work together to restore sex to the marriage? Scheduling sex, using toys or changing up your foreplay, women's testosterone therapy (look it up re: Mayo Clinic), seeing a sex therapist, getting a good physical checkup, most of all being open about how to work on this? You don't have to be resigned to this. It may feel like a huge relief to you for him not to be initiating any more -- but it will affect you both emotionally, eventually. Not criticizing you, OP! Just saying it's concerning if you and he aren't communcating about the issue and aren't coming up with ways to work on it as a couple, together.

Thanks for responding

I went off BC years ago, made no difference. We scheduled sex once a week but then he'd be upset if I wasnt into it which I wasn't but he couldn't handle having a partner who just wanted to make him happy. Which I get but I can't help it. I think I am just not wired for monogamy.

Yes, I know no sex is a problem but I can't make him initiate and frankly I am fine with things. I am not in menopause yet.

I guess I don't know what your secret sauce is. We have a functional marriage but it's not remotely passionate and he's given up. I guess I dream that if I married someone 5-10 years older, he'd be pushing 60 and the lack of sex would be more normal

You say you're not wired for monogamy but also that you're fine with the way things are (a se less marriage?). What do you actually mean?

I mean that I have no desire for him at all even though he is literally tall, dark and handsome and successful. I imagine if I divorce I would regain my libido. I don't know how other women find desire to have sex with the same person for years. It doesn't feel normal to me. It also doesn't help he looks young for his age and I don't.

I think it’s incredibly common for women to lose desire for their partner after a few years. Sadly it doesn’t matter if he’s still hot. We need variety and I’d venture to say we need it waaaay more than men. We just internalize these struggles and it expresses as low libido. The real problem is boredom.

It hasn't been my experience in two long term relationships. The first lasted 8 years and the sex was great through the very end. The second is my marriage, 12 years and the sex is actually getting better over time.

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Responding to the PP claiming how common it is for women to lose desire for their partner etc.:

It's typical on DCUM for people, women or men, who want out of their particular relationship to generalize that "it's incredibly common for women [or men if the poster is a man] to lose desire" and to say "we need variety" as if they speak for their entire gender, or they have a stack of scientific studies by their side to back them up.

Generalizations here often are the resort of those wanting to justify their individual desire for divorce, desire to cheat, or supposed "need" for that oh so desirable open marriage. Just divorce already, if you're at the "ALL women are like this/ALL men are like this" stage of rationalizing to get what you want.

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Anonymous wrote:The only couple I know where the wife is 5 years older is very happy. People often gossip, because he is very attractive and looks better with age, but she is started to age at at a more rapid rate. They look almost odd next to each other at this point.

How terrible that people gossip about this. Bunch of a-holes.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I had your libidos! I am 3 years older than DH and it's been a constant struggle with him wanting it always and me never. It's only getting worse as I approach 50. He has stopped initiating all together which is unfair but I also understand.

DP, not OP. Kind of a side note, so sorry to OP! But to the PP: Are you already in menopause? I'm asking because I'm wondering if you're still on birth control--? Or have been on it for a long time? I've posted about this before, but hormonal BC - miracle that it is, no doubt! -- can crush libido in some women. And ob/gyns very often do not discuss that aspect of the pill and other hormonal BC. If you've been on it for a long time, that might be part of the "constant struggle" over years. I am NOT saying it's the only reason but it's one thing that I have surprisingly found many women have never been told, or not told clearly enough--that it can suppress libido. Not everyone, but more of us than I think realize it. It absolutely affected my libido for years, once I went off the pill, my libido greatly increased. Nothing to do with age differences (and PP, three years is nothing at all). Just something to consider. (Also, I found it was a myth that "every" woman loses interest in sex at menopause as DCUM likes to claim - menopause was the best thing that ever happened to our sex life, frankly.)

The fact your DH has stopped initiating altogehter should be worrying, yet you sound resigned to it. BC issues aside, Have you and he talked about his no longer initiating and how you and he can work together to restore sex to the marriage? Scheduling sex, using toys or changing up your foreplay, women's testosterone therapy (look it up re: Mayo Clinic), seeing a sex therapist, getting a good physical checkup, most of all being open about how to work on this? You don't have to be resigned to this. It may feel like a huge relief to you for him not to be initiating any more -- but it will affect you both emotionally, eventually. Not criticizing you, OP! Just saying it's concerning if you and he aren't communcating about the issue and aren't coming up with ways to work on it as a couple, together.

Thanks for responding

I went off BC years ago, made no difference. We scheduled sex once a week but then he'd be upset if I wasnt into it which I wasn't but he couldn't handle having a partner who just wanted to make him happy. Which I get but I can't help it. I think I am just not wired for monogamy.

Yes, I know no sex is a problem but I can't make him initiate and frankly I am fine with things. I am not in menopause yet.

