MIL is driving me insane

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol she sounds terrible. Don’t listen to the trolls defending her. Post more that she says

We were all at a restaurant last year. MIL is sitting in between my daughter, who was 4 at the time, and my nephew, who was then 8. My daughter was being a little hyper and my nephew said “wow she’s crazy!” MIL said to him, “You’ll find women will be crazy throughout your life and do unpredictable things. But never grandma. Grandma will always be there for you.” He just stared at her, confused.

[Anonymous]

Here’s another one: MIL and FIL are flying out on Sunday. DH has to leave for a work trip then too. They’re all going to the airport together. DH is leaving fairly close to his flight because he has Clear and usually gets through security fast. MIL said, “Our flight is later than his, so we’ll wait at the airport. I don’t care if he’s late for his flight. We’ll make our flight regardless.”

I wish I was making this stuff up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is purely a vent. Thank the lord she’ll be leaving on Sunday.

Just the latest example of how she makes everything about her: we are looking to adopt a puppy. We found out we can move to the next step in the adoption process and are excited. It would be a lab puppy. Her response? “Oh you know I don’t like those big dogs. (BIL) has those two goldens and I hate it. Well, if I don’t like your dog, I just won’t visit.”

I wanted to just say, “great, then don’t visit!”

Maybe I should have said that.

You should have said, "Oh, dear, didn't you hear me when I said we are now getting his litter mate"?

I used to watch "Everybody Loves Raymond' and wondered if any real life person had a MIL like Marie and, if so, kill her. It would be justifiable homicide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol she sounds terrible. Don’t listen to the trolls defending her. Post more that she says

We were all at a restaurant last year. MIL is sitting in between my daughter, who was 4 at the time, and my nephew, who was then 8. My daughter was being a little hyper and my nephew said “wow she’s crazy!” MIL said to him, “You’ll find women will be crazy throughout your life and do unpredictable things. But never grandma. Grandma will always be there for you.” He just stared at her, confused.

This made me laugh and I would have burst out laughing when she said this!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is purely a vent. Thank the lord she’ll be leaving on Sunday.

Just the latest example of how she makes everything about her: we are looking to adopt a puppy. We found out we can move to the next step in the adoption process and are excited. It would be a lab puppy. Her response? “Oh you know I don’t like those big dogs. (BIL) has those two goldens and I hate it. Well, if I don’t like your dog, I just won’t visit.”

I wanted to just say, “great, then don’t visit!”

Maybe I should have said that.

You have a very low threshold for 'driving someone insane' She is just making conversation. You are making a mountain out of a molehill

I could go ahead and list easily two dozen more examples. She has an incredible ability to make everything into a pity party about her.

oh yes the terrible MIL. That is so new! Trust me, you will drive your kids' spouse crazy too!

Well, one thing I won’t do is complain to my son about his unavoidable travel during my visit, saying “I forget you even live in this house. I can’t depend on you for anything.”

I am sure you will do something to drive your DIL crazy.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is purely a vent. Thank the lord she’ll be leaving on Sunday.

Just the latest example of how she makes everything about her: we are looking to adopt a puppy. We found out we can move to the next step in the adoption process and are excited. It would be a lab puppy. Her response? “Oh you know I don’t like those big dogs. (BIL) has those two goldens and I hate it. Well, if I don’t like your dog, I just won’t visit.”

I wanted to just say, “great, then don’t visit!”

Maybe I should have said that.

You have a very low threshold for 'driving someone insane' She is just making conversation. You are making a mountain out of a molehill

I could go ahead and list easily two dozen more examples. She has an incredible ability to make everything into a pity party about her.

oh yes the terrible MIL. That is so new! Trust me, you will drive your kids' spouse crazy too!

Well, one thing I won’t do is complain to my son about his unavoidable travel during my visit, saying “I forget you even live in this house. I can’t depend on you for anything.”

I am sure you will do something to drive your DIL crazy.

I’m sure I will, but my MIL gives me a lot of opportunities to learn what not to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is purely a vent. Thank the lord she’ll be leaving on Sunday.

Just the latest example of how she makes everything about her: we are looking to adopt a puppy. We found out we can move to the next step in the adoption process and are excited. It would be a lab puppy. Her response? “Oh you know I don’t like those big dogs. (BIL) has those two goldens and I hate it. Well, if I don’t like your dog, I just won’t visit.”

I wanted to just say, “great, then don’t visit!”

Maybe I should have said that.

You should have said, "Oh, dear, didn't you hear me when I said we are now getting his litter mate"?

I used to watch "Everybody Loves Raymond' and wondered if any real life person had a MIL like Marie and, if so, kill her. It would be justifiable homicide.

OMG, yes, we get it: Marie Barone. You bring up a dated sitcom ALL THE TIME on this forum. Get new material.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is purely a vent. Thank the lord she’ll be leaving on Sunday.