I guess I don't know what your secret sauce is. We have a functional marriage but it's not remotely passionate and he's given up. I guess I dream that if I married someone 5-10 years older, he'd be pushing 60 and the lack of sex would be more normal

You say you're not wired for monogamy but also that you're fine with the way things are (a se less marriage?). What do you actually mean?

I mean that I have no desire for him at all even though he is literally tall, dark and handsome and successful. I imagine if I divorce I would regain my libido. I don't know how other women find desire to have sex with the same person for years. It doesn't feel normal to me. It also doesn't help he looks young for his age and I don't.

I think it’s incredibly common for women to lose desire for their partner after a few years. Sadly it doesn’t matter if he’s still hot. We need variety and I’d venture to say we need it waaaay more than men. We just internalize these struggles and it expresses as low libido. The real problem is boredom.

It hasn't been my experience in two long term relationships. The first lasted 8 years and the sex was great through the very end. The second is my marriage, 12 years and the sex is actually getting better over time.

+1

Responding to the PP claiming how common it is for women to lose desire for their partner etc.:

It's typical on DCUM for people, women or men, who want out of their particular relationship to generalize that "it's incredibly common for women [or men if the poster is a man] to lose desire" and to say "we need variety" as if they speak for their entire gender, or they have a stack of scientific studies by their side to back them up.

Generalizations here often are the resort of those wanting to justify their individual desire for divorce, desire to cheat, or supposed "need" for that oh so desirable open marriage. Just divorce already, if you're at the "ALL women are like this/ALL men are like this" stage of rationalizing to get what you want.

I feel the same way as the zero desire for my DH PP. I guess I rationalize this as "normal and common" because if it isn't, then isn't it a sign that my marriage is over? If the alternative is that the norm is for women to maintain strong desire if the marriage is otherwise fine, then there are many of us who shouldn't be married.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 52 and DH is 46. Sometimes I want more and sometimes DH wants more. It has been varying but overall we are pretty happy.

Someone recently commented how tall my son was, pointing to my DH. I did not say anything. A little later DH comes over and gives me a peck on my lips.

That is a ridiculous comment that this person made! Jealous, for sure. I know 6 years is not nothing, but it's also not a huge difference.

And thanks for sharing, good to know and keep rocking it.
-OP

Six years IS nothing but…

A young 46 could pass for 40. An old 52 could pass for 60.

This goes for either gender.

I think men mainly attribute "motherly" look to women based on their weight. Men can't generally infer women's age by her face: if a 52 y.o. woman looks old to me as a female, but is thin, my husband would still think she's 35. To the opposite, if she's young (40 y.o.) but heavy, he would think she's 60 y.o.

I am very thin 42 y.o. and when I go out with my 18 y.o. son, waiters often ask if we need one check or separate:0)

wow, classic DCUM, way to hijack a thread and brag about yourself.

(and no, I guarantee you don't look your son's age. Waiters just do that because they know it gets them a nice tip from old people like you.)

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Anonymous wrote:Every person is so different. But turning to this board, you are most likely to get negative stories, because people on this forum generally have a gripes. Are you worried about your DH becoming less functional, or are you worried about yourself losing your drive? On average it seems like women’s drive decreases during menopause but it’s complex and I know several women who are the opposite of that and who have really great sex lives in their 50s. I wouldn’t worry about how other people are doing, if you have a good solid sex life now, then just keep it up.

From hearing other women’s stories, I think the main driver of women’s decreased sex drive is their decreased interest in their husbands and their insecurity about their bodies. Versus a purely physiological age related thing.

This just isn't true sadly. Stop blaming women for something that happens naturally. There is a purely physiological age related thing, and it is complex. It doesn't hit everyone, but it happens to up to 45% of women who do not risk hormone replacement therapy, even those who previously had a high libido, enjoy sex, and still find their partners attractive. We're not just talking about libido either -- we talking pain and shredding of tissues with penetration. It's a thing. https://www.menopause.org/for-women/sexual-health-menopause-online/sexual-problems-at-midlife/pain-with-penetration

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No man wants a older woman.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I had your libidos! I am 3 years older than DH and it's been a constant struggle with him wanting it always and me never. It's only getting worse as I approach 50. He has stopped initiating all together which is unfair but I also understand.

DP, not OP. Kind of a side note, so sorry to OP! But to the PP: Are you already in menopause? I'm asking because I'm wondering if you're still on birth control--? Or have been on it for a long time? I've posted about this before, but hormonal BC - miracle that it is, no doubt! -- can crush libido in some women. And ob/gyns very often do not discuss that aspect of the pill and other hormonal BC. If you've been on it for a long time, that might be part of the "constant struggle" over years. I am NOT saying it's the only reason but it's one thing that I have surprisingly found many women have never been told, or not told clearly enough--that it can suppress libido. Not everyone, but more of us than I think realize it. It absolutely affected my libido for years, once I went off the pill, my libido greatly increased. Nothing to do with age differences (and PP, three years is nothing at all). Just something to consider. (Also, I found it was a myth that "every" woman loses interest in sex at menopause as DCUM likes to claim - menopause was the best thing that ever happened to our sex life, frankly.)

The fact your DH has stopped initiating altogehter should be worrying, yet you sound resigned to it. BC issues aside, Have you and he talked about his no longer initiating and how you and he can work together to restore sex to the marriage? Scheduling sex, using toys or changing up your foreplay, women's testosterone therapy (look it up re: Mayo Clinic), seeing a sex therapist, getting a good physical checkup, most of all being open about how to work on this? You don't have to be resigned to this. It may feel like a huge relief to you for him not to be initiating any more -- but it will affect you both emotionally, eventually. Not criticizing you, OP! Just saying it's concerning if you and he aren't communcating about the issue and aren't coming up with ways to work on it as a couple, together.

Thanks for responding

I went off BC years ago, made no difference. We scheduled sex once a week but then he'd be upset if I wasnt into it which I wasn't but he couldn't handle having a partner who just wanted to make him happy. Which I get but I can't help it. I think I am just not wired for monogamy.

Yes, I know no sex is a problem but I can't make him initiate and frankly I am fine with things. I am not in menopause yet.

I guess I don't know what your secret sauce is. We have a functional marriage but it's not remotely passionate and he's given up. I guess I dream that if I married someone 5-10 years older, he'd be pushing 60 and the lack of sex would be more normal

You say you're not wired for monogamy but also that you're fine with the way things are (a se less marriage?). What do you actually mean?

I mean that I have no desire for him at all even though he is literally tall, dark and handsome and successful. I imagine if I divorce I would regain my libido. I don't know how other women find desire to have sex with the same person for years. It doesn't feel normal to me. It also doesn't help he looks young for his age and I don't.

I think it’s incredibly common for women to lose desire for their partner after a few years. Sadly it doesn’t matter if he’s still hot. We need variety and I’d venture to say we need it waaaay more than men. We just internalize these struggles and it expresses as low libido. The real problem is boredom.

Agree. Agree. Agree. I am pretty satisfied with my life EXCEPT that I really don't desire my husband. Bored and grossed out.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 52 and DH is 46. Sometimes I want more and sometimes DH wants more. It has been varying but overall we are pretty happy.

Someone recently commented how tall my son was, pointing to my DH. I did not say anything. A little later DH comes over and gives me a peck on my lips.

That is a ridiculous comment that this person made! Jealous, for sure. I know 6 years is not nothing, but it's also not a huge difference.

And thanks for sharing, good to know and keep rocking it.
-OP

I get this more than a few times so I am used to it. Another time is when we were taking the airport shuttle and both DH and I were picking up our bags which are a bit heavy and one person told DH to "help your mom get the bag".

Wow, does your DH look much younger than his age? I am much smaller physically than DH so this has never happened (yet?).

DH does look way younger than his age. When he got a ticket for speeding (about a decade back) and went to court, the judge asked what his GPA was, thinking he must be a student. He is very fit and has a lean athelatic body whereas I have a more thick/curvy body.

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Anonymous wrote:No man wants a older woman.

Tell that to my 35 year old lover. Some men do like older women. We're fantastic in bed and I'm still fit and beautiful.

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Anonymous wrote:I am 52 and DH is 46. Sometimes I want more and sometimes DH wants more. It has been varying but overall we are pretty happy.

Someone recently commented how tall my son was, pointing to my DH. I did not say anything. A little later DH comes over and gives me a peck on my lips.

That is a ridiculous comment that this person made! Jealous, for sure. I know 6 years is not nothing, but it's also not a huge difference.

And thanks for sharing, good to know and keep rocking it.
-OP

I get this more than a few times so I am used to it. Another time is when we were taking the airport shuttle and both DH and I were picking up our bags which are a bit heavy and one person told DH to "help your mom get the bag".

Wow, does your DH look much younger than his age? I am much smaller physically than DH so this has never happened (yet?).

DH does look way younger than his age. When he got a ticket for speeding (about a decade back) and went to court, the judge asked what his GPA was, thinking he must be a student. He is very fit and has a lean athelatic body whereas I have a more thick/curvy body.

Whenever someone refers DH as my son, he usually gives me a deep kiss just to freak them out. He gets a kick out of that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No man wants a older woman.

I disagree as someone who was at one point attracted to my MIL. I love older women. I am 41 but now 20 something women just don't do it for me.

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Anonymous wrote:No man wants a older woman.

Tell that to my 35 year old lover. Some men do like older women. We're fantastic in bed and I'm still fit and beautiful.

Guys who lack the swag to date someone their own age.. Half a step up from incels.