Just the latest example of how she makes everything about her: we are looking to adopt a puppy. We found out we can move to the next step in the adoption process and are excited. It would be a lab puppy. Her response? “Oh you know I don’t like those big dogs. (BIL) has those two goldens and I hate it. Well, if I don’t like your dog, I just won’t visit.”

I wanted to just say, “great, then don’t visit!”

Maybe I should have said that.

You have a very low threshold for 'driving someone insane' She is just making conversation. You are making a mountain out of a molehill

I could go ahead and list easily two dozen more examples. She has an incredible ability to make everything into a pity party about her.

Yeah my MIL yammers on all the time and makes dumb comments but now I just ignore here and say oh yeah a lot.

PREACH. Same. My MIL is mostly harmless but can't seem to stand silence so feels the need to fill it.

[Anonymous]

lol! I love this thread. My MIL is a misogynist and a racist and is well aware (because I told her) that I will send her to a hotel if she spews her hate in my house. My husband always drops her off at the airport and comes home amazed at the horrible things she says in the car on the way. It's like she just can't hold it in anymore. I don't know why she thinks it's ok to say it in front of him! He married me! She's a piece of work.

[Anonymous]

I usually look with a jaundiced eye at some of the MIL hate threads, but it's just wrong for this MIL to crap on the parade of her son's family looking forward to having a dog in their life that they will all love. COME ON,MIL.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is purely a vent. Thank the lord she’ll be leaving on Sunday.

Just the latest example of how she makes everything about her: we are looking to adopt a puppy. We found out we can move to the next step in the adoption process and are excited. It would be a lab puppy. Her response? “Oh you know I don’t like those big dogs. (BIL) has those two goldens and I hate it. Well, if I don’t like your dog, I just won’t visit.”

I wanted to just say, “great, then don’t visit!”

Maybe I should have said that.

You should have said, "Oh, dear, didn't you hear me when I said we are now getting his litter mate"?

I used to watch "Everybody Loves Raymond' and wondered if any real life person had a MIL like Marie and, if so, kill her. It would be justifiable homicide.

OMG, yes, we get it: Marie Barone. You bring up a dated sitcom ALL THE TIME on this forum. Get new material.

First time I've brought it up. But I will bring it up anytime someone has MIL problems.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is the reason your son is as awesome as he is. Some of you DILs really kill me with your whining and intolerance. Show some respect.

I'm not defending MIL behavior, that's an individual and personal thing, but it is really ridiculous on here how DILs can't seem to stop.

You are taking this very seriously. I can't say I would begrudge someone wanting a pet and I wouldn't then try to control them by saying I won't visit them if they get it. Would you not visit your child if they bought something you didn't like? I would say in this case the MIL is whining and intolerant and I would say her reaction to someone getting a pet is ridiculous. A simpler solution would be if she is scared of the dog, it can go outside or in another room while she visits or she stays in a hotel or she doesn't have to visit, no one is forcing her to do anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is purely a vent. Thank the lord she’ll be leaving on Sunday.

Just the latest example of how she makes everything about her: we are looking to adopt a puppy. We found out we can move to the next step in the adoption process and are excited. It would be a lab puppy. Her response? “Oh you know I don’t like those big dogs. (BIL) has those two goldens and I hate it. Well, if I don’t like your dog, I just won’t visit.”

I wanted to just say, “great, then don’t visit!”

Maybe I should have said that.

You have a very low threshold for 'driving someone insane' She is just making conversation. You are making a mountain out of a molehill

I could go ahead and list easily two dozen more examples. She has an incredible ability to make everything into a pity party about her.

Yeah my MIL yammers on all the time and makes dumb comments but now I just ignore here and say oh yeah a lot.

Haha, exactly this. Smile and nod. Say, "That must have been exciting/hard/confusing to you."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My theory on MILs is that they may be just lovely people...until they get around their DIL and then the worst comes out.

Mine is legit nuts. She has her good qualities -- after I enforced an important boundary 20 years ago she learned not to push me on things. She cares about my opinion. We have affection for each other. But we don't have a single thing in common except caring about my kids, and sometimes her weird little girl persona comes and I just have to shrug with the kids later and be like, yeah, you're right, she IS a little crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is purely a vent. Thank the lord she’ll be leaving on Sunday.

Just the latest example of how she makes everything about her: we are looking to adopt a puppy. We found out we can move to the next step in the adoption process and are excited. It would be a lab puppy. Her response? “Oh you know I don’t like those big dogs. (BIL) has those two goldens and I hate it. Well, if I don’t like your dog, I just won’t visit.”

I wanted to just say, “great, then don’t visit!”

Maybe I should have said that.

You have a very low threshold for 'driving someone insane' She is just making conversation. You are making a mountain out of a molehill

I could go ahead and list easily two dozen more examples. She has an incredible ability to make everything into a pity party about her.

My mom “just makes conversation” like this. It’s negative, draining, and relentless. If anyone calls her out or reacts she’s all “what? I can’t express my opinion?”. It’s a non-subtle form of gaslighting that makes us not want to be around her, and that makes me sad.